Why do I keep having negative thoughts of my dad dying?!
Question: Why do I keep having negative thoughts of my dad dying!?
Few years ago I lost my mom in a car accident by a stupid drunk driver and so now its just me, my two sisters and my dad!. Lately I've been having thoughts of my dad dying and our world just crashing down!. I dont know what I'll do if I suddenly lose my dad like I lost my mom :-<
Almost every night I will cry myself to sleep just thinking of my dad dying some horrible death or from some disease!. Now Im very overprotective with him and telling him to be careful wherever he goes!.
How can I get rid of these negative thoughts!?
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Almost every night I will cry myself to sleep just thinking of my dad dying some horrible death or from some disease!. Now Im very overprotective with him and telling him to be careful wherever he goes!.
How can I get rid of these negative thoughts!?
ThanksWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Considering your tragic loss your thoughts are understandable!. I don't think you can control your thoughts but you can try to respond sensibly to them and keep telling yourself your father is safe and will be with you for a long time!. You also have to develop an independent attitude so you know you will be able to take care of yourself no matter what!.
My mother passed away when I was 16 and worried about my father doing the same!. There was a history of heart disease in his family!. I was like you in my thoughts!. My father did pass away at the age of 89 and not of heart disease, The years i spent worrying did nothing and were a waste of time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My mother passed away when I was 16 and worried about my father doing the same!. There was a history of heart disease in his family!. I was like you in my thoughts!. My father did pass away at the age of 89 and not of heart disease, The years i spent worrying did nothing and were a waste of time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I had similar problems but i had them eveery single night and then i started having them during the day and it got worse and worse until finally i had to go to the doctor cause i couldnt handle it anymore so i would tell u to plz go to the doctor cause if u let it advance more it dosent feel good u feel like s**t and i wouldnt like no one to go through what i went through he did give me medicine and i havent had that in like 6 months i feel much much better aint afraid anymoreWww@Answer-Health@Com
well you are just scared of losing someone who you love and who is very dear to your heart!.!.!.just pray and have trust in GOD!.!.!.he'll take good care of you and your family!.!.!.always remember that your DAD loves you and whether he's dead or alive he's always in your heart!.!.!.he's just a prayer away!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Have you talked with your dad about this!. Maybe just talking about it can help you to find the courage te deal with your fears!.
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stop it now!. I had the weird dreams and thoughts to and then he did !.stop it now pleaseWww@Answer-Health@Com
my moms dad died when she was 11 just move on every fathers day send a ballon to the sky =]Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well my dear friend,I understand of your loss,My dad died 16 yrs ago,and there are times that i think about his death,but I have been enjoying my mother life,the first few yrs was very hard,cause there are times I would need his advice only to find that what he taught me many yrs ago b4 he left,has been changing the way I live an see life in a different way,,but I learn in the process,,,,If I was You I would Listen to "Katnkado",
she has a better perspective in being closer to your dad,with
the rest of your family too,Enjoy his Company,learn more from his past an his Experiences so when it does come you are a bit more prepare,,,But ask 'Jesus' to help you,in your
struggle to try to let go ,and relive with your dad,and enjoy his company,with lots of Love,Care,Joy,Asking many questions of his youth,how he met your mom,an all those others questions you have dots of,,,But Live OK!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
she has a better perspective in being closer to your dad,with
the rest of your family too,Enjoy his Company,learn more from his past an his Experiences so when it does come you are a bit more prepare,,,But ask 'Jesus' to help you,in your
struggle to try to let go ,and relive with your dad,and enjoy his company,with lots of Love,Care,Joy,Asking many questions of his youth,how he met your mom,an all those others questions you have dots of,,,But Live OK!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your worrying over the same type of thing (unexpected death) happening to dad is completely understandable!. No one can tell you that "it will never happen", because you already know that isn't true due to how your mom died!.
I also do NOT think that thinking this way is a complete negative!. You've certainly learned the value of having your dad in your life and do not want to lose him!.
However, a change in how you handle the thoughts will help you in preventing them from spoiling the rest of your life!. Instead of focusing on your dad dying and how terrible that would be, try focusing on how to make your life with him while he's alive a good one!.
Don't give up living out of fear of dying!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I also do NOT think that thinking this way is a complete negative!. You've certainly learned the value of having your dad in your life and do not want to lose him!.
However, a change in how you handle the thoughts will help you in preventing them from spoiling the rest of your life!. Instead of focusing on your dad dying and how terrible that would be, try focusing on how to make your life with him while he's alive a good one!.
Don't give up living out of fear of dying!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
fear of losing one more is real to anyone that has lost anyone including a child!.!.that is hard to today not ever feel as one lived to see a dead!.!.just pray for strenght to deal with it if that was to ever be!.!.we all lose them both!.!.but we never get over that either way as well it will be a sad time!.!.but we need to learn to face the reality of life!.!.we too need them to live forever,but facts are they do not!.!.sorry about your mother!.god will be with you to cope through life!.!.remember tho she can hear you !.!.!.so always say hello mom!.she too i am sure checks on all of you!.!.but she is near a good place too!.!.i lost a child too & know how you feel!.Www@Answer-Health@Com