What could be wrong with him... really?!


Question: What could be wrong with him!.!.!. really!?
My husband used to be physically abusive and threatening to me!. After a trip and about a month in jail we are back together!. Now he isn't physically abusive to me anymore, but I feel that he is being emotionally abusive to me and also mentally abusive!. He says horrible things to me for no good reason at all!. I feel like I walk on eggshells around him, but it does no good!. I really try to keep the peace, but he always criticizes me!. He always brings up the past, even the past before he even knew me!. I really wonder what is wrong with him and if he can ever change!. He is going to therapy but after his sessions, he comes home thinking he knows it all and everything is my fault!. What can I do, do I just give up!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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You and your kids deserve a lot better than this, Tiff!. I really feel for you!. Your situation is very much sounding like a Dr Phil show, sorry to say it! But as Dr Phil says, even if it is not a physically abusive relationship, you are still being abused by your husband!. You need to leave!.
You mention he is going to therapy, are you both going together!?
If you want to leave, there are many organisations that can help you!. The red cross, salvation army, these are in Australia, I'm not sure what they have over there!. It may be tough until you get back up on your feet, but at least you will be free of the abuse!. This man, sorry to say, is a bully!. He has no right to treat you like that and get away with it!.
Please look after number one - you!. Do it for yourself, and those precious kids of yours!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

In this situation, after exhausting all possible alternatives, I honestly believe you should leave your husband!. By all means, do not look at this as 'just giving up'!. This marriage is extremely unhealthy and your life is at risk by staying in it (you should have left him when he physically abused you)!. Mental and Emotional abuse causes long-term chronic stress on your body!. You should not have to feel like you're perpetually walking on egg shells in your own home because of your husband!. Leave for the sake of your own health, and if you have children, do it for their sake as well!. At least give them the assurance that they have one parent who truly cares for their well-being!. Your health is a significant part of their well-being!.

I wish you all the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Why are you still living with him!? This guy is sick, and you do NOT deserve him!. Why are letting him rag on you!? What did you do!?!? You know, I really dont mean to be mean but How sick are you!? Your almost as sick as him, do you really want that!? You need to get OUT of there you do not deserve that!. And dont tell me there is no place to go!. If you have to go back to family, or friends, or they have shelters for women who have been through exactly what your going through!.!. good luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

well dont let it go on like that!. you dont deserve to be treated badly for no reason!. i would have left him the first go around but hey easier said than done!. but if its meant to be things will bring yall back together but your best bet for now is to get away!. :D
good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

don't even try do to any thing you should just leave him and go your own way before some thing bad happens to you because there is nothing you really can do for him at all he wont never change and he will be the same person alwaysWww@Answer-Health@Com

you could try going on a tropical vacation or a cruise!. my sister and i were really abusive to each other and after that vacation, we seemed more relaxed and she seemed more pleasant to be around!. the site we booked our vacation on was ttmtravel!.comWww@Answer-Health@Com

that is no way to live your life and you dont deserve to be living like this!. maybe both of you should see a marrige counsilerWww@Answer-Health@Com

have you went to any of the therapy sessions with him!? maybe that would be a good way for you to talk!.!.!.you would have someone else there to make sure he listens to you and understands how you feel!. i am glad to hear that he is going to therapy!.!.!.!.if he is making an effort to do things like that it means he does care!.!.!.!.even if he has a hard time showing it!.

i know how hard it can be to live with a person like this!. my situation never got better!.!.!.!.and he left before i had to!. but my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!. best of luck to you all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You need to get out of this relationship right away!. Move out if you have to!. This is an environment that no one should have to live in!. You don't deserve this treatment!. If he has hit you once he will do it again even if he hasn't for a while!. Also, the fact that he is abusing you emotionally and verbally is the first sign that he will again physically abuse you!. If you are scared to tell him you want a divorce call a hot line that can help you or even call the police if you are really scared on how he may react!. I'm sure there is somewhere out there that can help you through this, but seriously you need to end this relationship!. You deserve better and don't settle for anything less than you would wish on anyone else!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

There is no way you are going to change your husband!. The best thing you can do is contact a local domestic violence program or shelter and maybe join a support group to learn about abusers!. an advocate can also direct you too a good therapist who may specialize in domestic violence!. Your husband may not be physically abusive right now but abuse is abuse and it does not stop!. It gets worse!. If hes been physically abusive before it will only be a matter of time before it starts again!. You wont be able to help him but you can help yourself!. I won't ell you to leave your husband because I'm sure you love him that's why you're still there!. You will leave when you're ready but you do need some therapy and support!. I know!.!.!. I've been thereWww@Answer-Health@Com





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