Do you guys have troublke dating with your mental illness?!
Question: Do you guys have troublke dating with your mental illness!?
I went on two dates recently; on one I told the girl I was schizoaffective and she walked out of the coffee shop and told me she knows someone who is mentally ill and he beat someone with a baseball bat!. I have never harmed a fly and this insulted me deeply!.
Date #2 the girl was totally cool with it!. She wasn't mentally ill, but she was nuts, if you know what I mean, and I am pretty sure she was doing coke in the bathroom!.
Is there any hope for me!? I haven't had a girlfriend in 8 years and the loneliness is really getting to me!. I have tried numerous dating site and as soon as I disclose my illness they bail!. I tried dating other mentally ill people but I found that one sick person in a relationship is hard enough, but two is nearly impossible!. What's a guy to do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Date #2 the girl was totally cool with it!. She wasn't mentally ill, but she was nuts, if you know what I mean, and I am pretty sure she was doing coke in the bathroom!.
Is there any hope for me!? I haven't had a girlfriend in 8 years and the loneliness is really getting to me!. I have tried numerous dating site and as soon as I disclose my illness they bail!. I tried dating other mentally ill people but I found that one sick person in a relationship is hard enough, but two is nearly impossible!. What's a guy to do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
hey, luvli boy, just don't own up to it!.!.!.!.pretend to be normal, that way you can keep a relationship together for a little while!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i haveanxiety and bi polar and my lady loves me and loves me for me!. if people are that shallow let them be!. your a good person who needs a good person who will love you and repsect you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This something that your doctor should be
able to solve!.
He is expert on mental illness !.Www@Answer-Health@Com
able to solve!.
He is expert on mental illness !.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sadly my depression etc has caused the breakup of my relationship!. After 3!.5 years together she simply couldn't handle it anymore!. We're both young and she wants to be happy, I cannot begrudge her that!. I know she loves me and leaving me was very hard, but sometimes people have to think of themselves first!. So in answer to the question, yes I have trouble!. I think I'd need someone who is very strong and prepared for everything I am likely to throw at them (not literally I never hit my girlfriend)!. I made the mistake of never really explaining it all to her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Not that you should have to, but just don't tell people until they get to know you better so that they can see you as a separate entity to the condition that you HAVE it, but not that you are it!.
Build trust in a relationship first so people judge you on your own merits and flaws, so when they find out, your condition simply becomes another aspect of you, not defining you!. I essentially got potential partners to 'see me' first before I hit them with the news about my condition!. Most of them are willing to take me on because they see me as worthwhile and decide that while it can be a minus, the benefits of being with me far out weigh the bipolar!.
I've been in a few long term relationships with guys who knew about my bipolar first and I think the reasons these worked was because I worked on getting them to see me as I was, getting to know the real me and didn't make an issue of my condition (unless it became an issue which it has once or twice when I got unwell!.!.!.) I learned that it is best to let them in and let them support me if they want to, because it seems the more involved they were, the less phased they were by mental illness in general!.
Being open was something really important in these previous relationships and I think really helped the guys to be more accepting of it!. When explaining my condition, I just did it in a casual but matter of fact way and answered any questions as honestly as I could, without being melodramatic or too negative!. I found 'education' was part of what made things work because it was easier for the other to relate to me and what I was going through, even if they didn't always understand it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Build trust in a relationship first so people judge you on your own merits and flaws, so when they find out, your condition simply becomes another aspect of you, not defining you!. I essentially got potential partners to 'see me' first before I hit them with the news about my condition!. Most of them are willing to take me on because they see me as worthwhile and decide that while it can be a minus, the benefits of being with me far out weigh the bipolar!.
I've been in a few long term relationships with guys who knew about my bipolar first and I think the reasons these worked was because I worked on getting them to see me as I was, getting to know the real me and didn't make an issue of my condition (unless it became an issue which it has once or twice when I got unwell!.!.!.) I learned that it is best to let them in and let them support me if they want to, because it seems the more involved they were, the less phased they were by mental illness in general!.
Being open was something really important in these previous relationships and I think really helped the guys to be more accepting of it!. When explaining my condition, I just did it in a casual but matter of fact way and answered any questions as honestly as I could, without being melodramatic or too negative!. I found 'education' was part of what made things work because it was easier for the other to relate to me and what I was going through, even if they didn't always understand it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
People think just because you have a mental disorder makes you 100% different from being normal!. IT DOESN'T!!! I have anxiety really bad and when I go out on dates I start to randomly freak out, like i have to leave or something!. My sister is Bi-polar and she is getting married in 2 weeks!. You just have to find someone that is willing to be helpful and understanding during your illness!. Try not saying it on the first date, but maybe a little later when you know things are working out!. She might be a little more understanding especially since she knows you aren't out of control Psycho!Www@Answer-Health@Com
i'm schizoaffective, bipolar type, and just got married!
i never had trouble dating!.
what i suggest is letting people get to know you first, and then when you're sure that they know you for you, tell them about how you need to take meds and keep your condition under control, etc!.
there's no reason to suffer and be lonely because of our condition!.
it's also such a personal thing!. it isn't something that i feel (for myself) is appropriate to reveal unless there is some relationship there anyway!. you're not lying, you're just protecting your privacy until you get to know someone and they get to know you for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i never had trouble dating!.
what i suggest is letting people get to know you first, and then when you're sure that they know you for you, tell them about how you need to take meds and keep your condition under control, etc!.
there's no reason to suffer and be lonely because of our condition!.
it's also such a personal thing!. it isn't something that i feel (for myself) is appropriate to reveal unless there is some relationship there anyway!. you're not lying, you're just protecting your privacy until you get to know someone and they get to know you for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com