What am I to do?!
Question: What am I to do!?
Ok so here's the story!.
I am only 22 years old and living in CO planning to move to Vegas! Mainly for the money but also to grow!.!. hopefully!. Anyway I am seeing a therapist for issues about my dad sexually molesting me as a child!. I enjoy going to the club and drinking on the weekends but my therapist thinks I have an addiction! She feels I could find fun in doing other things that doesn't involve drinking!.!.!.
I disagree!.!. Its causing some tension!. She believes Vegas will eat me alive!.
I guess my question is do I believe everything my therapist says!? And just because I enjoy partying do I have an addiction!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am only 22 years old and living in CO planning to move to Vegas! Mainly for the money but also to grow!.!. hopefully!. Anyway I am seeing a therapist for issues about my dad sexually molesting me as a child!. I enjoy going to the club and drinking on the weekends but my therapist thinks I have an addiction! She feels I could find fun in doing other things that doesn't involve drinking!.!.!.
I disagree!.!. Its causing some tension!. She believes Vegas will eat me alive!.
I guess my question is do I believe everything my therapist says!? And just because I enjoy partying do I have an addiction!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I don't think you have an addiction but it could soon become one!. You shouldn't follow everything your therapist says but you should consider them because she is trained and worked withe poeple for most likely some time!. Though in the end it's up to you she just wants the best for her patient but cannot control your descions!. So do what you want but take her thoughts in consideration!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Since you've chosen to pay for a therapist and in her medical opinion this move could potentially cause you harm!. I would say she's probably right!. For people with an addictive personality this environment could be a serious downward spiral in your life!. There are other places which could provide better work opportunities without the effects of the drinking, gambling and sex!. I would also think that since you've experienced the trauma of sexual molestation exposing yourself to an environment which thrives on negative sexual images of woman would not be good for your recovery!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You don't have to believe everything your therapist says!. All the therapist is doing is going off of the information that you give her, which I guess to her sounds like you have an addiction!. Anyways, your therapist is there to sorta guide you, I guess, she/he giving you her opinion on what you should do, he/she is not saying you HAVE to do this and that!.
As to having an addiction!. If you can say no to parties and control how much you go to them!. I'd say, no!. You don't have an addiction!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As to having an addiction!. If you can say no to parties and control how much you go to them!. I'd say, no!. You don't have an addiction!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are not in the greatest of places emotionally right now!. It sounds like your therapist feels that you are vulnerable, and she is looking at your situation without emotion (which is a good thing) and I would certainly advise you to listen to her for the time being!. It is possible to party and have a great time and not drink all the time, the fact that this is causing tension suggests to me that your therapist is right to be concerned, and deep down you know it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
What matters is what YOU believe!. If drinking is having a negative impact on your life, then I'd have to agree with your shrink that Vegas is NOT the place to be (Clubs are everywhere, open all of the time)!. But, if you're a strong person and can enjoy a drink without it controlling your actions and decisions then go for it!. Nobody should know you better than you!. Also, if your real intentions for going to Vegas is to grow and make money, drinking and partying won't help!. Good luck!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well how much do you party!? If it's more than 1 or 2 times a week, then you need to tone it down a notch, if you can't, THEN you probably have an addiction!.
I would take care to really listen to what your therapist says!. She can't tell you what to do with your life, only give you advice as to how to live it well!.
Take care in Vegas, and don't gamble your life away or get married prematurely!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would take care to really listen to what your therapist says!. She can't tell you what to do with your life, only give you advice as to how to live it well!.
Take care in Vegas, and don't gamble your life away or get married prematurely!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you think moving to Vegas is going to help you grow up you are delusional!. Going to the club and drinking on weekends isn't really a problem unless it is starting to effect your daily life!. However, if you move to Vegas you could end up on a very slippery slope where you start going out and drinking every night!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think moving to Vegas with the specific problem you are dealing with will be one of the worst decisions you ever make!. Stay in Colorado!. Drink and party there!. You could easily be swept up into addiction in Vegas with your background!. 90% of the strippers were sexually abused as children!. 90% are hooked on drugs!. You don't need that lifestyle!. You can make money where you are!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Neither!.
If you could probe yourself you can not drink in a disco once, you going to Las Vegas will be fine!.
Try to do that experiment, choose a difficult day (a friend's party, or World Cup, or something like that)!. If you can resist not drinking a single drop of alcohol after more than 4 hours seeing your friends getting drunk, you will pass!!
Good luck!!
Btw, there are other ways to spend life: travel to other countries!. And there are other ways to get money: create your own company!Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you could probe yourself you can not drink in a disco once, you going to Las Vegas will be fine!.
Try to do that experiment, choose a difficult day (a friend's party, or World Cup, or something like that)!. If you can resist not drinking a single drop of alcohol after more than 4 hours seeing your friends getting drunk, you will pass!!
Good luck!!
Btw, there are other ways to spend life: travel to other countries!. And there are other ways to get money: create your own company!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why bother with a Professional if you're not going to listen to them and take their advise!. It only stands to reason that she "know" you, hopefully you've opened up and been completely honest!. Yahoo can provide you with as many answers as you "want" to hear!.!.!.but few of us are professionally trained to handle this question, if you want yes answers!.!.!.here we are, if you want someone who'll tell you the truth, despite it being what you want to hear, stay with the "trained professional" and heal!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
it's an addiction if you can't live without!.
your therapist is probably right but you have control of your own life!. you have to make the decision for yourself!. just be careful not to end up with jaundice or liver failure from over drinking!. alcohol makes things fun sure, but you have a problem if you absolutely have to have it to have a good time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
your therapist is probably right but you have control of your own life!. you have to make the decision for yourself!. just be careful not to end up with jaundice or liver failure from over drinking!. alcohol makes things fun sure, but you have a problem if you absolutely have to have it to have a good time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if the path to the road ur taking leads to something bad!.!.!. then ur going to learn from it the hard way!. but if u can avoid things before they happen then ur growing up!. u should take advice like a grain of salt, and if advice ur getting helps u then take it, but if the advice ur getting doesnt help u then forget it!. u make ur own life decisions and it up to u how u want to live!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well, why are you even seeing a therapist if you're not going to listen to them!?
Partying can become an addiction quickly!. Try to not drink for a month, or even a week or so!. Then analyze your situation and see if you're an alcoholic!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Partying can become an addiction quickly!. Try to not drink for a month, or even a week or so!. Then analyze your situation and see if you're an alcoholic!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Honestly ask yourself this!.
IS IT WORTH THE RISK!?
If you are right all you did was make a life soemwhere else!.
If she is right, you could end up dead!.
It is your call!.
Good Luck!.
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IS IT WORTH THE RISK!?
If you are right all you did was make a life soemwhere else!.
If she is right, you could end up dead!.
It is your call!.
Good Luck!.
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Possibly!. And living in Vegas will make it more accessible to drink and party 24/7!.
Your therapist is on the mark!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your therapist is on the mark!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Drinking is just masking your pain!. Try to find something different to take up your time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you dont trust your therapist's advice, you need to find another therapist!. Thats the whole point of going to therapy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well just think that she didn't spend 12 years in med school for nothing, the therapist must know what she is talking about don't cha think!?!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
The therapist is smarter than you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i lived in vegas and yes it will eat you alive trust your therapsitWww@Answer-Health@Com
No you do not have to believe everything your therapist says!. They are human, not all knowing beings!. However it depends on how you feel about your therapist!. Is it she just isn't telling you what you want to hear!? Or do you really not agree with her!? Just because you party on the week ends does not make you an addict but it can lead to being one!. Given your painful past you could be a prime candidate for an addiction problem!. No body likes to hear that I know, but you don't want to ever become that addictive person because then you cant drink again!.!.lol!.!.but seriously feeling like you need something to get by is not a good feeling!. It kills your self esteem!. As for Vegas, my x husband moved there for a real good job opportunity and to get away from his problems back home!. It (Vegas) Ate him alive!. He lost everything!. Too much drinking and drugs!. I had allot of bad things happen to me as a child and I ran ran ran from them!. It only made things worse!. My life didn't start to get better until I faced my demons and lived life right and right with god!. I just don't think Vegas is a good place to grow!. It isn't called sin city for nothing!. Visiting is one thing but I saw what it did to my x and his sister!. Whatever you decide good luck to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think I kind of agree with your therapist!. If it is currently just once in a while drinking it could lead to heavy drinking and an addiction!. If she had not given you other choices as to things you can do to relieve the tension then maybe you should find another therapist!. There have been psychologists that I just did not like at all and when I found one I did like he moved out of state!. This was a long time ago when I was dealing wiht some personal issues of my own that I was going through (abuse from my ex)!. I couldn't possibly ever know what you are going through!. I am sorry to hear that!. I can only say that sometimes drinking can make things worse in the end!. Social drinking is okay and the occasional drink!. Just don't let it get out of hand!. If someone points it out to you that you are, then listen to them!. Good luck with that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com