My grandfather molested my best friend?!
Question: My grandfather molested my best friend!?
He would pick us up from school, since both of our parents worked; he dropped me off first and then her!. She used to come to my house and just cry and I would sit and listen to her!. I protected her from him; I did everything in my power to keep her safe!. I convinced her to tell her mother and father about it so she could talk to someone who could really help her and she did, and I called her both before and after she told her parents!.
My life has been hell since she told!. My mother who was already broken is now depressed and wont get out of bed!. Our family is torn apart and everybody blames me!. My friend was the only friend I had, her mother forbids her from seeing me or coming to my house, even though my grandfather doesn
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My life has been hell since she told!. My mother who was already broken is now depressed and wont get out of bed!. Our family is torn apart and everybody blames me!. My friend was the only friend I had, her mother forbids her from seeing me or coming to my house, even though my grandfather doesn
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Dont let the world make you think that YOU are wrong nor what you DID was wrong!. you did exactly right!. Your mom is torn apart because she knows this (family, your best friend, and everyone else's feelings are) out of her control, jus like everything in your world is for you!. Plus its her father! She's hurt all over, just like you!. Its easier for people to blame anyone than the person responsible, your grandfather!. they want to keep him in the light they had him under, but they cant!. it will pass!. Does everyone know how you exactly feel about this!? As far as your friend, you cant talk on the phone!? I was a military brat, so I know how it is to lose friends!. Hopefully if not sooner than by the time ya'll are 18 you'll be able to see each other and be friends again!. This too will pass!. As hard as it is, stay true to yourself and know what you did was right!. Most of the people at your high school dont even know the correct story anyways!. High school is your world right now, but soon you'll be graduating and entering college!. people in high school are immature and petty, its high school! dont burden yourself with this there is no need!.
life changes all the time! try to find a hobby or something to relax during these times with your family!.!. music, drawing, writing, photography, etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
life changes all the time! try to find a hobby or something to relax during these times with your family!.!. music, drawing, writing, photography, etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That is very sad!. I know it seems like everyone's mad at you, but you have to remember that you did the right thing!. If your family's mad at you, f*ck them! They should be more concerned over the safety of that girl than whether their grandfather broke up the family!. Remember, HE broke up your family by his actions, not YOU!. And people at school just talk because they don't know what to say!. Hold your head up, things will get better!. This too shall pass!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think that you should feel proud of your self because what you did was the Right thing to do so don't worried when get older and have your own family you will you did what was Right and your Friend some she will realize that really care about her so don't be sadWww@Answer-Health@Com
You need to go to mental health and get some help!. You shouldnt get blamed for what you disgusting grandfather did!. This might be hard to understand but i think the best thing for you and your close family to do is get out of the district your in!. im so sorry!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i'm sorry that this s-storm is coming down on you, but YOU DID THE RIGHT THING by getting her to tell!. good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
im sorry to hear tell your mom or dad!Www@Answer-Health@Com
hey!i can't believe your family can hate you for what you did!.
i hope it makes you feel better because i think you did the right thing!.it takes a lot of courage to tell your best friend to tell her parents about it!.
the thing is,you have to understand that your best friend's mum will be worried about her daughter's safety when she's with you so instead if her coming over,why not go over to her house and try to talk to her mum about the whole thing!.
as for your grandfather,i hope he is getting what he deserves!.
you dont have to bother about what people say about you in school!.i know that's easier said than done but if you need someone to talk to,why not try your closest teacher or councillor!?
dont give up because it's never the end!.you're only 16 and there's so many opportunities waiting for you!.
no matter what you do,just know that i'll always support you!.
best of luck!.(:Www@Answer-Health@Com
i hope it makes you feel better because i think you did the right thing!.it takes a lot of courage to tell your best friend to tell her parents about it!.
the thing is,you have to understand that your best friend's mum will be worried about her daughter's safety when she's with you so instead if her coming over,why not go over to her house and try to talk to her mum about the whole thing!.
as for your grandfather,i hope he is getting what he deserves!.
you dont have to bother about what people say about you in school!.i know that's easier said than done but if you need someone to talk to,why not try your closest teacher or councillor!?
dont give up because it's never the end!.you're only 16 and there's so many opportunities waiting for you!.
no matter what you do,just know that i'll always support you!.
best of luck!.(:Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are a very brave girl and you did the right thing!. I am very sorry it worked out this way!.
Is there any way your family could move to another area!? I hope you realize that it was you grandfather who caused all of this damage, not you!.
Could you talk to your former friends about it!? You sound very mature and articulate!. Tell them what you said here -- you shouldn't be punished for you grandfather's crimes!. At least get it out of your system!. Hopefully, they will understand!. Talk to your counselor at school also!.
Soon you be in college and this will all fade away!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Is there any way your family could move to another area!? I hope you realize that it was you grandfather who caused all of this damage, not you!.
Could you talk to your former friends about it!? You sound very mature and articulate!. Tell them what you said here -- you shouldn't be punished for you grandfather's crimes!. At least get it out of your system!. Hopefully, they will understand!. Talk to your counselor at school also!.
Soon you be in college and this will all fade away!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, I suppose they are just looking for someone to blame!. I have a family like that and it seems that they hate anyone who lets the cat out of the bag about something they've done!. For instance, my dad is a very abusive person and when my mom divorced him, they convinced everyone that she was crazy!. Then my sister and I had to live with him half time for another 9 years and when we refused to go back three months ago, we even had to go to jail for it!. Everyone believed him and thought we were just ungrateful little shits!. Now that family should be mad at him, but instead they hate us!. It's a sad thing, and their blame is very missplaced!. My family knew though, and they still wont admit that he's anything but perfect!. I'm so sorry that everyone is blaming you, it's not like you let it happen!. It was his fault for what he did!. As far as I'm concerned there's not much you can do about the school issues or your friend, but you'll be friends again if she truely cares!. I'm so sorry, just wait it out and look for people who know not to punish you for your grandfather's actions!. Those people may be hard to find, but they will be your true friends!. Some of my friends thought I was wrong to try to get away from my dad and they betrayed me, but it just shows me their true character in my time of need!. Not everyone will judge you like that, so just look for those who wont!. I'm so sorry, and I wish there was more I could say!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am really sorry for the situation you are in!. I can't help you but I can lead you to a site that help's people in such situations as your if not worse!.
http://www!.kidshelpphone!.ca/en/home!.asp
They will help you!
They might not but what they will do is give you options and help you understand the possibillites of making the situation better even if may not look like there is hope (I am not saying there isn't or that you don't see hope!.!.it's just an assumption)!.!.!.I realy hope that website help's you! Really!
I am sorry that you are in such a situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
http://www!.kidshelpphone!.ca/en/home!.asp
They will help you!
They might not but what they will do is give you options and help you understand the possibillites of making the situation better even if may not look like there is hope (I am not saying there isn't or that you don't see hope!.!.it's just an assumption)!.!.!.I realy hope that website help's you! Really!
I am sorry that you are in such a situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
im sorry!.!.i had an experience like that but it happened to me and my family blames me for tearing the family apart!. the only thing i can tell you to do is to try to get a hold of your friends parent and explain yourself!. explain why you did what you did and make them believe it was the right thing to do!. Also with your family sit them down and tell them if they would rather have a person that is like family being molested and hurt and damaged forever or have one family member with MENTAL issues in there family that could hurt so many more people they care about!. Look if you ever need some help you can e-mail me, im kinda alone too!. allee0718@yahoo!.comWww@Answer-Health@Com
I would first report this incident to the police, family or no family, the man has tried to destroy everything you hold dear and he will do it again, and again, and again and again, the faces only change, not the perpretator!.!.!.
It seems that you are suffereing from survivor's guilt, a form of Post tramatic stress disorder when someone witnesses or is part of something terrible but not directly affected, they are disturbed by the fact that it happened to someone else and not them!.!.!.I know at your age, it sems tough to do things without the help and guidance of your parents, but it seems like your mom checked out on you!.!.!.
My advice would be to tell someone in your school, a teacher, guidance sounselor, or school psychiatrist, if this fails and the police acannot help, then I would report THEM and the whole incident you described to your states Association for Child Protection, I don't know what state your in, but you can find the information on your home state's home web page, or simply dial 411 (if your in the US) and they can help you!.!.!.!.!.
Here is the number for the NATIONAL child abuse hotline:
1-800-4-A-CHILDWww@Answer-Health@Com
It seems that you are suffereing from survivor's guilt, a form of Post tramatic stress disorder when someone witnesses or is part of something terrible but not directly affected, they are disturbed by the fact that it happened to someone else and not them!.!.!.I know at your age, it sems tough to do things without the help and guidance of your parents, but it seems like your mom checked out on you!.!.!.
My advice would be to tell someone in your school, a teacher, guidance sounselor, or school psychiatrist, if this fails and the police acannot help, then I would report THEM and the whole incident you described to your states Association for Child Protection, I don't know what state your in, but you can find the information on your home state's home web page, or simply dial 411 (if your in the US) and they can help you!.!.!.!.!.
Here is the number for the NATIONAL child abuse hotline:
1-800-4-A-CHILDWww@Answer-Health@Com
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