I have recently been diagnosed with bipolar ii and I am scared?!
Question: I have recently been diagnosed with bipolar ii and I am scared!?
I would like some genuine advice on the above!. I am very lost and alone!. I live in the States but originally am from England!. I have put my husband and daughter through a lot these last eight years!. It started soon after we were married!. We had a beautiful baby girl and then my husband gave me an ultimatum of either go on the pill or he was having a vasectomy!. It broke my heart as I always wanted another child!. Years later he admitted he did not think the marriage was working and he did not want to bring another child into the world if that was the case!. Since that time I have watched my mother die a horrible death from alcohol, lost several close relatives and basically had a breakdown!. I will always have this guilt of never giving my daughter another sibling!. I remain with my husband as I am in no fit condition to be on my own right now!. I am taking the meds correctly and supplements!. My daughter is very hostile towards me and she has every reason to be!. Please advise!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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With the diagnosis comes a label!. I think we all go, OMG, I have a mental illness, no, not me!. It hits deep inside!. However, the reality is that the illness was there all along, it just was not diagnosed as such!. The diagnosis serves a very important purpose, only one really, to identify proper treatment - mood stabilizers and therapy!. It can take a year or longer for the right combo of stabilzers to be found and all the while therapy can help a lot in learning how to manage the illness, and yes, very much to deal with the prior years of messiness when we didn't know we had this disease influencing our behavior and choices!.
You may need to regain your daughter's trust!. That will likely take some time!. Don't beat yourself up too much about it since doing so will only lend to destabilization and not do you well!. Kids are forgiving and time will heal much!. Just focus on being there peacefully and maintaining appropriate parenting boundaries!. This is another use of a good therapist - how to help reestablish a healthier parental role!.
Your husband has stuck with you for quite a while!. He may well stick by you until you are stable!. He may well realize then that, hey, you are the person he married and worth sticking by for the duration!. Or not!. But, you may have the same feelings for him as well!. Let that be something you deal with when you get there!. For now, concentrate on yourself!.
Once you do stabilizer, life changes a lot for the better!. Hang in there!. Work with your psychiatrist!. Work with a therapist!. Try not to dwell too much on the past!. It is what it is!. Life is going forward!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You may need to regain your daughter's trust!. That will likely take some time!. Don't beat yourself up too much about it since doing so will only lend to destabilization and not do you well!. Kids are forgiving and time will heal much!. Just focus on being there peacefully and maintaining appropriate parenting boundaries!. This is another use of a good therapist - how to help reestablish a healthier parental role!.
Your husband has stuck with you for quite a while!. He may well stick by you until you are stable!. He may well realize then that, hey, you are the person he married and worth sticking by for the duration!. Or not!. But, you may have the same feelings for him as well!. Let that be something you deal with when you get there!. For now, concentrate on yourself!.
Once you do stabilizer, life changes a lot for the better!. Hang in there!. Work with your psychiatrist!. Work with a therapist!. Try not to dwell too much on the past!. It is what it is!. Life is going forward!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like quite a situation, and I'm sorry for it!. I'd suggest looking into calming types of exercises and activities!. Your daughter does not have every reason to be hostile towards you! If she can't understand what is happening and why things are occurring the way they are, then she needs to wake up and smell the reality of your situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hopefully you have a good counselor!. I'm certainly no expert on Bipolar, but I do have a friend that is bipolar and she leads a pretty normal life!. Keep taking your meds regularly and find a good church!. They can be an awesome support!. Lose the guilt!. There are many many happy healthy children in this world whom don't have siblings!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
today IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE REST OF YOUR LIFEWww@Answer-Health@Com
We are always hardest on the ones we love, especially if we can't understand what its like to be in that state!. I am not bi-polar, but I stuffer from bad PTSD, and I know living with me is no picnic sometimes!. How old is your daughter now!? She may be scared and confused herself!. Its good that you are taking your meds correctly and if you feel that they are working, then I am sure your husband and daughter will see the change too!. Its always hard when the ones we love most can't understand what we are going through and go into that self preservation mode where everything is your fault!. It takes time to make that get better!. Maybe if you can bring your daughter to a therapy session with you, if she is old enough, she can understand better!?
As for not giving her a sibling!.!.!. I understand your guilt!. But you did the best you could for your family, with what you had to work with, and you need to look at that too!. You kept your marriage together, and that says something!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As for not giving her a sibling!.!.!. I understand your guilt!. But you did the best you could for your family, with what you had to work with, and you need to look at that too!. You kept your marriage together, and that says something!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
in all honesty i can tell u that beign with ur husban right now doesn't sound very healthy!! i mean i don't know what kind of problems u are having as a marrige but remember that u each of u have to be there thru thick and thin, in health and sickness!! he knows how much u have been thru with ur mom and sibiling and as he's role of a husband he should support u and help u with ur problem!! i think that u need to move away from this guy that seems has no care for u! if u wish to have another child, make sure ur in good health and good financial stability before u think about getting pg! if this man doesn't think the marriege is working, why be together!? ur olny hurting ur self and ur daughter!!
if u have no one here in the US maybe u can go back to England or maybe try to do some activities ur self or get involved in ur daughters school so u can make some friends that way u will have someone to talk to and distract ur self!
being home alone and not having friends can cause deppression!.!.
i hope everything works out!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
if u have no one here in the US maybe u can go back to England or maybe try to do some activities ur self or get involved in ur daughters school so u can make some friends that way u will have someone to talk to and distract ur self!
being home alone and not having friends can cause deppression!.!.
i hope everything works out!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hello,
We all go through a "grieving stage"!. The poor me stage comes, then it goes!. It does raise it's head sometimes!.!.!.!.!.
You have something that is not your fault! Heck I am diagnosed with some REAL colorful things myself, so what!.
This is life, you will get to the point of acceptances!. Your diagnoses is not who you are!.
It also sounds like it runs in your family, from the little bit you wrote there!.
Relationships are hard, and the things you wrote up there everyone may go through diagnosed or not!.
I am diagnosed with a form of schizophrenia (as well as two more mental health conditions) , apparently there are a mild case,a "middle" case, then full fledged!. I am in the middle, joy joy!. I went through the stage of poor me, I went through the stage of blaming everything on it, now at the stage of who cares!. I am the way I am and I still like myself and my quirks!. Life is entertaining and I choose not to be living on there chemicals!. Now I laugh at it!. If I new being crazy was this much fun I wish I had the diognoses a long time ago!
Of course my history with doctors has been the next time I go in something else will be diagnosed!. I take what mental health doctors have to say very lightly, you may or may not want to as well!. Life is just to short!!
I take no responsibility for my rambling, it is part of one of my diagnoses :0)
Wish you well and one day at a time!.
BTW
When a senior citizen I expect to be called the crazy lady!.!.!.!.!.I am working hard for that title!.
Laughter is my way of dealing, though it is a serious matter!.!.!.!.!.heck in a hour I might be ticked off at something!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
We all go through a "grieving stage"!. The poor me stage comes, then it goes!. It does raise it's head sometimes!.!.!.!.!.
You have something that is not your fault! Heck I am diagnosed with some REAL colorful things myself, so what!.
This is life, you will get to the point of acceptances!. Your diagnoses is not who you are!.
It also sounds like it runs in your family, from the little bit you wrote there!.
Relationships are hard, and the things you wrote up there everyone may go through diagnosed or not!.
I am diagnosed with a form of schizophrenia (as well as two more mental health conditions) , apparently there are a mild case,a "middle" case, then full fledged!. I am in the middle, joy joy!. I went through the stage of poor me, I went through the stage of blaming everything on it, now at the stage of who cares!. I am the way I am and I still like myself and my quirks!. Life is entertaining and I choose not to be living on there chemicals!. Now I laugh at it!. If I new being crazy was this much fun I wish I had the diognoses a long time ago!
Of course my history with doctors has been the next time I go in something else will be diagnosed!. I take what mental health doctors have to say very lightly, you may or may not want to as well!. Life is just to short!!
I take no responsibility for my rambling, it is part of one of my diagnoses :0)
Wish you well and one day at a time!.
BTW
When a senior citizen I expect to be called the crazy lady!.!.!.!.!.I am working hard for that title!.
Laughter is my way of dealing, though it is a serious matter!.!.!.!.!.heck in a hour I might be ticked off at something!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am so sorry!.!.!.
I am 17 years old, and was diagnosed with bipolar II over a year ago!. My diagnosis recently changed to bipolar I due to a manic episode!. I am taking four medications and in weekly psychiatric therapy along with having just started the DBT program at the hospital!. I have struggled immensely thanks to this disorder, namely within the last 4 or 5 years!. My behavior is never a constant, and depression and suicidality have haunted me through most of my teenage years!. I have a hostility that I do not welcome in myself but that emerges when my mood is elevated, and delusional psychosis is terrifying as I get into a mania!. I scare the living sh-t out of myself sometimes!. I scare the living sh-t out of other people, too!. But the truth is I cannot change it!. I can try to alleviate some of the symptoms by complying and taking my medication and going to therapy, but I am still who I am!. Seeing yourself as the victimizer or the antagonist will do nothing to further your relationship with your daughter or your husband!. Embrace the fact that you have a disorder that can impair judgement and emotionality and move on with it!. Just be a mom, and just be a wife!. Don't be bad-mom-that-didn't-have-more-kids-becau!.!.!. Be a mom, and be a wife, and be the best of these that you can!. Bipolar does not need to be mentioned in your roles!. You are mom and you are wife!. Other extraneous things are just less significant facts of life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am 17 years old, and was diagnosed with bipolar II over a year ago!. My diagnosis recently changed to bipolar I due to a manic episode!. I am taking four medications and in weekly psychiatric therapy along with having just started the DBT program at the hospital!. I have struggled immensely thanks to this disorder, namely within the last 4 or 5 years!. My behavior is never a constant, and depression and suicidality have haunted me through most of my teenage years!. I have a hostility that I do not welcome in myself but that emerges when my mood is elevated, and delusional psychosis is terrifying as I get into a mania!. I scare the living sh-t out of myself sometimes!. I scare the living sh-t out of other people, too!. But the truth is I cannot change it!. I can try to alleviate some of the symptoms by complying and taking my medication and going to therapy, but I am still who I am!. Seeing yourself as the victimizer or the antagonist will do nothing to further your relationship with your daughter or your husband!. Embrace the fact that you have a disorder that can impair judgement and emotionality and move on with it!. Just be a mom, and just be a wife!. Don't be bad-mom-that-didn't-have-more-kids-becau!.!.!. Be a mom, and be a wife, and be the best of these that you can!. Bipolar does not need to be mentioned in your roles!. You are mom and you are wife!. Other extraneous things are just less significant facts of life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com