I am so scared..My b/f lost his mom, lost his mind and went into rehab..?!
Question: I am so scared!.!.My b/f lost his mom, lost his mind and went into rehab!.!.!?
Our communication is zero!. He told me he would make things right the day he went in, but there had already been a month of non communication!. We lived together 3 yrs and had a good relationship, his Mother's illness took it's toll, we were her caretakers!. Now, he has called other people to come see him in rehab but not me!.!. i didn't make him take drugs! I will probably lose my home since it is based on both of our incomes, our pets are distraught, his things are here!. I think he is trying to let go of his past and I am the last true link, his family is all gone but me!. He is literally calling people who barely know him! It is devestating me!.!.!. what can I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Elle, I am so sorry to see you in this situation!. And with the love of your life in such a quandry, it cannot be easy for what you are dealing with!. AND!.!.!.your B/F is ALSO going thru alot as well!. I think you should just give him some time to do the rehab thing, and see (and be) how it goes, and be there for him when he gets his HEAD clear!. I am so sorry that the financial is going to be difficlut for you!. Do you have someone that can help for a little while!?!?Parents, or maybe the church!?!? I am so very sorry for the hurt that you have to be feeling right now!. I wish I could say or DO something to ease your pain, and HIS!. I truly wish there was something I could do!. You DO have people who care about YOU and your Boyfriend, NEVER forget THIS!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
U have to leave him!.!.!.my gf went thru similar and though I was/am devastated 10 tears on she has never been happier!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
What you need to ask yourself is "does this person enrich my life"!? Be brutally honest!. If the answer is no, then I think you know what to do!. If it's about the money - screw it (you can make it on your own)!. If the answer is yes, then you have to understand that this person's perception of the world right now is extremely messed up!. He may be looking at life through the haze of withdrawl and painful loss!. Give him time, and when you feel he may be ready; sit down and ask the question "where do we go from here"!. Regardless of his answer, you have the strength inside you to carry on to be a happy independant woman!. You and he both deserve good things!. My thoughts and prayers go out to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your boyfriend has had a mental breakdown right now he doesn't have the strenth to see or be around direct reminders of his mother!. It is only temporary, medication will help him to calm down and see reality!. By reaching out to those he barely new he is in avoidance of any reminders!.
Try your best to understand and stay calm yourself!. His things are there where you are he will need to face this eventually!. Have patience with him and do your best not to push him he needs space and time to adjust!. I can imagine what you are going through, but, try your best to be strong!. It is only temporary!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try your best to understand and stay calm yourself!. His things are there where you are he will need to face this eventually!. Have patience with him and do your best not to push him he needs space and time to adjust!. I can imagine what you are going through, but, try your best to be strong!. It is only temporary!.Www@Answer-Health@Com