Sex drive, opposites?!


Question: Sex drive, opposites!?
My husband is 25 and has no sex drive at all!. He tried Viagra, but it doesn't give him the urge!.

Ironically, he has bipolar and is on all sorts of meds and I am also seeing a behavioral health specialist!. I have some sort of mood disorder, possibly bipolar as well!.

Now, I understand that he is on a lot of medications and it's not his fault!. My sex drive is very high at age 27, but it
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Viagra doesn't give a man a sex drive!. If he already has a sex drive and is unable to get an erection -it allows him to get/hold an erection!. "All sorts of meds" [for bi polar] - there is his problem!. Those type of psychotropic medications are deadly to libido and/or performance!.
Libido is a hormone initiated "drive"!. "Drive" is a good word for it!. It may go against your upbringing but you need to relieve that unfulfilled drive occasionally and the best way (short of the natural way) is masturbation!. If you have a religious prohibition against that you may need to reorient your thinking and recognize that the same action with different intentions has different culpability!. If a person uses masturbation to enhance/aggravate a healthy sex life - it would be considered an abuse of the natural drive!. If a person uses it to "mentally/spiritually" commit adultery - that would be an abuse of one's sexuality!. If one uses it to relieve normal hormonally driven urges (without entertaining adulterous thoughts) - then it would be no more sinful than, for example, going into a closet and screaming to relieve frustration/stress rather than yelling at their kids!. It would not, however, be improper to mentally fantasize about one's own spouse during these episodes!. It could also be done in the presence of, or in cooperation with ones spouse, and the visual stimulus may enhance the partner's drive, if it is not upsetting to the spouse or make the spouse feel inadequate!. The culpability for "therapeutic" masturbation would be minimal (if it doesn't include adulterous thoughts) as it could be balanced against the unfulfilled urge that may encourage adulterous acts!. (The "lesser of two evils")!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

How about if the two of you buy some "toys" and enjoy them together!? He wouldn't have to be in the mood in order for those to work!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Even though he doesn't feel like having sex, you two can still have intimacy!. The reason the rejection hurts is because the irrational part of your brain feels like the rejection means he doesn't love you or want you!. Being intimate on an emotional level, rather than a physical level, can help tackle some of your insecurities!. Have romantic dates, tell each other how you feel, hug, kiss, and cuddle!.

You might have an increased sex drive because of your bi-polar, which could be helped by medication!. You know more about this than I do, but could your husband switch to a medication that might not affect his sex drive so much!?

If all else fails, maybe he can compromise with you!. He can pleasure you sexually even when he doesn't want you to reciprocate!. Or he can watch you masturbate!. That can be very stimulating and might even jumpstart his sex drive!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

knowing doesnt help much when your needs arent being met and you are feeling depressed!. i struggle with this too!. my drive after sexual abuse is through the roof and my wife has almost none!. thankfully my medicine seems to have kind of killed my drive down, that and accepting that this is how it is going to be!. i allow myself other outlets such as masturbation and i take what i can get as far as sex goes!. it isnt a perfect solution, but sometimes we can't change our partners!. all we can do is deal with what we have if we want this relationship!. i weighed the goods and bads, and decided my family was more important than more sex!. i try to adapt and live the best i can, knowing i am exactly where i choose to be, and reminding myself of why i made that choice!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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