My friend has been showing symptoms for two years what is this?!
Question: My friend has been showing symptoms for two years what is this!?
My friend has had these symptoms that I cannot understand are normal, can anyone relate to these or know if it is a specific mental health issue!?
-the inability to listen properly or take positive critisism
-seems to crave acceptance
-craves reassurance
-asks questions with only one answer - for example "do you think im ugly!?"
-jealous of anyone with success or having something good about them
-has to force opinions on people about topics that are out of his control such as terrorism,religion etc
-lack of social activities
-there have been times he has cried if I have called him a name in a joking manner, and then fixated on what I had called him
-the constant need to impress people even if it is out of his control
-will always be trying to prove people wrong by finding fault in what they say etc
-argues with nearly everything but cannot accept if you disagree with him
-goes through "phases" of addicting to things such as reading about topics etc then bombard me with infoWww@Answer-Health@Com
-the inability to listen properly or take positive critisism
-seems to crave acceptance
-craves reassurance
-asks questions with only one answer - for example "do you think im ugly!?"
-jealous of anyone with success or having something good about them
-has to force opinions on people about topics that are out of his control such as terrorism,religion etc
-lack of social activities
-there have been times he has cried if I have called him a name in a joking manner, and then fixated on what I had called him
-the constant need to impress people even if it is out of his control
-will always be trying to prove people wrong by finding fault in what they say etc
-argues with nearly everything but cannot accept if you disagree with him
-goes through "phases" of addicting to things such as reading about topics etc then bombard me with infoWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
narcissistic personality disorderWww@Answer-Health@Com
Asking questions like "do you think i'm ugly" is due to low self esteem, she's wanting validation from others!. That goes along with the craving acceptance and take positive criticism!.
She has to force opinions on people because she's not confident enough to just rely on her own opinion and possibly be wrong or have there be another option!.
Def!. low self esteem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
She has to force opinions on people because she's not confident enough to just rely on her own opinion and possibly be wrong or have there be another option!.
Def!. low self esteem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
it sounds like he has super low self esteem!. maybe he's depressed or was abused!. anyway, i wouldn't feed into the forcing opinion or begging for approval!. i would set him down, tell him he's swell and you like being his friend, but he needs to like himself before he can really grow a friendship!. and i would lay off the joking if he's taking it so seriously!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The first thing I thought of was severe low self-esteem!.
You said this person did not use to be this way, but something has happened to make this person change!.
Could he have been on drugs and you not know it and now the effects of the drugs have taken over!?
I don't know what to say!. This is strange!. Have you talked to any one who use to be friends with him to try and find out what is going on!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
You said this person did not use to be this way, but something has happened to make this person change!.
Could he have been on drugs and you not know it and now the effects of the drugs have taken over!?
I don't know what to say!. This is strange!. Have you talked to any one who use to be friends with him to try and find out what is going on!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like a severe case of adolescence!.
Fortunately, for most people, it is time limited!. Others NEVER (emotionally speaking) move out of this stage!. Perhaps that is the case for your friend!.
~M~Www@Answer-Health@Com
Fortunately, for most people, it is time limited!. Others NEVER (emotionally speaking) move out of this stage!. Perhaps that is the case for your friend!.
~M~Www@Answer-Health@Com
My son has Aspergers Syndrome and alot of that sounds like him!.!.!.!.if he had been like this a really long time I would also think Oppositional Defiant Disorder or possibly OCD!.!.!.or maybe he's just an a s s hole!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why are you friends with them!. Probably low self esteem and rather than trying to better himself is turning to the things you describe!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like he has serious insecurities !.He would probable do well to get some professional help, Soon!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Low self esteem issues, and possible manic depressive!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well if they are between the ages of about 12 and 20!. I would say they are just going through the phase of being a teenagerWww@Answer-Health@Com
low self a steam, hypochondriac, could be something to do with his upbringing!.!.!.!. always needs reassuring and very low in self confidence or feeling depressed, bring it up in convo that maybe seeing his doc for a wee bit of help and support like counselling and don't just ditch um help the guy out sound like he needs a good friend to stick by him in the tough times, but if he don't want to listen to ya then i think your gonna need to find a new pal or he isWww@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like he could be depressed or something to that effect!. As far as him getting excited over controversial issues, just because you are not as interested in them doesn't mean it's a weird symptom!. It means he's just on a certain subject kick, just like people go through material fads!.
But if you're concerned just pick an appropriate time and let him know you're concerned!. Ask him if he has anything going on in his life that is bothering him that he needs to share!. Ask him if he has thought about the fact that he may be depressed or something!. Ask him if he wants support in getting help if he feels that he might need it!. But don't come off as pushy, that won't help,!. Just come off as concerned and let him know you're there for support!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
But if you're concerned just pick an appropriate time and let him know you're concerned!. Ask him if he has anything going on in his life that is bothering him that he needs to share!. Ask him if he has thought about the fact that he may be depressed or something!. Ask him if he wants support in getting help if he feels that he might need it!. But don't come off as pushy, that won't help,!. Just come off as concerned and let him know you're there for support!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My guess: Narcissistic Personality Disorder is an actual disorder and the dynamics stem from an underlying sense of shame- there is actually a core sense of inadequacy that narcissistic personalities feel, however they use the defenses of projection and reaction formation in order to cope with the sense of shame by blaming other people and convincing themselves that they are special!.
Narcissists have generally been wounded (the term "narcissistic wounds" means injuries inflicted to someone's sense of self) early in life by being made to feel they are never good enough and constantly told they are inadequate!. These experiences cause the classic "narcissistic shame" that they feel and results in "narcissistic rage" reactions whenever they feel that someone is somehow disrespecting them or that someone's behavior reflects badly on them as it triggers those old wounds!. They are extremely sensitive to anything they perceive as criticism or disrespect and overreact with rages!. The people in their life that they are closest to become the targets for this rage (narcissists expect everyone to make up for all the love and appreciation they never got as children) and they are made to feel that they are never good enough (narcissists project their own sense of inadequacy onto those they love in order to not feel it themselves)!. They make their spouses and children feel they are worthless-again projecting their own feelings onto those around them!.
Another trait exhibited by narcissists is that they come across as extremely arrogant and self-righteous and seem self-confident!. This is the defense mechanism called reaction formation in action!. They see themselves as "special" and that only other especially talented and bright people can understand and relate to them!. They constantly feel that they don't get the recognition and respect that is their due and explain it by believing that others are too stupid and ignorant to appreciate them!. They are often envious of others who seem to have "more" than they have as narcissists feel they are more entitled than others!. They also tend to be preoccupied with fantasies of success, recognition, fame, etc!. as they need this in order to fill up the empty pit of inadequacy they feel!.
Narcissists appear extraordinarily selfish!. Everything that matters to them is about them!. They have little capacity to appreciate the needs or feelings of others as they themselves are empty pits of need and are too preoccupied with getting their own needs fulfilled to care about the needs of others!. Think of it like this- they are unable to give what they never got themselves!. Other people are important to them only to the degree that the other person reflects positively on them either by conveying some status to the narcissist or by worshipping the narcissist!. Again, it's all about them!.
Just from a historical perspective, because it's interesting, the term narcissism comes from the greek myth of narcissus who was so self-absorbed and in love with himself that he spent hours staring at his own reflection in the pond!. His arrogance offended the Gods and they turned him into the flower, the narcissus!.
Probably a whole lot more than you wanted to know, but that's it in a nutshell!. There are degrees of narcissism, and not all show every characteristic!. In defence of narcissists, and in order to work with them in therapy, you have to continually bear in mind that their behavior (which is often obnoxious) reflects very low self-esteem and an overwhelming sense of self-loathing!. It's important to bear that in mind because this is so well hidden by their defenses that it often goes unrecognized and it takes time to develop a true therapeutic alliance with them in order for them to feel safe enough to share this!. It's difficult enough in therapy, but living with one is a whole other matter because a relationship needs to go both ways and you have a right to expect things a narcissist is often incapable of giving consistently!. ====================== ================= ================== ===================== My standard post follows (what will fit in): CONFIDENCE/SELF ESTEEM!. Regularly monitor your internal monologue (self talk): write down the negative ones: "I'm pretty ugly" and then the converse: "I'm fairly good looking", and next time you become aware that you are thinking the former, visualise, as vividly as possible, a big "STOP!!!" sign, and deliberately repeat 5 times, either aloud, in a big voice, if alone, or subvocally (to yourself, in your mind), the converse affirmation!. Habits take about 30 - 40 repetitions to become established, with most people!.
Cease comparing yourself unfavorably with others, using the STOP sign: "I am a unique individual, with potential, and my own set of skills"!. Keep your head up, and look people in the eye, or on the bridge of their nose!. See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first!. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I !.!.(insert activity here)!.!." Section 47 also refers!. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you!. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you!.
Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at ezy-build also refer!. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem/confidence, I deeply and completely accept myself"!. ~~~ Read: "Lift your mood now!." by John D Preston, Psy!.D!. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc!., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland!. CA 94609 http://www!.amazon!.com/ may be worth trying for this, as it has a good section on building self esteem, using a different approach!.
1!. Build up your self-esteem!. You must take an inventory!. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others!? Try to make only one change at a time!. Always check you progress before making another change!.
2!. Celebrate your journey, not your destination!. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow!.
3!. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction!. Know what you want!. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals!. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly!. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference!.
4!. Be proactive!. Take the initiative!. Be decisive!. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you!. Proactive people tend to be more successful in their career!.
5!. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important!. (You'll be amazed how this works!.)
6!. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye!. Practice both of these!. Your handshake should be just right!. Not too firm and not too loose!. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person!.
7!. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills!. Learn a way to remember the other person's name!. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation!. [ AND MINE: USE THEIR NAME FOR A WHILE, OFTEN, AT FIRST, SO IT HAS A BETTER CHANCE OF MAKING THE TRANSITION FROM SHORT TERM, TO LONG TERM MEMORY!. FOR EXAMPLE: "What sort of things are you interested in, Obediah!? I like archery, and train spotting, but am no longer combining the two!." next: "I'm from Upper Volta, Obediah, Where are you from, originally!?" READ SECTION 41, AT EZY BUILD, FOR MORE MEMORY TIPS!.]
8!. Visibly respond to the other person!. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name!. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond!. The body language is the most important part of a conversation!. Practice, practice, practice
Narcissists have generally been wounded (the term "narcissistic wounds" means injuries inflicted to someone's sense of self) early in life by being made to feel they are never good enough and constantly told they are inadequate!. These experiences cause the classic "narcissistic shame" that they feel and results in "narcissistic rage" reactions whenever they feel that someone is somehow disrespecting them or that someone's behavior reflects badly on them as it triggers those old wounds!. They are extremely sensitive to anything they perceive as criticism or disrespect and overreact with rages!. The people in their life that they are closest to become the targets for this rage (narcissists expect everyone to make up for all the love and appreciation they never got as children) and they are made to feel that they are never good enough (narcissists project their own sense of inadequacy onto those they love in order to not feel it themselves)!. They make their spouses and children feel they are worthless-again projecting their own feelings onto those around them!.
Another trait exhibited by narcissists is that they come across as extremely arrogant and self-righteous and seem self-confident!. This is the defense mechanism called reaction formation in action!. They see themselves as "special" and that only other especially talented and bright people can understand and relate to them!. They constantly feel that they don't get the recognition and respect that is their due and explain it by believing that others are too stupid and ignorant to appreciate them!. They are often envious of others who seem to have "more" than they have as narcissists feel they are more entitled than others!. They also tend to be preoccupied with fantasies of success, recognition, fame, etc!. as they need this in order to fill up the empty pit of inadequacy they feel!.
Narcissists appear extraordinarily selfish!. Everything that matters to them is about them!. They have little capacity to appreciate the needs or feelings of others as they themselves are empty pits of need and are too preoccupied with getting their own needs fulfilled to care about the needs of others!. Think of it like this- they are unable to give what they never got themselves!. Other people are important to them only to the degree that the other person reflects positively on them either by conveying some status to the narcissist or by worshipping the narcissist!. Again, it's all about them!.
Just from a historical perspective, because it's interesting, the term narcissism comes from the greek myth of narcissus who was so self-absorbed and in love with himself that he spent hours staring at his own reflection in the pond!. His arrogance offended the Gods and they turned him into the flower, the narcissus!.
Probably a whole lot more than you wanted to know, but that's it in a nutshell!. There are degrees of narcissism, and not all show every characteristic!. In defence of narcissists, and in order to work with them in therapy, you have to continually bear in mind that their behavior (which is often obnoxious) reflects very low self-esteem and an overwhelming sense of self-loathing!. It's important to bear that in mind because this is so well hidden by their defenses that it often goes unrecognized and it takes time to develop a true therapeutic alliance with them in order for them to feel safe enough to share this!. It's difficult enough in therapy, but living with one is a whole other matter because a relationship needs to go both ways and you have a right to expect things a narcissist is often incapable of giving consistently!. ====================== ================= ================== ===================== My standard post follows (what will fit in): CONFIDENCE/SELF ESTEEM!. Regularly monitor your internal monologue (self talk): write down the negative ones: "I'm pretty ugly" and then the converse: "I'm fairly good looking", and next time you become aware that you are thinking the former, visualise, as vividly as possible, a big "STOP!!!" sign, and deliberately repeat 5 times, either aloud, in a big voice, if alone, or subvocally (to yourself, in your mind), the converse affirmation!. Habits take about 30 - 40 repetitions to become established, with most people!.
Cease comparing yourself unfavorably with others, using the STOP sign: "I am a unique individual, with potential, and my own set of skills"!. Keep your head up, and look people in the eye, or on the bridge of their nose!. See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first!. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I !.!.(insert activity here)!.!." Section 47 also refers!. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you!. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you!.
Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at ezy-build also refer!. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem/confidence, I deeply and completely accept myself"!. ~~~ Read: "Lift your mood now!." by John D Preston, Psy!.D!. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc!., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland!. CA 94609 http://www!.amazon!.com/ may be worth trying for this, as it has a good section on building self esteem, using a different approach!.
1!. Build up your self-esteem!. You must take an inventory!. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others!? Try to make only one change at a time!. Always check you progress before making another change!.
2!. Celebrate your journey, not your destination!. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow!.
3!. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction!. Know what you want!. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals!. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly!. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference!.
4!. Be proactive!. Take the initiative!. Be decisive!. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you!. Proactive people tend to be more successful in their career!.
5!. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important!. (You'll be amazed how this works!.)
6!. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye!. Practice both of these!. Your handshake should be just right!. Not too firm and not too loose!. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person!.
7!. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills!. Learn a way to remember the other person's name!. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation!. [ AND MINE: USE THEIR NAME FOR A WHILE, OFTEN, AT FIRST, SO IT HAS A BETTER CHANCE OF MAKING THE TRANSITION FROM SHORT TERM, TO LONG TERM MEMORY!. FOR EXAMPLE: "What sort of things are you interested in, Obediah!? I like archery, and train spotting, but am no longer combining the two!." next: "I'm from Upper Volta, Obediah, Where are you from, originally!?" READ SECTION 41, AT EZY BUILD, FOR MORE MEMORY TIPS!.]
8!. Visibly respond to the other person!. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name!. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond!. The body language is the most important part of a conversation!. Practice, practice, practice
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