Years ago my friends mom was really crazy do you think she's fine now?!
Question: Years ago my friends mom was really crazy do you think she's fine now!?
Im fourteen and about 4 or 5 years ago i had this friend whos mom thought that her ex husband was trying to take over her things!.I spent the night once and while i was their me and him were playing xbox and it started acting up!.He told his mom and she took the controller and started mashing buttons and thought that she was somehow kicking her ex out of the xbox this continued with many things!.My family also had thoughts of her poisening my sister with her food because after she ate the food a few hours later she was throwing up black stuff!.I realize now that his mom probably had schizophrenia but i feel guilty about not knowing that and doing anything back than!.What do you think about this i want to know someone elses opinion about this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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If you're 14-yrs old now, you were only 9 or 10 when this was going on before!. How could you possibly understand what was happening with the mental health of someone when you were 9 or 10-yrs old!?
There are people much older than you who don't know much about mental illness or how it affects people!. And yet you want to feel guilty about not knowing that your friend's mom was mentally ill when you were only 9 or 10-yrs old!? Why would you want to do that to yourself!?
OK - let's say you DID know back then, when you were 9 or 10-yrs old!. What could/would you have done about your friend's mother being mentally ill!? Do you really think you could have done something to help her!? Like what!? You probably couldn't have gotten her any psychiatric help!. Who would have believed you ~ as young as you were ~ making accusations against an older woman who was raising a child your own age!? No one would have listened to you!.
You don't have ANY reason to feel badly about anything; you did the best you could at the time with what you knew!. The fact that you know more about mental illness now is to your credit, but you can't blame yourself for not knowing it when you were younger!. Stop blaming yourself; you're not responsible for her mental illness!.
If she really is better now, be thankful that she finally got the help she needed and was able to get back to being well again!. Unless she wants to talk to you about what happened in the past ~ or your friend wants to talk to you about it ~ there's no reason to even mention it again!. Let what's in the past stay in the past, and just move forward into the future!.
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There are people much older than you who don't know much about mental illness or how it affects people!. And yet you want to feel guilty about not knowing that your friend's mom was mentally ill when you were only 9 or 10-yrs old!? Why would you want to do that to yourself!?
OK - let's say you DID know back then, when you were 9 or 10-yrs old!. What could/would you have done about your friend's mother being mentally ill!? Do you really think you could have done something to help her!? Like what!? You probably couldn't have gotten her any psychiatric help!. Who would have believed you ~ as young as you were ~ making accusations against an older woman who was raising a child your own age!? No one would have listened to you!.
You don't have ANY reason to feel badly about anything; you did the best you could at the time with what you knew!. The fact that you know more about mental illness now is to your credit, but you can't blame yourself for not knowing it when you were younger!. Stop blaming yourself; you're not responsible for her mental illness!.
If she really is better now, be thankful that she finally got the help she needed and was able to get back to being well again!. Unless she wants to talk to you about what happened in the past ~ or your friend wants to talk to you about it ~ there's no reason to even mention it again!. Let what's in the past stay in the past, and just move forward into the future!.
MinPinWww@Answer-Health@Com
Why don't you go see for yourself!? You seem to be worried about her and your friend so go check it out!. You seem to be a thoughtful person and considerate of others so now that you are older you may make a difference in her life reaching out to her!. People who are dx with a mental illness often feel alone and that no one cares about them!. Kind words from a young man could brighten her day and yours!. Go for it!. The worst that could happen is she could be off her medication and then your friend could use the help!. I hope you will think more about her today and put your fear of what happened years ago behind you!.
Have a great day !Www@Answer-Health@Com
Have a great day !Www@Answer-Health@Com