How do I know if I am normal?!
Question: How do I know if I am normal!?
I am a stay at home parent and my only child will be going to school in the Fall!. I am sad and anxious about this!. I posted a question in the parenting section about this and they all say it's normal, but I feel like I am not going to get through this very well!. Are there any guide lines anyone can give me as to whether or not I need some sort of therapy!? This is so hard!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Well, you know yourself better than any of us!. Determine exactly what you are feeling sad and anxious about: that you will be alone during the day, that you are afraid of your child being away from you, that you have lost your worth because you only define yourself as "mother", you hate your husband, your husband is not supportive, etc!. Only you by looking inside of yourself, determine the reason you feel this way!. Yes, it is normal that people feel this way - we all get sad but we do get over it - but if you think you are overly sad and anxious, you need to think about the specific why behind it!. If you are unable to figure this out on your own, or if you find that you are unable to "get a life" by taking up a hobby or doing something fulfilling, then perhaps you should talk to a counselor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think it is absolutely normal to feel the way you are doing!. So the advice you got was quite right!. It might be useful for you to take up a class or other activity at the same time (hours and date) your child joins school!. This will help you stay focused on something else while the child is at school!.
Also, it might be a good idea to talk about this to a "stay at home" friend or relative and take help in trying it out in the meantime!. On a weekday, pretend you are sending off your child to school, do everything, like pack a lunch, wake your child up, get him/her ready, and take him to the friend/relative's place!. Pick up your child at the appointed hour!.Don't call your friend every half hour to find out how your child is doing!.!.!. Try this out for a couple of days!. It may also help your child tp get ready!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also, it might be a good idea to talk about this to a "stay at home" friend or relative and take help in trying it out in the meantime!. On a weekday, pretend you are sending off your child to school, do everything, like pack a lunch, wake your child up, get him/her ready, and take him to the friend/relative's place!. Pick up your child at the appointed hour!.Don't call your friend every half hour to find out how your child is doing!.!.!. Try this out for a couple of days!. It may also help your child tp get ready!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Get your focus off of you!
In this way you will become preoccupied with other
passtimes!. The focus is on 'our fellow - man ', remember!?
In your case your child, your neighbors, the older folks
in an old age home,(nearby)
the folks who are all 'Hospital Bound'
(nearby)
Yeah you are normal!.!.!.
Now Go OUT & expand your normal(ness) and
& be BEYOND NORMAL!.!.!.
The person your town is waiting for!
This is what your friends & neighbors are waiting for
someone who counts! i!.e!., A Force for Good!Www@Answer-Health@Com
In this way you will become preoccupied with other
passtimes!. The focus is on 'our fellow - man ', remember!?
In your case your child, your neighbors, the older folks
in an old age home,(nearby)
the folks who are all 'Hospital Bound'
(nearby)
Yeah you are normal!.!.!.
Now Go OUT & expand your normal(ness) and
& be BEYOND NORMAL!.!.!.
The person your town is waiting for!
This is what your friends & neighbors are waiting for
someone who counts! i!.e!., A Force for Good!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I remember it well and my daughter is 23 now!.!.omg I had more anxiety than she did, before she started 1st grade I brought her to a preschool a few hours a week it did us Both a world of good!.!.it's normal how you're feeling, I walked away from that bus stop in tears, which by the way I didn't let my daughter see!.
It would also be helpful to get a part time job lined up!. this will soon pass, just remember all the other 'firsts" and they felt just as stressful but you got over all of that too!. All the :first are both happy and sad all jumbled up together!.!.good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
It would also be helpful to get a part time job lined up!. this will soon pass, just remember all the other 'firsts" and they felt just as stressful but you got over all of that too!. All the :first are both happy and sad all jumbled up together!.!.good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
maybe you're just overly worried about your child!.you can talk to a counselor if you want!.if you starting to worried again think something positive like your child will be safe,nothing is gonna happen to him!.you'll feel better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That's normal, what you need is a hobby or something to keep you busy during the day!. If you are a MILF, I would be happy to help you find something fun and constructive to do!Www@Answer-Health@Com
yes, believe me, every parent has to go through the anxiety!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ask your other friends weither you are pretty or notWww@Answer-Health@Com
First to answer your question, there are places online where you can *start* to get answers!. For example, you might want to do a few depression screening tests, such as this one:
http://depression!.about!.com/cs/diagnosis!.!.!.
If it looks like you're actually dealing with depression, then you'd want to do a google search on depression as well as talk to your doctor!. Much depression is caused by physical, as opposed to emotional, problems!. For instance, if you have not been eating well, your brain is not getting enough nutrition and could be reacting with depression!. Hormonal shifts in perimenopause can also cause depression!. Sometimes simply adding some a good multi-vitamin/mineral supplement can help!. Most people are very deficient in magnesium, which can lead to depression!. So, if you do test positive for depression, talk to your doctor AND to a good naturopath, someone who really understands nutrition!. http://www!.naturopathic!.org/findannd!.php
If you are not actually depressed, then you might try starting to build a life without your child being the center of it all the time!. Obviously your responsibility to your child is one of the most important jobs you have, but it should not be your only one!. What interests do you have!? Find a local or online group of people involved in things you like to do and get to know them!. Learn something, take a class, try something new!. The time your child is in school is now yours to develop yourself!. Your child will need a Mom who he or she can look up to and learn from!. The more well-rounded you are, the more your child can learn from you!. Take care of yourself first or you will have little to offer your child!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
http://depression!.about!.com/cs/diagnosis!.!.!.
If it looks like you're actually dealing with depression, then you'd want to do a google search on depression as well as talk to your doctor!. Much depression is caused by physical, as opposed to emotional, problems!. For instance, if you have not been eating well, your brain is not getting enough nutrition and could be reacting with depression!. Hormonal shifts in perimenopause can also cause depression!. Sometimes simply adding some a good multi-vitamin/mineral supplement can help!. Most people are very deficient in magnesium, which can lead to depression!. So, if you do test positive for depression, talk to your doctor AND to a good naturopath, someone who really understands nutrition!. http://www!.naturopathic!.org/findannd!.php
If you are not actually depressed, then you might try starting to build a life without your child being the center of it all the time!. Obviously your responsibility to your child is one of the most important jobs you have, but it should not be your only one!. What interests do you have!? Find a local or online group of people involved in things you like to do and get to know them!. Learn something, take a class, try something new!. The time your child is in school is now yours to develop yourself!. Your child will need a Mom who he or she can look up to and learn from!. The more well-rounded you are, the more your child can learn from you!. Take care of yourself first or you will have little to offer your child!.Www@Answer-Health@Com