I don't know how to answer people anymore?!


Question: I don't know how to answer people anymore!?
It's a very common thing for me to be asked what I do (work) or where I'm going to school (college)!. I'm doing neither right now, because I've been fighting social anxiety for years!.

When people ask, I've tried the "I'm in between jobs" or "I'm looking into college for next year," but people become pompous and/or envious of my free time (that's all I can figure)!. I've even admitted "I have social anxiety and I'm working on getting things straightened out," but then I get blank stares!.

How can I respond to people to keep them from making me feel worse than I already do!? Thanks!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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My heart goes out to you!. Partly because people are jerks and partly because I can relate!. I'm unemployed and have been looking for a job for 2 and a half months!. I've gone to three staffing agencies for interviews, gone to 3 interviews at actual companies and nothing!. And I hate answering the questions, "So where you working!?" !. !. and then it leads to "So what do you do all day!?", like I sit around and watch tv all day!. Honestly, I've never felt so worthless in my life!. So I'm fighting some big time depression on top of 3 months away from being homeless at the rate I'm going!. I've been selling textbooks from college online so at least once a week, I'm running to the post office to mail the books out, of course grocery store, I exercise to help with my depression, etc!. But the first 2 to 3 hours of my day, I'm online looking at jobs and people don't understand that!.

My point is YOU know what your life is like and you just have to be comfortable with your position in life!. Yeah, they are going to be envious or confused!. !. !. so what!? It's NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS!. At least you are dealing with your issues, getting your life back together !. !. !.don't tell them more than they need to know!. "I'm getting some things straightened out and I'll be returning to college next year!." Why do they need to know more than that!? You don't need to feel bad!. I'm 28 and just took about 8 months off because I couldn't stand my life!. And now, look at the trouble I'm having trying to "re-enter" a new life!? Without that 8 month time off, I don't know what I'd do!. I don't know how I keep going these days!. But something keeps me going!. Don't worry what people think!. !. !. it's your life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i am going through this to, just have graduated from highschool!. i have severe anxiety major depression and schizo!. people dont understand less they go through it themselves!. you should go to adoctor, talk to him!. if its so bad to wher eu cant function, like not school or work, you may qualify for disablityWww@Answer-Health@Com

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Just answer " I'm in my transition period right, now Thanks for asking!." You will get some looks but most people will just let it go at that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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