So overwhelmed, I feel I could jump off a bridge and die! Please help!?!
Question: So overwhelmed, I feel I could jump off a bridge and die! Please help!!?
About a month ago, I just graduated college, and you would think my life is good, but IT SUCKS!. I feel I can't take it anymore and I wanna put a bullet through my brain!. I have a job but it's not full time!. I'm doin what I can by uploading my resume on job search engines and emailing around anything that comes my way!. I feel that everyones putting alot of pressure on me to have another job rite at this second so I can have health coverage!. My mom says that it's all in my head, and I'm harsh on myself, it takes time!. In reality, no one else is judging me, but feels like otherwise!. I feel like it's a crime for where I work at now--I like the job I have now, I just got promoted, but I still feel wrong about working there!. There's that saying "do what makes you happy" but in my case I can't cause everyone whose younger than me (I'm 24) already has an apartment and is getting married making 50,000 dollars a year!. THAT SHOULD BE ME!!! So I just know that I really f*8k'd up my life!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I think you have a distorted understanding about the importance of money and status, and that is the root of your depression!.
Your mum and others are right!. Relax and be happy because you are in a job you enjoy!. The persuit of money for money's sake will make you miserable, and that's why you are miserable!. Constantly comparing yourself to others will make you miserable, and that's why you are miserable!.
I don't think it's the job that is the problem - even if you did get a bigger and better job, it would just bring with it a new set of ppl to compare yourself with, and thoughts you should be earning more still!. You need to find out the root cause of why you think like this about jobs and status being important and then set yourself free from that!.
Sorry I just read this and it sounds really blunt, sorry I do mean it nicely lol!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your mum and others are right!. Relax and be happy because you are in a job you enjoy!. The persuit of money for money's sake will make you miserable, and that's why you are miserable!. Constantly comparing yourself to others will make you miserable, and that's why you are miserable!.
I don't think it's the job that is the problem - even if you did get a bigger and better job, it would just bring with it a new set of ppl to compare yourself with, and thoughts you should be earning more still!. You need to find out the root cause of why you think like this about jobs and status being important and then set yourself free from that!.
Sorry I just read this and it sounds really blunt, sorry I do mean it nicely lol!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Breathe!.!.!.and I think the whole everyone has a perfect life but me routine has got to stop!. You are 24 not 16!.
You have graduated from college and have a job good for you who cares what everyone else thinks!!!!! Just do what you want to do and be happy!!! Things take time don't rush it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have graduated from college and have a job good for you who cares what everyone else thinks!!!!! Just do what you want to do and be happy!!! Things take time don't rush it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe you need to change your medication!. It sounds like you may not be on the right one!. Talk Therapy could also be of help!.Don't do anything to harm yourself please, things do have a way of working out!. Email me if you would like to talk with someone!. I have suffered from Depression and i was on meds!. I am now free from both but it was a long road!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are being too harsh on yourself!. I know only a couple of people thier 20's that are making a good living!. Many people I know are barely getting by, even those that went to college and that have jobs!.
I sometimes feel similar feelings!. I sometimes feel hopeless about things, but I know that sometimes things don't change overnight and you must be patient!.
I had a job I both loved and hated for a long time and now I regret having stayed in it as long as I did, because I kept telling myself I should move on to something better, but I kept hesitating for various reasons!. I did a lot of soul searching and spent a lot of time thinking about what would be best for me personally and I eventually took some classes and got a completly different job that is light years better than where I was!. I'm not saying that's what will work for you, but my advice is that you continue to communicate w/your doctor and friends and family!. Take some time to think about things and don't allow yourself to feel pressured by anything!. Just do what is best for YOU and take care of yourself!.
Also - from personal experience - online job search sites didn't help me find my job!. I had a career counsellor from my school act as a kind of 'headhunter' help me find it!. She gave me a lot of great advice and tips!.
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
I sometimes feel similar feelings!. I sometimes feel hopeless about things, but I know that sometimes things don't change overnight and you must be patient!.
I had a job I both loved and hated for a long time and now I regret having stayed in it as long as I did, because I kept telling myself I should move on to something better, but I kept hesitating for various reasons!. I did a lot of soul searching and spent a lot of time thinking about what would be best for me personally and I eventually took some classes and got a completly different job that is light years better than where I was!. I'm not saying that's what will work for you, but my advice is that you continue to communicate w/your doctor and friends and family!. Take some time to think about things and don't allow yourself to feel pressured by anything!. Just do what is best for YOU and take care of yourself!.
Also - from personal experience - online job search sites didn't help me find my job!. I had a career counsellor from my school act as a kind of 'headhunter' help me find it!. She gave me a lot of great advice and tips!.
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Did you read the news Friday (6/6/08)!?
Unemployment is at an all time high!
In fact the whole stock market tanked on Friday, big time, because of the news about the jump in unemployment!.
"American Employers Shed 49000 Jobs in May as the Unemployment Rate !.!.!.
ABC News - Jun 6, 2008
WASHINGTON (AP) -- The US unemployment rate jumped to 5!.5 percent in May -- the biggest monthly rise since 1986 -- as nervous employers cut 49000 jobs!. !.!.!."
and you are trying to find a job, along with those 49,000 other people who just lost their job!.
You might want to go to graduate school, get more education, and think of that as your 'job'!.
I don't know, because I know the student loan thing is enormous, and it is a heavy burden on many college students!.
It does SUCK! But hang in there, it is hard for lots of people right now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Unemployment is at an all time high!
In fact the whole stock market tanked on Friday, big time, because of the news about the jump in unemployment!.
"American Employers Shed 49000 Jobs in May as the Unemployment Rate !.!.!.
ABC News - Jun 6, 2008
WASHINGTON (AP) -- The US unemployment rate jumped to 5!.5 percent in May -- the biggest monthly rise since 1986 -- as nervous employers cut 49000 jobs!. !.!.!."
and you are trying to find a job, along with those 49,000 other people who just lost their job!.
You might want to go to graduate school, get more education, and think of that as your 'job'!.
I don't know, because I know the student loan thing is enormous, and it is a heavy burden on many college students!.
It does SUCK! But hang in there, it is hard for lots of people right now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Stop being selfish, your thinking only for yourself!. If you were to die think of what would happen to your loved ones and how they would feel!. A lot worse than you that's for sure!. Plus you've only got one life and there is no god, god was just a concept people came up with before they were able to prove certain things!. In other words they needed an excuse or an answer to what happens / how whatever happened!.Www@Answer-Health@Com