How hypocritical am I? I really need some help.?!
Question: How hypocritical am I!? I really need some help!.!?
Things are very bad!. I'm seeing a Therapist and it's been demanded that I take Prozac!. The Prozac has only made things worse, my thoughts of suicide have increased and my feeling of hopelessness and worthlessness have blown out of all proportion!.
I was going to move, to get away from everything!. The plan was to stay with my mother for awhile, she lives the other side of the country so I'd be miles from this hell hole!. Now however she's told me she doesn't want me there, because she "can't handle this"!. Her mother suffered from depression and tried to kill herself many times, but that is no reason for her to turn her back on her own Son!. Her only advice is "pull yourself out of it"!. I know I'm 19, and I'm old enough to look after myself!. But I need support so badly right now!.
My father is looking after my Prozac so I don't do anything stupid!. I'm just at a loss now!.!.!. My girlfriend leaving was the straw that broke the camels back!.!.!. Despite the fact that so many people are around meWww@Answer-Health@Com
I was going to move, to get away from everything!. The plan was to stay with my mother for awhile, she lives the other side of the country so I'd be miles from this hell hole!. Now however she's told me she doesn't want me there, because she "can't handle this"!. Her mother suffered from depression and tried to kill herself many times, but that is no reason for her to turn her back on her own Son!. Her only advice is "pull yourself out of it"!. I know I'm 19, and I'm old enough to look after myself!. But I need support so badly right now!.
My father is looking after my Prozac so I don't do anything stupid!. I'm just at a loss now!.!.!. My girlfriend leaving was the straw that broke the camels back!.!.!. Despite the fact that so many people are around meWww@Answer-Health@Com
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Before I say anything- I would like to thank you for your heart felt advice to me about my loneliness!. I'm still!.!. a wreck, but it's nice to hear of someone who gets it!.
I do not believe you are a hypocrite for your advice!. It just shows you know the theory and how things are supposed to work, but as always- saying and doing are very different things!. When you're in a tough place it's hard to get out even when you know what you have to do!.!.!.!. Like I know I need to get out of bed in the morning and occupy myself and think positively and eat (that is the advice I would give anyone else), but when the morning actually comes!.!.!.!. there's a part of me that just wants to lie there helplessly!. It's a tough battle!. I understand it!. I personally don't believe in taking medication to solve problems like this!. To me it's just like using any recreational drug to solve your problems (although if it does end up working stick with it)!. I would rather get to the root of the problem and figure out psychologically what it is that makes me the way I am!. Then turn whatever it is around!. Then I won't be dependent on a medication to be happy!. I'm sorry things did not work out with your mom!.!.!.!. I have a friend who moves constantly saying it was the place that messed him up, but his problems just follow him everywhere!. He is happy for a few weeks, but then he goes right back to how he was!. Maybe you should try looking at it as!.!.!. if you can make it where you are now- you can be happy anywhere!. I know it's hard, and I wish there was something happier and magical I could tell you to make it better, but there isn't!.!.!. Good luck, I feel for you very much!. Feel free to e-mail me or anything like that!. I'd be more than happy to help support you or at least give you someone to talk to!. I won't ever judge you!. Much love,
-Court-
After reading some of the other answers I would like to share one belief of mine with you- God may help you find a center (any religion is made for that), but I also think of God as a being who wants us to solve our own problems, and learn from them- not just cure you!. I have nothing against religion!.!. I just think there's more to it then believing and reading a book!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I do not believe you are a hypocrite for your advice!. It just shows you know the theory and how things are supposed to work, but as always- saying and doing are very different things!. When you're in a tough place it's hard to get out even when you know what you have to do!.!.!.!. Like I know I need to get out of bed in the morning and occupy myself and think positively and eat (that is the advice I would give anyone else), but when the morning actually comes!.!.!.!. there's a part of me that just wants to lie there helplessly!. It's a tough battle!. I understand it!. I personally don't believe in taking medication to solve problems like this!. To me it's just like using any recreational drug to solve your problems (although if it does end up working stick with it)!. I would rather get to the root of the problem and figure out psychologically what it is that makes me the way I am!. Then turn whatever it is around!. Then I won't be dependent on a medication to be happy!. I'm sorry things did not work out with your mom!.!.!.!. I have a friend who moves constantly saying it was the place that messed him up, but his problems just follow him everywhere!. He is happy for a few weeks, but then he goes right back to how he was!. Maybe you should try looking at it as!.!.!. if you can make it where you are now- you can be happy anywhere!. I know it's hard, and I wish there was something happier and magical I could tell you to make it better, but there isn't!.!.!. Good luck, I feel for you very much!. Feel free to e-mail me or anything like that!. I'd be more than happy to help support you or at least give you someone to talk to!. I won't ever judge you!. Much love,
-Court-
After reading some of the other answers I would like to share one belief of mine with you- God may help you find a center (any religion is made for that), but I also think of God as a being who wants us to solve our own problems, and learn from them- not just cure you!. I have nothing against religion!.!. I just think there's more to it then believing and reading a book!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell your Dr!. that the prozac isn't working for you!. Many times different medications must be tried to find one that works for you!. Everyone's chemical and mental makeup is different!. I had to go through three different meds befor I got the right one!. I'm not 100%, but about 75% better!. Good Luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Give the Prozac a chance to work it may take several weeks!. I would suggest you work with a psychiatrist, not a primary doctor for antidepressants!. I took Prozac for a long time without much luck, it made me feel different, but not necessarily better!. I started working with a psychiatrist, and was put on different anti depressants, ie wellbutrin, and effexor!. All antidepressants work on different parts of your brain, it may take some time to find the one that works the way you need it to work!. Don't give up, hand in there until things get better!.
Get into a counseling program and talk to people who have been through similar situations!. Mental health is a frustrating situation, especially when you are dealing with people that just don't understand what you are going through!. Please hang in there, although it may be tough, your life is worth it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Get into a counseling program and talk to people who have been through similar situations!. Mental health is a frustrating situation, especially when you are dealing with people that just don't understand what you are going through!. Please hang in there, although it may be tough, your life is worth it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you have never read the bible then you should give it a try!. What would be the harm!. Either it will comfort you or not!. In my deepest despair I have turn the pages and have always been given hope!. Your not alone and there is nothing to fear by learning about inner peace!. It may not happen for you over night but neither did your thoughts of suicide and hopelessness about your life!.
To answer your question about being a hypocrite, your not!. It's good for you to focus on other people and perhaps find some solitude in helping others!. Be kind to yourself and others around you will pick up on your sincerity!. Keep answering questions about things you know about!. Stay strong and take care of yourself, sweetie!. Have a good day!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
To answer your question about being a hypocrite, your not!. It's good for you to focus on other people and perhaps find some solitude in helping others!. Be kind to yourself and others around you will pick up on your sincerity!. Keep answering questions about things you know about!. Stay strong and take care of yourself, sweetie!. Have a good day!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As far as coming on here and giving advice!.!.!.if it is good advice, then it is a wonderful thing to do, and it can be very theraputic for you as well!.!.!.
Now, about these suicidal thoughts, you need to talk to your dr IMMEDIATELY!. You probably need a different antidepressant!. If you dr insists on giving you more Prozac, see ANOTHER dr!. It is well documented that people can react badly to some drugs, and your dr should have no problem prescribing you something else!.
Hold on; things will get better!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Now, about these suicidal thoughts, you need to talk to your dr IMMEDIATELY!. You probably need a different antidepressant!. If you dr insists on giving you more Prozac, see ANOTHER dr!. It is well documented that people can react badly to some drugs, and your dr should have no problem prescribing you something else!.
Hold on; things will get better!Www@Answer-Health@Com
The life of each and all of us has not only become so tiring; but also ill and sick!. We are unable to see the fine threads which build life and which drive us to work hard to do so; not only for our own selves, but also for those others who are our near and dear ones, loved ones, related ones, and friendly ones!.
As a result we not only have failed to know about them; learn about them and use them for earning and gaining benefits of them for ourselves and our relationships; but also have begun to know of them as non existant!.
It is a matter of fact of life; that life cannot exist in any one of us; without the support of life giving properties of life it self in others for the self; although man can exist!.without life; like your self and your mother in your case!.
You both; not only seem to be living a dead life instead of a lively and active life; but also have fear( like in your mom); and confusion, tension, stress etc!. ( like in your case); both of which have crossed their limitations; and have become the driving forces of life for each of you; driving you not only away from each other but also from life itself!.
Although its very sad and bad; but things have to be controlled; and you only seem to be the one who can do so inspite of such condition of your self and your situation!.
We all know the meaning of; and the work, and actions of help very wrongly!. We cannot know the true meaning of help when we have all that money, material goods, medicines, kindness, and machines for helping the self; which we think are helpful to the self; for giving life to self!.
Money, material goods, medicines, kindness, and machines cannot provide life giving properties of life itself to self!. We only can provide them to our selves and through the work, actions, and performances of self to others as well!.
We can know the true meaning of; and the work, and actions of help; only when we can help others in any way possible; but essantially with the support of life giving properties of life itself only; i!.e the spirits of joy, love, and compassion; and especially in those hard and difficult times when we our selves need such support for our own selves also; for becoming able to live life actively and lively!.
Nothing truly works in such times; eg!. Money, material goods, medicines, kindness, and machines!.
All that which truly work in hard and difficult times are; strong determinations, firmness of resolve, freewill and freedom of choice; together with will power of god in self i!.e!. spirits of joy, love and compassion; instead of mind power of self alone; i!.e the desire in the mind of self for seeking help for self and for helping others also, by self!.
These however; do not belong to man but to god alone; and only from god can they be asked for self; and only by god himself, can they be delivered to the self!.
To know the true meaning of help and to gain the benefits of its true meaning for the self as well; one has to use the above for truly working hard with labour, efforts, industry, and hard work of self!.
One has to work hard religiously, courageously and wisely; for the only purpose and reasons of giving the following to the needy; including the self;
a) freedom from fear;
b) joys of happiness of the body, mind, heart, and intelligence of the healthy-ness, wealthy-ness, and wisdom of life and the life giving properties in the nature of self;
c) hope of god and life itself, for self; and finally for;
d) togetherness of the self with powers, qualities and abilities of god himself; as described below!.
POWERS OF GOD
Humility, modesty, harmlessness, forebearance, uprightness, service/charity, purity, steadiness, self controll, dispassion for sense objects, absence of egoism, perception of evil and misry; not only in the actions and activities of birth, death, old age and illness in life; but also in those others who desire to help you without your asking help from them, constant equanimity even when evil befalls, and unswering devotion to god!.
QUALITIES OF GOD
Strengthening the charecter of self with abilities of realities of goodness, praiseworthiness, and auspeciousness; by working hard to deliver them only to the self
ABILITIES OF GOD
Empowering the personality of self with qualities of victory, glory, and unfailing righteousness;by working hard to gain them only in the confidence of self and as the confidence of self!.
The need of the times which you are facing at the moment is to focus rightly; upon those people, places and things; and those work, jobs, actions, and activities; which you know for sure would be the causes of the following; i!.e!. of;
developing the relationships of self with the help of joys and happiness of the healthy-ness, wealthy-ness, and wisdom of the body, mind, heart and intelligence of self only; and not with any other; primarily and essantially by driving and motivating the self to work hard for earning and gaining them only in the self and for the self!.
One can earn and gain all above; not only with their help only but also by using them only in the actions of self for earning and gaining all above!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As a result we not only have failed to know about them; learn about them and use them for earning and gaining benefits of them for ourselves and our relationships; but also have begun to know of them as non existant!.
It is a matter of fact of life; that life cannot exist in any one of us; without the support of life giving properties of life it self in others for the self; although man can exist!.without life; like your self and your mother in your case!.
You both; not only seem to be living a dead life instead of a lively and active life; but also have fear( like in your mom); and confusion, tension, stress etc!. ( like in your case); both of which have crossed their limitations; and have become the driving forces of life for each of you; driving you not only away from each other but also from life itself!.
Although its very sad and bad; but things have to be controlled; and you only seem to be the one who can do so inspite of such condition of your self and your situation!.
We all know the meaning of; and the work, and actions of help very wrongly!. We cannot know the true meaning of help when we have all that money, material goods, medicines, kindness, and machines for helping the self; which we think are helpful to the self; for giving life to self!.
Money, material goods, medicines, kindness, and machines cannot provide life giving properties of life itself to self!. We only can provide them to our selves and through the work, actions, and performances of self to others as well!.
We can know the true meaning of; and the work, and actions of help; only when we can help others in any way possible; but essantially with the support of life giving properties of life itself only; i!.e the spirits of joy, love, and compassion; and especially in those hard and difficult times when we our selves need such support for our own selves also; for becoming able to live life actively and lively!.
Nothing truly works in such times; eg!. Money, material goods, medicines, kindness, and machines!.
All that which truly work in hard and difficult times are; strong determinations, firmness of resolve, freewill and freedom of choice; together with will power of god in self i!.e!. spirits of joy, love and compassion; instead of mind power of self alone; i!.e the desire in the mind of self for seeking help for self and for helping others also, by self!.
These however; do not belong to man but to god alone; and only from god can they be asked for self; and only by god himself, can they be delivered to the self!.
To know the true meaning of help and to gain the benefits of its true meaning for the self as well; one has to use the above for truly working hard with labour, efforts, industry, and hard work of self!.
One has to work hard religiously, courageously and wisely; for the only purpose and reasons of giving the following to the needy; including the self;
a) freedom from fear;
b) joys of happiness of the body, mind, heart, and intelligence of the healthy-ness, wealthy-ness, and wisdom of life and the life giving properties in the nature of self;
c) hope of god and life itself, for self; and finally for;
d) togetherness of the self with powers, qualities and abilities of god himself; as described below!.
POWERS OF GOD
Humility, modesty, harmlessness, forebearance, uprightness, service/charity, purity, steadiness, self controll, dispassion for sense objects, absence of egoism, perception of evil and misry; not only in the actions and activities of birth, death, old age and illness in life; but also in those others who desire to help you without your asking help from them, constant equanimity even when evil befalls, and unswering devotion to god!.
QUALITIES OF GOD
Strengthening the charecter of self with abilities of realities of goodness, praiseworthiness, and auspeciousness; by working hard to deliver them only to the self
ABILITIES OF GOD
Empowering the personality of self with qualities of victory, glory, and unfailing righteousness;by working hard to gain them only in the confidence of self and as the confidence of self!.
The need of the times which you are facing at the moment is to focus rightly; upon those people, places and things; and those work, jobs, actions, and activities; which you know for sure would be the causes of the following; i!.e!. of;
developing the relationships of self with the help of joys and happiness of the healthy-ness, wealthy-ness, and wisdom of the body, mind, heart and intelligence of self only; and not with any other; primarily and essantially by driving and motivating the self to work hard for earning and gaining them only in the self and for the self!.
One can earn and gain all above; not only with their help only but also by using them only in the actions of self for earning and gaining all above!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hey friend, I'm sorry to hear about this issue!. Please listen close!.
This is predicament is one that I myself am familiar with!.
Desperation, depression, total abandon!.!.!.insecurity, fragility, resounding hurt, incessant reminders of pain!.!.!.!.bitter loneliness!.
Trust me when i say you are not alone!.!.!.but you need to know who is on your side!.
There is good news, though things seem desperate they are not hopeless!.
Don't move, Running away to another physical location to avoid an internal problem is pointless!. The issues are inside of you, so then wherever you go, those issues will trail!. You need freedom from them, you need rest for your mind and for your heart!. Jesus said in this world you will SUFFER tribulation!.!.!. Why!? because it is fallen world and people are lost, selfish, hurtful, depraved, and sometimes just sincerely wrong and they will hurt you knowingly and unknowingly!. Thats why he also said!.!.!."come to me if you are heavy laden, burdened, depressed, worried and i will give you rest"!? Because he knows!.!.!. it is he who gives REAL peace, hope, stability, joy, rest & restoration!. Drugs cant help, not sleep, not moving, not a new girlfriend, not a shrink, not a million dollars!.!.!.nothing!.!.!.only Him can give you that RELEASE!. Those things only subside the real problem, but he gives us confidence to and grace to make it through when we believe in what he's said!.
What im about to tell you may come across as strange, i dont know you, but i know GOD and i want to tell you that he is real and he is FIGHTING for you!. Thats why im here telling u this!. Jesus said!.!.!.with love and compassion thinking about YOU!.!.!."Worry about nothing!.!.!.!.but with prayer and crys to God make your requests known to God!.!.!.!.and he will heal your heart!. Strengthen your spirit and It actually uses a military term, "guard"!.!.!.!. he will guard your mind!. And give you words to fight those thoughts of suicide and depression!. Those things dont come from you but your enemy!. God will return your life back to you, put gaurds at the gate of your mind, and repair your heart!.
19yrs old!.!.!.25!.!.!.45!.!.!.80!.!.!.we cant take care of ourselves!. We need God!.
Its tough, i know man!. But this is the reason that Jesus came!.
That we would be free from the absolutely binding pain of this world
and brought into the peace of the knowledge that God himself came into
this world to free us from the penalties of sin in ourselves and others & lovingly died and rose again to show he had power over this world and left you with a promise that he is taking care of you and coming back!. So if you havent considered it!.!.!.give it to Jesus!. Im here, ill pray with you and you can call me, just contact me!. You are not alone!.
Amen!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This is predicament is one that I myself am familiar with!.
Desperation, depression, total abandon!.!.!.insecurity, fragility, resounding hurt, incessant reminders of pain!.!.!.!.bitter loneliness!.
Trust me when i say you are not alone!.!.!.but you need to know who is on your side!.
There is good news, though things seem desperate they are not hopeless!.
Don't move, Running away to another physical location to avoid an internal problem is pointless!. The issues are inside of you, so then wherever you go, those issues will trail!. You need freedom from them, you need rest for your mind and for your heart!. Jesus said in this world you will SUFFER tribulation!.!.!. Why!? because it is fallen world and people are lost, selfish, hurtful, depraved, and sometimes just sincerely wrong and they will hurt you knowingly and unknowingly!. Thats why he also said!.!.!."come to me if you are heavy laden, burdened, depressed, worried and i will give you rest"!? Because he knows!.!.!. it is he who gives REAL peace, hope, stability, joy, rest & restoration!. Drugs cant help, not sleep, not moving, not a new girlfriend, not a shrink, not a million dollars!.!.!.nothing!.!.!.only Him can give you that RELEASE!. Those things only subside the real problem, but he gives us confidence to and grace to make it through when we believe in what he's said!.
What im about to tell you may come across as strange, i dont know you, but i know GOD and i want to tell you that he is real and he is FIGHTING for you!. Thats why im here telling u this!. Jesus said!.!.!.with love and compassion thinking about YOU!.!.!."Worry about nothing!.!.!.!.but with prayer and crys to God make your requests known to God!.!.!.!.and he will heal your heart!. Strengthen your spirit and It actually uses a military term, "guard"!.!.!.!. he will guard your mind!. And give you words to fight those thoughts of suicide and depression!. Those things dont come from you but your enemy!. God will return your life back to you, put gaurds at the gate of your mind, and repair your heart!.
19yrs old!.!.!.25!.!.!.45!.!.!.80!.!.!.we cant take care of ourselves!. We need God!.
Its tough, i know man!. But this is the reason that Jesus came!.
That we would be free from the absolutely binding pain of this world
and brought into the peace of the knowledge that God himself came into
this world to free us from the penalties of sin in ourselves and others & lovingly died and rose again to show he had power over this world and left you with a promise that he is taking care of you and coming back!. So if you havent considered it!.!.!.give it to Jesus!. Im here, ill pray with you and you can call me, just contact me!. You are not alone!.
Amen!.Www@Answer-Health@Com