I need someones help. Its seriously important?!
Question: I need someones help!. Its seriously important!?
Okay, if your bothering to answer this, i dont want answer telling me what i did in my past was wrong i know!. So then dont bother!. Recently, i stopped eating!. I'm 13!. All my friends are skinnier than me, and the pressure just got to me so i stopped!. Im the only ones of my friends leaving grammer skool without a bf!. i have sooo many friends but they all stopped talking to me when i stopped eating cuz they were mad at me for doing it!. So now im alone!. I like this guy!. More than a crush!. I really love him!. He doesnt like me back!. I gues thats the reason im posting this!. I have been in my room every day crying listenign to sasd music and i just cant deal with it anymore!. Im in love with him!. Please give me advice!. ANYTHING useful to me!. PLeaseWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Firstly, I'm 15, but I was a bulimic from the time I was 8 until last year!. I understand that when it comes between skinny and healthy, you much rather be skinny!. I still feel like that a lot!. No one can change your mind or convince you other wise!. Honestly, everything that happens is in your control!.
Let me explain:
So, this guy doesn't like you!. That SUCKS; I've been there and I know!. You really, really wanted him, cared for him, and even loved him, and he broke your heart!. That was his descision!. Now it's your turn!. You can either choose to continue to exist in sarrow, or you can say,"I loved him, he didn't love me back!. I hate that he didn't like me, but I can't stay miserable!. I might take me time to get over it, but I will!. In the meantime, I'm going to smile and move on!. And one day, I'n going to love a guy that loves me back ,and this will all be a faint memory!."!. It isn't going to be easy, but you'll get over him!.
As for the crying and depression, if you don't want to be like this anymore, then turn things around!. Firstly, turn off the sad music because that will not help!. Find little, simple things that make you smile again!. Find people that do the same!. It's going to take time, but happiness will come if you look for it!.
With you friends, I would talk to them and say (if you are really sincere in saying this), "You're right, I don't eat!. I hate that I'm bigger than you; it's really hard!. And (guy's name) rejecting me only makes things worse!. I really need you guys right now!. I need support and people telling me that things are going to be okay!. I don't want or need you guys shunning me when I need you the most!. Please, I promise to try to eat, but I do need your support!."
It is all up to you whether you eat or not, but just uderstand that skinny isn't enough!. Happy is, and no number on scale or dress size can ever permanently give you that!.
Finally, if you want to or feel ready, just try a psycologist!. It helps to vent and get rid of the things we all bottle up!.
Good luck and I wish you the best!.
P!.S!. If you need support, you can e-mail me at marisa53093@yahoo!.com,You aren't alone I understand if you need someone to talk to and I deal woth these thoughts every day and have learned how to deal with it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Let me explain:
So, this guy doesn't like you!. That SUCKS; I've been there and I know!. You really, really wanted him, cared for him, and even loved him, and he broke your heart!. That was his descision!. Now it's your turn!. You can either choose to continue to exist in sarrow, or you can say,"I loved him, he didn't love me back!. I hate that he didn't like me, but I can't stay miserable!. I might take me time to get over it, but I will!. In the meantime, I'm going to smile and move on!. And one day, I'n going to love a guy that loves me back ,and this will all be a faint memory!."!. It isn't going to be easy, but you'll get over him!.
As for the crying and depression, if you don't want to be like this anymore, then turn things around!. Firstly, turn off the sad music because that will not help!. Find little, simple things that make you smile again!. Find people that do the same!. It's going to take time, but happiness will come if you look for it!.
With you friends, I would talk to them and say (if you are really sincere in saying this), "You're right, I don't eat!. I hate that I'm bigger than you; it's really hard!. And (guy's name) rejecting me only makes things worse!. I really need you guys right now!. I need support and people telling me that things are going to be okay!. I don't want or need you guys shunning me when I need you the most!. Please, I promise to try to eat, but I do need your support!."
It is all up to you whether you eat or not, but just uderstand that skinny isn't enough!. Happy is, and no number on scale or dress size can ever permanently give you that!.
Finally, if you want to or feel ready, just try a psycologist!. It helps to vent and get rid of the things we all bottle up!.
Good luck and I wish you the best!.
P!.S!. If you need support, you can e-mail me at marisa53093@yahoo!.com,You aren't alone I understand if you need someone to talk to and I deal woth these thoughts every day and have learned how to deal with it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try and channel your frustrations into something positive!. So it sounds like you are unhappy with the way you look so how about becoming more active and watching what you eat!. Summer is the perfect time to transform yourself!. As for the guy start journaling to help yourself feel better!. Try to be a little aloof with him!. Guys like the chase! IF he knows you like him then its not a challenge!. And the head games don't get any better they just keep on even through middle adulthood and marriage!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm not sure how to help you, you don't seem to want the right advise and i think you already Know what that is anyway so i guess all i can point out is if he doesn't like you now and you loose weight will he really like you or just who you've forced yourself to become!. oh ya it may not seem like it now but in a while you'll forget all about him and look back at this and laugh if you don't die from starvation -and that's not a joke!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Before you know it you will get over that guy!. It hurts really bad right but it will eventually get better and you will find a better guy in no time!. You're only 13 you have so many years ahead of you to date lots of exciting guys and this one will be a blurry memory!. Keep your head up and get out and have fun this summer! Focus on other things whenever your mind starts to wander off and think about him!. Hope this helps!. GOOD LUCK !!Www@Answer-Health@Com
im sure that your body looks just fine! when you are 11 to 14 or so your body goes through alot of changes! give it a little bit of time!! your friends are worried about you and they dont know how to react to you not eating!. as for your crush, their are plenty of fish in the sea and if you want to be with him this bad just imagine how good it will be when the right guy comes along, keep your head up!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are not alone!!! All teenage girls go through this!. I had my heart broken 1,000,000 times by the same boy when I was a teenager!. This is what will make you strong as you enter into your adult years!. Hang in there life will get easier!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Think of your favourite foods, and try and eat them as much as possible!. Also try not to come under peer pressure!. If the problem worsens, I think you should move to another area!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Find someone new!. You are to young to be in love!. Don't waist your youth worrying about one guy!. You have to kiss a lot of toads to find you prince!. And please don't stop eating, that is not the solution!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have to talk to him!. Being a guy, I can say that we generally like to be confronted in a straight forward way!. I really thought I loved a girl at one time, and it took me a month and a half to work up the kahoonas to ask her how she felt!.!.!. and she said no!. We are still good friends, and after that it was easier to let her go!. He may say yes!. You never know!.
As far as not eating, that's never good!. Eating less could be a positive thing, if done properly!. If you exercise more, you will lose weight and it becomes easier to maintain a healthy diet!. Real friends will help you through this and wouldn't leave you with no one to talk to!.
You aren't alone!. E-mail me if you really need help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As far as not eating, that's never good!. Eating less could be a positive thing, if done properly!. If you exercise more, you will lose weight and it becomes easier to maintain a healthy diet!. Real friends will help you through this and wouldn't leave you with no one to talk to!.
You aren't alone!. E-mail me if you really need help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Okay, i would like you to know that not eating is going to seriously harm you!. Im sure you already know that though!. i was anorexic at your age, and you know what, i didnt give a ****!.
i just cared about being skinny, and being liked, but then i had kids, and i made myself get better!.
Im sure you do love him, and anybody that says you are too young to be in love its not true, i was in love when i was 13!. and i will never forget that guy!. ever!.
the thing is, you cant make him like you back!.
you need to focus on yourself and feeling good!.
and trust me, when you are feeling good, and feeling better, and being healthy and happy, the right guy will come along and sweep you off your feet, and you will be happy!. TRUST me, i have been through what youa re going through!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i just cared about being skinny, and being liked, but then i had kids, and i made myself get better!.
Im sure you do love him, and anybody that says you are too young to be in love its not true, i was in love when i was 13!. and i will never forget that guy!. ever!.
the thing is, you cant make him like you back!.
you need to focus on yourself and feeling good!.
and trust me, when you are feeling good, and feeling better, and being healthy and happy, the right guy will come along and sweep you off your feet, and you will be happy!. TRUST me, i have been through what youa re going through!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Keep a journal honey!. Writing down how you feel can help you so much!. I know it doesn't sound like it will but keep an open mind!. Drawing and art is also good!. You are already listening to music, that's great!. Music you can relate to helps!. I would suggest talking to someone you trust, your mom maybe, a school guidance counselor or teacher!? anyone really!. Those friends of yours shouldn't have been like that to you, they left when you really needed them!.!. it was wrong!. I'm here for you if you ever need anything though!. I truly think a doc can help you out though because you are awfully upset!. Best of luck honey! Feel better!.!.!.oh and one of my fav quotes: "don't look back unless you're planning on going that way"Www@Answer-Health@Com
Oh my gosh i feel so bad for you!. K so first you should probably seek professional help!. Talk to your doctor and see what he/she has to say and dont be embarrassed okay!? Im 14 so i can really feel your pain!. Not eating can cause you to be unhappy and cry alot!. Which is what youre doing!. After you get professional help and start EATING you can be happy and then start being YOURSELF and seeking out this guy you like so much and remember to be yourself and if this guy isnt what hes all cracked up to be KICK HIM TO THE CURB!!! You deserve better and you should only accept a guy that works hard for YOU! Im telling you from expirience!. And when your happy again you can get back good friends that will help you with your problem instead of being mad at you!. They shouldnt get mad at you for being depressed and pressured!. A real friend would help you out!. Be good to yourself!. You dont need to be "skinny" to get guys to like you or to fit in okay!? Eating is good!!! And if a relationship dosnt work out between you and this guy THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR EVERYONE! Your happiness can attract others!. Bottom line: dont give in to pressure, EAT, exercising is the only way to be fit (not anorexia) and BE YOURSELF!!!!
Oh and yes if you want more help email me at olvyk@yahoo!.comWww@Answer-Health@Com
Oh and yes if you want more help email me at olvyk@yahoo!.comWww@Answer-Health@Com
your friends care about you and are
concerned about you thats why
they are acting like the way they are!.
and by not eating well its unhealthy!.
if you wanna lose weight hey
join sports when school begins again!.
love doesn't depend on age!.
but still you are way to young
to be caring so much about
a bf!. if your friends have bfs
hey great for them! but there
is plenty of time trust me!.
so the guy doesn't like
well darling there are millions
of guys out there not just him!.
and hes probably a dumbass
for not liking you cos i bet
ur a great girl!.
hey im always here if you
need someone to talk
to!. spootsgirl@yahoo!.com
hoped i helped =]Www@Answer-Health@Com
concerned about you thats why
they are acting like the way they are!.
and by not eating well its unhealthy!.
if you wanna lose weight hey
join sports when school begins again!.
love doesn't depend on age!.
but still you are way to young
to be caring so much about
a bf!. if your friends have bfs
hey great for them! but there
is plenty of time trust me!.
so the guy doesn't like
well darling there are millions
of guys out there not just him!.
and hes probably a dumbass
for not liking you cos i bet
ur a great girl!.
hey im always here if you
need someone to talk
to!. spootsgirl@yahoo!.com
hoped i helped =]Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know what you mean!. I stopped eating at about 13, too!. I had a little journal that I recorded every bite I took down in!. There were days when I ate nothing, days when I ate 200 cals, and days when I got so frustrated that I ate everything I could find!. I was so afraid that I was fat, even though people told me I wasn't!. I thought they were lying to me, so I kept avoiding food!. I was the only one out of my friends to not have a boyfriend, too!. I had low self-esteem and was shy, so it was hard for me to be normal with guys!. I thought something was wrong with me!.
It's interesting that you say you love this guy and he doesn't love you back!. It's good that you realize this, but I'm not sure you're fully realizing what's going on!. Love is a relationship between two people!. If he doesn't like you in that way, then it's just your obsession with him!. Is it possible that you're lonely, insecure, anxious about not having a boyfriend, and are seeing this guy as more than he is!? I fell head over heals for a guy when I was in 9th grade!. I let myself get wrapped up in it and taken advantage of (because he pretended to like me the same way, but didn't)!. Here I sit, years later, and I'm still upset about the time I wasted being manipulated!.
I also can't eat normally these days, because I messed up my body by never giving it what it needed when I was younger!. I have anxiety and other issues that I really think came from not eating!. Food is not the problem; your insecurity is!. I wish I could go back to 13 and tell myself I was worthwhile!. I realize now that I wasn't fat, I wasn't ugly, and I wasn't less than anyone!. Do you have any idea how much time I spent feeling inferior!? I missed out on a great high school experience because I somehow convinced myself I was weird, unloved, and anything else you can imagine!.
Read some books written by people who suffered from Anorexia and tell of how it affects them now!. If you wait too long, there are going to be serious health effects!. People could have talked to me all day long about losing hair, having stomach problems, having dental problems, having bone problems, and everything else!. They could have told me I was beautiful, thin, funny, smart, and anything else!. In fact, people did tell me all of this, but I didn't listen!. I let myself go downhill and now I'm paying for it!.
I hated being told to see a therapist; it seemed so corny and useless!. It felt like I was hiring a friend and I hated it!. After some time, though, I actually found it helpful!. One therapist taught me how wrong my view of myself was!. I cried when I realized why I wasn't eating and how much I hated myself for no reason!. I cried for the years, experiences, and friends I lost and won't ever get back!. Please get this in check before you're sitting alone and wondering where the time went!. Best wishes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's interesting that you say you love this guy and he doesn't love you back!. It's good that you realize this, but I'm not sure you're fully realizing what's going on!. Love is a relationship between two people!. If he doesn't like you in that way, then it's just your obsession with him!. Is it possible that you're lonely, insecure, anxious about not having a boyfriend, and are seeing this guy as more than he is!? I fell head over heals for a guy when I was in 9th grade!. I let myself get wrapped up in it and taken advantage of (because he pretended to like me the same way, but didn't)!. Here I sit, years later, and I'm still upset about the time I wasted being manipulated!.
I also can't eat normally these days, because I messed up my body by never giving it what it needed when I was younger!. I have anxiety and other issues that I really think came from not eating!. Food is not the problem; your insecurity is!. I wish I could go back to 13 and tell myself I was worthwhile!. I realize now that I wasn't fat, I wasn't ugly, and I wasn't less than anyone!. Do you have any idea how much time I spent feeling inferior!? I missed out on a great high school experience because I somehow convinced myself I was weird, unloved, and anything else you can imagine!.
Read some books written by people who suffered from Anorexia and tell of how it affects them now!. If you wait too long, there are going to be serious health effects!. People could have talked to me all day long about losing hair, having stomach problems, having dental problems, having bone problems, and everything else!. They could have told me I was beautiful, thin, funny, smart, and anything else!. In fact, people did tell me all of this, but I didn't listen!. I let myself go downhill and now I'm paying for it!.
I hated being told to see a therapist; it seemed so corny and useless!. It felt like I was hiring a friend and I hated it!. After some time, though, I actually found it helpful!. One therapist taught me how wrong my view of myself was!. I cried when I realized why I wasn't eating and how much I hated myself for no reason!. I cried for the years, experiences, and friends I lost and won't ever get back!. Please get this in check before you're sitting alone and wondering where the time went!. Best wishes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com