Help, please, i've got a serious problem...?!
Question: Help, please, i've got a serious problem!.!.!.!?
I AM HAVING A CRISIS OVER HERE!
im 'trying' to have a good summer but i just keep thinking of going back to school!.
i have a anxiety problem, i'm on med's for it!.!.!.!.!.but,
it doesn't seem to be 'helping'!.
I HATE SCHOOL!.
i know a lot of kids think that but i really hate it!.
i have so many reasons!. IM THE KID THAT GETS BULLIED!
the 'fat' one as they may call me!.!.!.!. im not popular or pretty!.
i'm getting all worked up over this and i'm getting so
depressed!. i've been begging my mom to go to a private
school or just be home schooled so i wont have to worry what
the people think there and ill be able to concentrate on my homework and grades!. I had 2 F's on my report-card because I couldn't get over what the people were doing, i just
could not think of anything but them!. Plus i don't really have any friends any more, i've lost them all!.!.!. :(
could someone just be NICE enough to help me!.!.!?
or at least understand my situation!? please!?
just please please please don't be rude :( please!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
im 'trying' to have a good summer but i just keep thinking of going back to school!.
i have a anxiety problem, i'm on med's for it!.!.!.!.!.but,
it doesn't seem to be 'helping'!.
I HATE SCHOOL!.
i know a lot of kids think that but i really hate it!.
i have so many reasons!. IM THE KID THAT GETS BULLIED!
the 'fat' one as they may call me!.!.!.!. im not popular or pretty!.
i'm getting all worked up over this and i'm getting so
depressed!. i've been begging my mom to go to a private
school or just be home schooled so i wont have to worry what
the people think there and ill be able to concentrate on my homework and grades!. I had 2 F's on my report-card because I couldn't get over what the people were doing, i just
could not think of anything but them!. Plus i don't really have any friends any more, i've lost them all!.!.!. :(
could someone just be NICE enough to help me!.!.!?
or at least understand my situation!? please!?
just please please please don't be rude :( please!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Ranging from shyness and low self-esteem to anxiety disorders and depression, each
anxiety problem is unique to the individual!. Expressions of social phobia vary from
person to person just as those of agoraphobia vary from panic disorder and GAD vary
from OCD!. However, as unique to the individual these problems are and as different
to each other they are, these problems develop for similar reasons and strengthen in
a similar way, a manner which reflects the way our mind and body works!.
Successfully overcoming anxiety disorders requires BOTH insight and
behaviour change!.
We need to:-
Understand the problem (how it developed and it's effects) to such an extent
that the search for reasons and answers can be given up
Reduce the automatic negative thoughts, images and behaviours
Develop more positive beliefs and behaviours
COURAGE is not the absence of fear!. It is feeling afraid but keeping those feelings
sufficiently under control to be able to act appropriately!.
Once we begin to understand how anxiety disorders work - much of the fear of
them is removed!. When we understand what is happening and why we take away much of our anxiety!.
"Fear cannot be banished; but it can be calm and without panic, andit can be mitigated by reason and evaluation" - Vannevar Bush
Low self-esteem, anxiety and panic, obsessions and compulsions and depression are
very powerful!. They can make us feel as though there is no way of overcoming themGiven the right instruction, guidance and support we can learn to overcome our
fears by mastering the various stages involved - and so it is with anxiety and panic,
phobias, OCD and depression!.
"Fears are educated into us and can, if we wish, be educated out"
- Karl A!. Menninger
Once we understand why we believe and behave as we do, there are many things
we can do that help to:-
- Change those beliefs and behaviours
- Let go of the past and move forward
- Develop more accurate, positive feelings about ourselves
- Develop feelings of being in control and confidence
Once we accept that courage is not the absence of fear we are in a position to
move forward!.Guidance and support can help, but at times it can still be frightening!.
If we want to change (develop and grow would be better words!) we can't let fear
hold us back!.
In this world of profit-driven, success-orientated goals of false materialistic happiness the incidence of feelings of 'not being good enough' and anxiety and depression can only increase and yet in one sense it is the people that haveexperienced these problems that reflect the truly good human qualities!.
Soul-searching and introspection can lead to an understanding of our own behaviour and that of others, acceptance of our own 'faults' and those of others and an
appreciation of the effect of behaviour on others!. Without doubt, if the excessive anxiety, panic and despair could be reduced for sufferers of these problems society
would benefit greatly!.
Remember, you're not alone!. Think of all the other people who are in the same position as you, and if you do this you can be sure that someone is thinking of you!.
It can be difficult to be happy or have something to smile about when we have a long-term anxiety-related problem and a sorrowful expression can in itself help strengthen the effects of anxiety and despair!.
(We all feel better when we are laughing)
Try this:- Imagine a big grin on your forehead (just imagine it - don't try and make your forehead smile)!.
You should feel the corners of your lips raise ever so slightly!.
Try it a number of times (3 or 4 times) throughout the day!."Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet!. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired and success achieved" - H!. Keller
IT IS POSSIBLE TO OVERCOME THESE PROBLEMS FULLY AND FOR GOOD!IT CAN BE DONE!Www@Answer-Health@Com
anxiety problem is unique to the individual!. Expressions of social phobia vary from
person to person just as those of agoraphobia vary from panic disorder and GAD vary
from OCD!. However, as unique to the individual these problems are and as different
to each other they are, these problems develop for similar reasons and strengthen in
a similar way, a manner which reflects the way our mind and body works!.
Successfully overcoming anxiety disorders requires BOTH insight and
behaviour change!.
We need to:-
Understand the problem (how it developed and it's effects) to such an extent
that the search for reasons and answers can be given up
Reduce the automatic negative thoughts, images and behaviours
Develop more positive beliefs and behaviours
COURAGE is not the absence of fear!. It is feeling afraid but keeping those feelings
sufficiently under control to be able to act appropriately!.
Once we begin to understand how anxiety disorders work - much of the fear of
them is removed!. When we understand what is happening and why we take away much of our anxiety!.
"Fear cannot be banished; but it can be calm and without panic, andit can be mitigated by reason and evaluation" - Vannevar Bush
Low self-esteem, anxiety and panic, obsessions and compulsions and depression are
very powerful!. They can make us feel as though there is no way of overcoming themGiven the right instruction, guidance and support we can learn to overcome our
fears by mastering the various stages involved - and so it is with anxiety and panic,
phobias, OCD and depression!.
"Fears are educated into us and can, if we wish, be educated out"
- Karl A!. Menninger
Once we understand why we believe and behave as we do, there are many things
we can do that help to:-
- Change those beliefs and behaviours
- Let go of the past and move forward
- Develop more accurate, positive feelings about ourselves
- Develop feelings of being in control and confidence
Once we accept that courage is not the absence of fear we are in a position to
move forward!.Guidance and support can help, but at times it can still be frightening!.
If we want to change (develop and grow would be better words!) we can't let fear
hold us back!.
In this world of profit-driven, success-orientated goals of false materialistic happiness the incidence of feelings of 'not being good enough' and anxiety and depression can only increase and yet in one sense it is the people that haveexperienced these problems that reflect the truly good human qualities!.
Soul-searching and introspection can lead to an understanding of our own behaviour and that of others, acceptance of our own 'faults' and those of others and an
appreciation of the effect of behaviour on others!. Without doubt, if the excessive anxiety, panic and despair could be reduced for sufferers of these problems society
would benefit greatly!.
Remember, you're not alone!. Think of all the other people who are in the same position as you, and if you do this you can be sure that someone is thinking of you!.
It can be difficult to be happy or have something to smile about when we have a long-term anxiety-related problem and a sorrowful expression can in itself help strengthen the effects of anxiety and despair!.
(We all feel better when we are laughing)
Try this:- Imagine a big grin on your forehead (just imagine it - don't try and make your forehead smile)!.
You should feel the corners of your lips raise ever so slightly!.
Try it a number of times (3 or 4 times) throughout the day!."Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet!. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired and success achieved" - H!. Keller
IT IS POSSIBLE TO OVERCOME THESE PROBLEMS FULLY AND FOR GOOD!IT CAN BE DONE!Www@Answer-Health@Com
screw them all!. who cares about them, be confident in yourself an love yourself for who you are, not for what other people THINK you are!. stand strong, there is always something interesting in someone; how bout this summer u just relax and try and find that something!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i hope you feel better right know i think i have bi-polar disorder and i hate my life so i know how you feelWww@Answer-Health@Com
As someone older I can say that you will look back on it, and it will be a tiny speck in your life!. And you will wish to yourself and that you didn't let these people affect you!. Most of the pretty girls at my school are now old boozing hags!. Trust me, just ignore them, it's high school!.!.!.it doesn't mean anything in the long scheme of things, go there, do your work and go home and try to find something u enjoy outside of school where you feel accepted, they are just immature!. You have to teach yourself to abandon your fears and worries and just accept what the situation is and will be when you go back to school, don't respond to the kids and don't let them get in the way of your future!. Focus on your school work!.!.!.in the end!.!.!.that is all that matters!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I totally understand where you're coming from! I was in that same position throughout elementary school!. Got called fat by everyone!. Friends and even FAMILY members! Its crazy how some just don't understand how much those names have such a big impact!. What you need to do is just relax!. You need to not let those things bother you and make a difference!. Start working out this summer!. Don't worry about school! This is what summers for, a break inbetween school years!. If you keep thinking and obsessing over it, you will definately not have a good summer!. The way I lost weight was to watch what you eat and start doing some crunches at night or push ups!. They help over time, so why not start doing it now! :] Worring about others I not going to help your situtation and begging your mom to home school you isn't either because then you will be come way tooo sheltered and be blind to reality!. Relax and make a difference in your life!. If you feel good, then everything is going to be ok!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just give yourself a confidence boost start telling yourself things that you like about yourself tell yourself"who cares about those ppl i can make new or better friends next yr will be way better than last!"keep thinking positive!.keep telling yourself that you will make the very best of this Summer!.Don't let those ugly hateful ppl ruin your beautiful summer! when you get out of school those ppl wont be any different than ne1 else out there!.there only trying to make their selves feel better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com