Would you ever put your own daughter into a mental home?!


Question: Would you ever put your own daughter into a mental home!?
I'm twenty and I have a three-year-old son!. My sister is fifteen years old, I am basically she only parent figure she has!. Our Dad passed away years ago and our Mother is a pathetic excuse of one!. I've always been really close with my sister and I've looked after her ever since we were both young!. When she was 13 I started noticing her acting differently!. One day I saw track marks on her arms, it was a sign that there was really something wrong!. I'd gone through being a heroin addict myself and I didn't want her to go through the same!. Since then she's had different doctors, counselors and medication!. Nothing has worked and the doctors don't know what to do!. It's been suggested we put her into a mental ward for however long it takes!. At the moment we're lost - she is extremely emotional and won't talk to anyone!. It's at a point where we're scared to let her out of our sight because she will harm herself!. She's had many suicide attempts and I know she would do it again!. I've postedWww@Answer-Health@Com


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I think you already know it is time to go residential for her welfare!. If you have been through recovery yourself you know that sometimes you need to go inpatient or residential to take a time out on life and focus only on getting better!. There are some really nice places that are residential!. Take a tour of some places and get her on the waiting list if there is one!.

There is only so much you can do for her no matter how much you love her!. Don't let her illness take you away from your son!.

I would also recommend going to an al-anon meeting if you haven't already!. There are a lot of really great moms, aunts, sisters, husbands and wifes going through the same thing that you are!. It is hard to face that you are not in control of the other person and you can't keep them from self destructing!. You can keep yourself from self destructing!.

Say the serenity prayer, find a place you think your sister can stay for awhile and get help and tell your sister you love her!.

Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

What an awful decision for you to have to make!.
I think that her safety should be the most important thing so perhaps, just for now, she needs to be somewhere safe!. If nothing else you'd be able to sleep at night!. It doesn't have to be a long term thing, just until she feels better!.
I hope things work out for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Wow very close to my heart this question!.!.!.

You need to do what is right!.!.!.phone them and have them come and get her!.

She will thank you for it soon enough when she has children of her own!.!.!.if you don't she will end up dead!.
You will never live with with the guilt if she does!.!.!.please call them she needs help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes I would put her in, this may be the very thing that she needs to see her through this difficult period of her life, yes you will feel bad about doing it but if it leads to a better future she will thank you in the end!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I'm thinking of you and if it were my sister or daughter i wouldn't no what to do but if you have tried everything else and it hasn't worked then why not give it a try it could be the one thing that works good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com

take her to the nearest ER now!!! She needs to be checked in asap!.!.!.!.

do not wait any longer, i went thru this myself and this will only help her!. do not listen to what she may say to you!. take her and dont let her out of your site!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Hi there!.

that sounds like a really difficult position to be in!.
If i was you, i would put her into the mental home!.!.maybe its er only chance!.
but be aware that she will only come off the drugs if SHE wants too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes, I would follow the doctors advice and put her in the hospital!. It's called tough love!. She needs you to be strong enough to do this and to love her enough to do this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If you want to save her life getting her into hospital may be the only way of doing it!. Best wishesWww@Answer-Health@Com

its simple put her in the ward!. it will be the best for her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

My opinion (if this was my child or sister) is that she'd be going to the hospital!. She may hate me for a while but I feel that in the end she will be grateful that I cared enough to get her the help she needed!.

The hospital isn't that bad!.!.!.it's horrible being told what to do all the time but it isn't like prison where you are stuck in a small cell (maybe with a roommate) with nothing to do except for that hour outside!. You can wander around the hall, watch tv, color, call someone, play cards and even go outside!.!.!.besides just staying in bed!.

But really my advice would be to put her in!. Think about how much it would hurt if she did kill herself and then judge that to the length of time you think she'll hate you!.!.!.death isn't worth it even if it ends with her despising you!.!.!.you saved her life and one day she might see that and forgive you!.!.but if she's dead she can't forgive you!.

Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com

if doctors and councilers didnt seem to help!. i would suggest trying a behavioral health center, but if drugs are the problem she needs rehab!. these places allow her to meet people with the same problems!. she can realize shes not alone and there is help that WORKS out there!. it may seem like a cliche but talking does help especially when the people you are talking to have experienced the same thingWww@Answer-Health@Com

she definatly need to get some help!.!.!. she could be a real danger to you, your son and of course, herself!. you will be doing this because you care for her and want her to live!.!.!. she might blame you if you dont help her!.!.!. she will thank you later when shes older for this!.!. people like that should always have extra care taken for themselves!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I hope I would do everything possible to protect, safeguard and ensure my daughter/son got the best possible treatment for her illness even if it meant going against her short term wishes!. Mental hospitals are HOSPITALS with most staff dedicated to helping their patients!. Monitor her progress both in the hospital and outside !. he needs your active continuous support AND care to deal with her illnessWww@Answer-Health@Com

I did put my daughter in a home for people with mental health problems!. It was a 2 year program!. Yes, she struggled, but there she learned life-lessons that have brought her out of where she was (incapable of caring for herself in the world, sometimes suicidal, a victim of crime, "wimpy" in how she came across to others)
Yes, I cried, but I also went to see her every week, watched her grow and heal and learn to care for herself!. She participated in therapy learning and progressing!. The more she progressed, the more my fears were diminished!.

Your sister is 15!. You need to act fast!. Because once she turns 18, you will have no say in how she lives her life!. Saving her life is hard on you, but you're there loving her more deeply than she loves herself right now!. And she needs you!.

Consider calling 1-800-NEWLIFE!. Across the US they refer to licensed counselors, experienced in many areas of need!. They also are connected to Rehab facilities for teens!. Even if you don't use their facilities, they can give you some straight answers, which you really need right now!.

If you are unable to find anywhere for your sister to go, do call Social Services in your county - get her into foster care - where she can be court-ordered into treatment!. Yes, it's "tough love"!. But yes, it is the most loving thing you can do for her, because love wants her to live!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Wow she sounds like shes really sad!.!. I dunno this is a tough one!. Maybe you should put her in a mental ward for a little while!? I know that will be tough, but maybe it will talk some sence into her so she wont think about killing herself!.!. I mean what else is there really you can do!? You cant just sit and watch things get worse, right!?
Good luck!!
Im praying for yah guys!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

It would be hard to go and see her in a mental institution but better that than visiting a grave! With the right help she can recover from this and have a good life and future and as the carer of this young girl you have to do what is best for her and if that means getting professional help and her spending some time in a hospital then so be it :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com

Your sister is a very sick girl!. She needs treatment and most probably needs inpatient treatment, which means staying in some type of mental health/chemical dependence facility!. It could save her life!. Please don't think of it as a permanent thing and please don't attach the stigma to this treatment that used to exist many years ago!. It's not shameful for your sister to be a patient in a facility that can help her get well and live a productive life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes if it became apparent that she was a danger to herself and those around her!. Its a hard choice to make but if you dont do it then she is going to eventually either OD or commit a crime to get money for drugs and end up in jail!.

Or worse sell her body to get drugs and have a baby thats hooked on drug!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

sometimes putting someone in a psychiatric unit isnt a bad thing, its a place where they can get help, no ones gonna throw them in a straight jacket or anything like that (only happens on tv)!.!. its not an easy thing to do but im sure one day she will thankyou for it!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you deserve praise for everything you have tried to do what a good person , maybe if you went with her to put your mind at ease ,yes I'm sure it would be upsetting but at least you would see where she is going listen to the man that wrote he has been working in mental care for years , the people there will know how to help your sister its time for you to have a little rest from this stress and no that doesn't make you a bad person i wish you all the best mouse!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

what i think you have to think about at the moment is what is bast for your sister if she is suicidal she needs professonal help just think what life would be like if you lost her for good as apose to seing her in an institute for awhile you will be doing her a favour its like toothache you have two choices put up with the pain hoping it will go or have it pulled and sorted out it hurts for a while longer but it goes after a couple of days can you see what im saying you can either put up with this situation anfd hope it sorts itself out (not) or do something very painfull which will hurt for a while but when she is better it will be ok i have seen this before m y best freinds mum was an alchoholic and became suicidal my friend was the only thing she had got and it tore him appart to have her section he felt he had betrayed her but she came out better and has never looked back beleve me you will be doing the best thing all round it will eventually take its toll on you untill you are depressed and you might give up on her and then what !? my neice wasnt looking after her baby she was scruffy she didnt feed her properly or anything we talked to her and she just fell out with us so we reported her to the welfare i felt bad but once the social services had got involved she turned her life round she got a job moved out of her mums and is thriving now she dosent know it was us who reported her but she has said it did her a favour so iguess what im trying to say is that sometimes the hardest decisions are sometimes the best i hope this helps and good luck and be proud of yourself it sounds as though you have been there and back again and are standing tall keep it do what you know is the best youve done all you can do let the pros do what they do best good luck and take careWww@Answer-Health@Com





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