Question about moving on after a death?!


Question: Question about moving on after a death!?
7 months ago I lost someone who was VERY dear to my heart (he drowned) & i loved him & never told him now its too late!. Now that he is gone life is not the same!. Ive changed alot & i know ill never be the same person that i was before!. When he died he took apart of me!.!.!. Now im doing ok!. I have been accepting his death little by little but i have my days when i think of him & cry But then theres day That i think of him & smile cause he changed my life & im happy to have had him in my life!. But!.!.!.!. I am having some issues right now because i never got to tell him i loved him & i never knew how he really felt about me!. This is hard for me because i know ill never know!. I just cant seem to move on because my hearts still crys for him & im still in love with him!. This is very aggervating to me!. How do i move on from this!?!?!? I have so many questions that i want to ask him but i know i can't!. I guess i feel un-complete inside!. I need closesure but i dunno how to stop the way i feel!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Tell him you love him every day, he can hear you don't ever doubt that, this is a real lesson to you to live a hugely good life for you and think of him when you are having a good time, nobody dies and thinks "oh, good god, all those people left behind have to sob in a heap and change everything as I am not here" If he loved you like you love him, he would be extremely pissed off that you are so sad!. Ask him before you go to sleep, maybe a dream will give you some quirky answer!. We as humans don't have the answer to all things, Grieve happily, he was happy wasn't he, and that's the way he would want you to be, and have a quiet cry when needed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

This happens to many people after the loss of a loved one!. They think about every word that went unsaid, every thing left undone!. Try to think of the things that you did say to him!. You can't simply move on from things like this, but you will learn to live with it!. Take comfort that he's in a better place, and that you'll meet him there!. Perhaps he's even waiting for you!. Do not cry because it's over!. Smile, because it happened!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If you have a picture of him, talk to the picture and tell him your feelingss!. If you don't have a picture, do this anyway!. It does help!. There is no way you can bring him back to have this talk, but saying it out loud does help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

this is a difficult & hurtful time for you!. As time passes things will get better, !.!.!.!. I think he will stay in your mind as a happy memory & a good spirit!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

One of my childhood friend died instantly in a car accident!. Now the only thing that i still regret until now is i didn't go for his funeral!. When i think of him is very heart-breaking to me!. I keep thinking how is he doing now in the other side of the world!. But, i accept the fact that now he is gone, even though i feel horrible about that, he will never come back!. But he still remains a very good friend in my heart and i will never forget him for the rest of my life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Im sorry girl I know how it feels to lose someone & I just gotta say that what you feeling is the whats ifs & what could have been!. That is normal!. You didnt tell him you loved him but im sure he knew it & loved you too!. Just be happy knowing that he is safe with god now & that he is watching over you!. Time does heal all wounds but you'll never forget him!. He is safe with you in your heart!. & when he died , he did take apart of you with him!. I hope all gets better for you!. You don't have to let go !. Just move on with life & be happy!. Cause thats what he would have wanted for you!. =)Www@Answer-Health@Com

Don't laugh!.!.!.This may sound really lame but this is what I did after my gramma passed away when I was 9 and what I did when a very good friend passed last October!. I wrote a note to them explaining everything I felt!. I was angry at them for leaving me, angry at myself for not doing more to let them know how I felt, etc!. Then I tied it to a balloon and let it go outside!. It was more symbolic than anything- them "getting" my note and my feelings finally leaving me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I started writing down my memories so that I would never forget them!. This also helps with dealing with a lot of emotional things that you feel you can't tell anyone!. I keep a journal for my loved one so that everyone else can see what they meant to me!.

The next question that I had was, when does the pain began to ease!. The answer I got was, it never really does, it just gets easier to handle!. What they mean by this is that time may not heal all wounds but it does help you to deal with them!. I don't believe that time heals all wounds because these wounds will never heal!. They say that over time you will began to replace the hurtful feelings that you get, with good memories of your love one!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It is necessary to convince yourself that he is gone and life moves on!. This is the way life is structured for normal people!. A normal person will mourn and think about a departed soul for some time however the pain will slowly diminish but the love for the person will probably remain if it is real!. There is nothing in thinking about the person who died considering whether he loved you, or how he felt about you!. /but remember he is gone and you will never know for certain how he felt about you!. /perhaps a friend can throw some light on the subject!? In any event it would be wise if you shift you thoughts to other people of your acquantance!. Perhaps there is someone who can fill in!. /Don't say you know immediately!.!.!.give it time!. Go out with others and see how this works!. Don't harp on the subject because if you do you could become obsessed and ill!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It's really horrible, when you didn't get to say the things that you wanted to when he was here!.!.!.but somehow, I think he knew that you cared a lot!.!.!.and you probably felt the same way!.!.!.Don't stress over what you cannot change right now,!.!.he is sleeping, as the deceased know nothing!.!.!.so says the Bible!.!.!.!.!.try to remember all of the good times you have had, and know that he would want you to go forward!.!.!.it just wasn't meant to be, !.!.as far as what you said or didn't say!.!.!.Pray to God and Jesus, to help you overcome this,and your prayers will be heard!.!.!.I promiseWww@Answer-Health@Com





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