When you are in AA, they tell you not to start any relationships?!
Question: When you are in AA, they tell you not to start any relationships!?
for the first 12 months!. but what if you are already involved in one!? do you have to end it to successfully quit using!? and i don't mean specifically with AA, i mean NA, SA (pretty much all the A's)Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I'm starting to figure out why it wasn't a good idea for me to start a relationship or work on a failing relationship early in sobriety!. Throughout my recovery process, I'm noticing that my tastes are changing!. My likes!. My dislikes!. I'm not interested in the same type of person I was interested in just a few months ago!. Also, I started a relationship with another person in recovery!. She used to tell me that she would still be using if it weren't for me!. Talk about pressure! I starting realizing that she wasn't the one for me but let the relationship linger on because I didn't want her to use!. I know, everyone says "It's her decision!. Your not responsible!." But, I felt responsible because I'm still growing!. I'm still developing into the responsible, self-sufficient adult I should've been all along!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, they do advise you to avoid new relationships for a year!. They don't make you do anything, though!.
The reason behind it is this; it's that much harder to quit if your partner is still using!. If your boyfriend does not use drugs or drink and plans on being supportive during your recovery, then that's wonderful!. A lot of married people go through AA!. It's not required that you be single to recover!. It's often very hard on a relationship, though!.
For example, my friend is in AA!. She just got out of rehab!. She's doing really great, but her husband still drinks!. There is alcohol all over the house!. He expects her to mix cocktails at dinner parties!. He's not very supportive!. She is an alcoholic and he is surrounding her with temptation!. It's a bad situation!. She's staying with it, but it's not easy!. She's thinking about getting a divorce because of it!. I mean, would you hand a staring person in Africa a loaf of bread to hold, then tell them they couldn't eat any!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
The reason behind it is this; it's that much harder to quit if your partner is still using!. If your boyfriend does not use drugs or drink and plans on being supportive during your recovery, then that's wonderful!. A lot of married people go through AA!. It's not required that you be single to recover!. It's often very hard on a relationship, though!.
For example, my friend is in AA!. She just got out of rehab!. She's doing really great, but her husband still drinks!. There is alcohol all over the house!. He expects her to mix cocktails at dinner parties!. He's not very supportive!. She is an alcoholic and he is surrounding her with temptation!. It's a bad situation!. She's staying with it, but it's not easy!. She's thinking about getting a divorce because of it!. I mean, would you hand a staring person in Africa a loaf of bread to hold, then tell them they couldn't eat any!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
No you dont end an existing one!. Not unless it's a damaging, unhealthy one!. It isn't really about relationships (just) though!. Basically the message is not to make any lifechanging decisions, or put yourself in a new emotional situation while you get yourself clean!. Simply said, you want to avoid triggers and keep the focus on you as much as you can while you learn HOW to date, and manage stress, and be in social situations and enter emotional situations!.!.!. sober!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if your relationship is the cause or enabler of your drinking then you probably should, but if the relationship supports you and helps you then no!.
It's called 13th stepping-- when two AA people get involved in a relationship within the first year of being sober!. A relationship is very time consuming and you need to work on yourself in the first year (first 8 steps) so that is why they tell you not be involvedWww@Answer-Health@Com
It's called 13th stepping-- when two AA people get involved in a relationship within the first year of being sober!. A relationship is very time consuming and you need to work on yourself in the first year (first 8 steps) so that is why they tell you not be involvedWww@Answer-Health@Com
if your in AA they tell you not to start a newrelationship because u can just as easy swap your addiction from booze to someone else in which case if tht someone leaves it will be much easier for u to switch back to the booze
my buddy is the type and everything he does he gets incredibly addicted too!.!.!.he got off the booze for the most part and off most of the heavy drugs but he is now incredibly addicted to work!.!.(maybe not a bad thing) and incredibly addicted to his girlfreind!.!.but the bad i see is u can make booze do what you want it to!.!.!.females seem to have a mind of their own!.!.so he gets pretty riled up alot over herWww@Answer-Health@Com
my buddy is the type and everything he does he gets incredibly addicted too!.!.!.he got off the booze for the most part and off most of the heavy drugs but he is now incredibly addicted to work!.!.(maybe not a bad thing) and incredibly addicted to his girlfreind!.!.but the bad i see is u can make booze do what you want it to!.!.!.females seem to have a mind of their own!.!.so he gets pretty riled up alot over herWww@Answer-Health@Com
relationships,AA,!?well when i went we talked about our problem!.nothing came up about getting into a relationship!.maybe some things were said about our problem and how it affected a relationship that we were in!.but never getting into one!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have answered your own question!.
You are already in a relationship,so you are not going to start one,are you!?
Talk to one of the "Sages" at a meeting they will put you right!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are already in a relationship,so you are not going to start one,are you!?
Talk to one of the "Sages" at a meeting they will put you right!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
noWww@Answer-Health@Com