How do i help my 15 year old son who has admitted to self harming?!
Question: How do i help my 15 year old son who has admitted to self harming!?
he has been doing it for a while but just told me,i asked if he wanted professional help but he's not ready for that yet !.i told him i would listen and help him all i could!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Its great that youre being supportive, so many people aren't and it will help him to know you're there for him!. I think people will ask for help when they think they need it, I don't think it's the kind of thing that can be rushed so he will need to go at his own pace and if you're ready to help him and be there for him, like talking when he wants to but not pushing him then that would be great!. He will probably benifit from some sort of professional help, I personally found CBT cognative behavioural therapy very helpful, and it's better to deal with things sooner rarther than later, I wish I had not left it so late before geting help, just my thoughts though!. If he doesn't want to actually go to someone for help yet he could try a support group online, I found this site helpful and informative http://www!.recoveryourlife!.com/
this site has some useful info for family members of someone who self harms http://www!.palace!.net/~llama/selfinjury/ I think it's important not to issue ultimatums, as they almost never work, and not to invade the persons privacy by doing some sort of body checks and things like that, you may want to get some help and support for yourself as dealing with a family member who self harms can at times be emotionally draining!. I hope everything goes ok and he can start to get better soon!. Take careWww@Answer-Health@Com
this site has some useful info for family members of someone who self harms http://www!.palace!.net/~llama/selfinjury/ I think it's important not to issue ultimatums, as they almost never work, and not to invade the persons privacy by doing some sort of body checks and things like that, you may want to get some help and support for yourself as dealing with a family member who self harms can at times be emotionally draining!. I hope everything goes ok and he can start to get better soon!. Take careWww@Answer-Health@Com
Although your son says he doesn't want professional help, I think deep down inside, that is what he needs!. (And I also think he knows this, which is why he told you in the first place)!.
You need to talk to your son about seeing a therapist and help him overcome the fear that is holding him back from getting the help he needs!. This is absolutely the best and only thing you can do for him!. He's going through a dark time in his life and he needs not only your support, but the support of a professional!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to talk to your son about seeing a therapist and help him overcome the fear that is holding him back from getting the help he needs!. This is absolutely the best and only thing you can do for him!. He's going through a dark time in his life and he needs not only your support, but the support of a professional!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You're being a good parent, and it is really good that he has told you!. It shows that he can confide in you and that he trusts you!. I disagree with those that are saying take him for professional help asap, I think it's the worst thing that you could do, and it will also break the trust!. I agree to not hiding objects or checking for scars!. I would believe that he knows what he is doing, it's not dangerous unless he has been having suicidal thoughts!. Let him take his time, it's just his way of coping with whatever he is going through and it does help (at least in the short term)!. Try to find out any problems, but don't pressure him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Know that you are not a bad parent and it is not your fault!. Don't be angry and tell your son you love him every night!. Don't hide sharp objects or check for scars, that will just force him to get better at hiding it!. Tell him that you can't let him suffer in secret anymore and even if he is unable or unwilling to talk to a therapist, his family will always be there!. Medication helped me, but be wary of antidepressants if there is a chance of bipolar disorder!.
I do not have personal experience with Dialectical behavioral therapy but I know it helps a lot of people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I do not have personal experience with Dialectical behavioral therapy but I know it helps a lot of people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I suggest you register with the National Self Harm Network website!. It's a registered charity so you will find good help and support there!. One of the support forums is for 'Friends and Family' which I hope you'll find useful!. Another site worth registering with is www!.dailystrength!.org which also has a self injury forum!. I hope these sites prove useful to both yourself and your son and I wish you the best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
At least he has admitted it to you, that first step is really, really hard to do, trust me!
He is probably scared of getting professional help (if he is anything like me) but yeah, he probably has a reason for it so try talking to him !.!.!.!.I know it will be hard but dont go on and on if you know what I mean, or he may wish he hadnt told you
sorry its not much help just trying to help a bit!Www@Answer-Health@Com
He is probably scared of getting professional help (if he is anything like me) but yeah, he probably has a reason for it so try talking to him !.!.!.!.I know it will be hard but dont go on and on if you know what I mean, or he may wish he hadnt told you
sorry its not much help just trying to help a bit!Www@Answer-Health@Com
First of im amazed that he told you, I could never tell anyone, but its great that your so supportive, now he's told you, maybe in his mind he knows nows the time to get help and thats what telling you is, its his cry for help before it gets worse!. All you can really do is listen and wait until he is ready for the professional help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Is he an emo!?
I think you just need to listen to him!. All he wants is for you to understand him!. Taking him to professional help, may sound like a good idea to you, but he will HATE you for it!. And I mean proper hate!. You just need to hear him out, ask him why he's doing it!. Don't involve the staff at school, either!. He must just be understood!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you just need to listen to him!. All he wants is for you to understand him!. Taking him to professional help, may sound like a good idea to you, but he will HATE you for it!. And I mean proper hate!. You just need to hear him out, ask him why he's doing it!. Don't involve the staff at school, either!. He must just be understood!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That is the start, and he has done well to admit to you!.
Take time with him, and I am sure he will come through this OK!.
Self harmers do it for a reason, find out what that is, and work on changing his atitude to it!.
(easier said than done, but not impossible)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Take time with him, and I am sure he will come through this OK!.
Self harmers do it for a reason, find out what that is, and work on changing his atitude to it!.
(easier said than done, but not impossible)Www@Answer-Health@Com
If he tells you what he's doing hedont want to hurt him self!.he's playing you but he does need help!. Take him to a Dr!. tell them what he does!. they will help!. Be strong for him things will get better!. good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Cutting releases endorphins, hence it "makes him feel good!." You must take him for professional help ASAP!. There is an underlying cause to why he is self mutilating which can only be brought to the surface through counseling!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you're lucky you have a son who would open up to you!. dont tell him he has a mental problem or anything!. talk to him!. ask him if he feels lonley in anyway or if something's wrong!.Www@Answer-Health@Com