Trying to find a reason to keep going?!
Question: Trying to find a reason to keep going!?
I'm 17!. Six months ago, I tried to kill myself and failed!. It's been a hell of a road going through therapists and psychiatrists and psychologists!. I'm on Paxil for anxiety and depression!. I thought I was getting so much better, but a month ago, my boyfriend broke up with me, and I'm back at this horrible low!.
I suck at coping!. I've been going back to my old ways, cutting, smoking, driving recklessly, etc!. The boyfriend that broke up with me was my first real boyfriend and I got my first kiss with him and everything!. It's now like a month later and I have met another guy who has a gf and we've been doing stuff we shouldn't!. I never had my first kiss until that first boyfriend and now I'm doing sexual things with a guy I just met!.
The road is all downhill!. I don't know how this can get worse!. My friends hate me saying I'm too self centered!. It's hard to think about other people when I can't stop wanting to die!.
Everyone says it will get better and it hasn't!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I suck at coping!. I've been going back to my old ways, cutting, smoking, driving recklessly, etc!. The boyfriend that broke up with me was my first real boyfriend and I got my first kiss with him and everything!. It's now like a month later and I have met another guy who has a gf and we've been doing stuff we shouldn't!. I never had my first kiss until that first boyfriend and now I'm doing sexual things with a guy I just met!.
The road is all downhill!. I don't know how this can get worse!. My friends hate me saying I'm too self centered!. It's hard to think about other people when I can't stop wanting to die!.
Everyone says it will get better and it hasn't!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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When things in our lives go wrong, we look for something to replace it - to make us feel better!. Even if we know it's the wrong thing and if we know it'll only make everything worse in the long run!. Life throws all sorts of different challenges at us and we all feel like giving up when it gets too much, but the people who are happiest are the ones who get up and carry on - for whatever reason!. I'm not dismissing how you feel, because I know exactly how that is and I've been through it myself!. You just need to change your attitude towards life and learn to carry on!.
At the age of thirteen, my Dad died and my Mother started abusing us!. When I was fourteen, I turned to drugs and alcohol and became a heroin addict and a heavy drinker/smoker!. At sixteen, my girlfriend became pregnant and gave birth to my son when I was seventeen!. She left us two weeks later and I realised I had to sort myself and my life out!. When I came off the drugs, I suffered depression and post-traumatic stress disorder!. I saw multiple counselors and I kept on turning back to drugs and having to start all over again!. My family weren't interested - I had gone against them and hurt them because I was so addicted to drugs!. I was a violent, cheating liar and I basically had no one to support me!. I was on all sorts of medication to combat my anger and depression and I ended up in hospital many times from drug overdose and suicide attempts!. It took me a good two years to fully recover, the only thing that brought me through it all was knowing there was someone else who needed me - my son!.
It's different to your story, but my point is, everyone has an outlet for their stress and anger!. You can cope, you're just not going the right way about it!. All the things you do to get rid of pain are self destructive and create more depression, it 'traps' you because you become dependent on the things you're doing!. You're telling yourself, in your mind, that you will not get better and that everything is bad!. You have to know that you will get better!. It isn't going to be easy or necessarily quick, but you won't feel like this forever!. You're young and you have the opportunity to be better and to carry on with the rest of your life in a positive way!. Keep on seeing your psychiatrists and therapists - open up to them and let them know exactly what's going on!. They can only help you if you let them, and you need to in order to feel better!. Smoking, cutting and driving recklessly will only make your mood worse so stop doing them!. Find new things to do - write poems, read a book, take a walk, listen to music, do some exercise!. Whatever you feel is healthy and necessary to keep your mind off destructive things and outlet some of your energy!. Try and talk to your friends - if they don't understand what you're going through then they can't be there to support you!. If they won't support you, they're not friends!. Make sure you're hanging round with positive people and not people who bring you down or encourage you to do things you shouldn't!.
A lot of the time, simple changes in your lifestyle can change mood completely!. Sometimes people just get bored of the life they're living and need some variety to add interest back into everyday life!. Try finding new hobbies, talk to new people, find things to do that you wouldn't normally!. When you feel stressed or like you want to smoke or drive recklessly, go on a walk or write down your feelings!. Simple things like these really can make all the difference!. You just need to replace the destructive things with activities which are constructive!. Think positively and stay strong, no matter how bad things might feel at the time!. If possible, find someone or something to give you inspiration - just like my son did for me!. It might just help to give you the determination you really need!. Have faith in the medication and the fact that you will recover, your friends and family care about you and you have a whole life ahead of you!.
You're always going to face hard situations - like your boyfriend breaking up with you!. But see it like this - only the ones who are not important will leave you!. It might help for you to form some sort of belief, some hope - maybe in a God or just in the belief that everything happens for a reason!. If this doesn't work for you, just know that everyone faces hard things but if you find ways to get round it then you are stronger than the person you were before!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
At the age of thirteen, my Dad died and my Mother started abusing us!. When I was fourteen, I turned to drugs and alcohol and became a heroin addict and a heavy drinker/smoker!. At sixteen, my girlfriend became pregnant and gave birth to my son when I was seventeen!. She left us two weeks later and I realised I had to sort myself and my life out!. When I came off the drugs, I suffered depression and post-traumatic stress disorder!. I saw multiple counselors and I kept on turning back to drugs and having to start all over again!. My family weren't interested - I had gone against them and hurt them because I was so addicted to drugs!. I was a violent, cheating liar and I basically had no one to support me!. I was on all sorts of medication to combat my anger and depression and I ended up in hospital many times from drug overdose and suicide attempts!. It took me a good two years to fully recover, the only thing that brought me through it all was knowing there was someone else who needed me - my son!.
It's different to your story, but my point is, everyone has an outlet for their stress and anger!. You can cope, you're just not going the right way about it!. All the things you do to get rid of pain are self destructive and create more depression, it 'traps' you because you become dependent on the things you're doing!. You're telling yourself, in your mind, that you will not get better and that everything is bad!. You have to know that you will get better!. It isn't going to be easy or necessarily quick, but you won't feel like this forever!. You're young and you have the opportunity to be better and to carry on with the rest of your life in a positive way!. Keep on seeing your psychiatrists and therapists - open up to them and let them know exactly what's going on!. They can only help you if you let them, and you need to in order to feel better!. Smoking, cutting and driving recklessly will only make your mood worse so stop doing them!. Find new things to do - write poems, read a book, take a walk, listen to music, do some exercise!. Whatever you feel is healthy and necessary to keep your mind off destructive things and outlet some of your energy!. Try and talk to your friends - if they don't understand what you're going through then they can't be there to support you!. If they won't support you, they're not friends!. Make sure you're hanging round with positive people and not people who bring you down or encourage you to do things you shouldn't!.
A lot of the time, simple changes in your lifestyle can change mood completely!. Sometimes people just get bored of the life they're living and need some variety to add interest back into everyday life!. Try finding new hobbies, talk to new people, find things to do that you wouldn't normally!. When you feel stressed or like you want to smoke or drive recklessly, go on a walk or write down your feelings!. Simple things like these really can make all the difference!. You just need to replace the destructive things with activities which are constructive!. Think positively and stay strong, no matter how bad things might feel at the time!. If possible, find someone or something to give you inspiration - just like my son did for me!. It might just help to give you the determination you really need!. Have faith in the medication and the fact that you will recover, your friends and family care about you and you have a whole life ahead of you!.
You're always going to face hard situations - like your boyfriend breaking up with you!. But see it like this - only the ones who are not important will leave you!. It might help for you to form some sort of belief, some hope - maybe in a God or just in the belief that everything happens for a reason!. If this doesn't work for you, just know that everyone faces hard things but if you find ways to get round it then you are stronger than the person you were before!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Focus on the positives!. If it cant get worse that means it has to get better, right!?
You are young, you have your whole life ahead of you - it's the only one you've got so make a real good go of it!.
Travel, Study, Work - all choices you can make but most of all embrace them!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are young, you have your whole life ahead of you - it's the only one you've got so make a real good go of it!.
Travel, Study, Work - all choices you can make but most of all embrace them!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If your 17 it means your almost done school!.!.!.plan for the future!.!.get a job!.!.save some money!. Then get the hell away from old influences and bad people!. Start a new, fun, exciting, fulfilling life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You're still very young!. Wean off the Paxil (I've 'been there') & stick 2 potWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am going through a similar thing hun!. fancy pm!?xxWww@Answer-Health@Com
dont think your going to find the help you need hereWww@Answer-Health@Com
why arent you on sum meds!?!?!?!?
that is all i can say hun!.!.!.!.!.
get help, get medicated - then it WILL get better ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com
that is all i can say hun!.!.!.!.!.
get help, get medicated - then it WILL get better ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Eileen, it can get better but it will need you to do some things!. First of all, it seems to me that you do not appreciate the person you are and have a lower self esteem than you should!. Realize that your boyfriend breaking up with you had nothing to do with you!. Boys at that age have a really hard time staying with anyone very long!. They lack maturity, are frustrated by sexual desires and hormones, and are experimenting with the reality of who they are!. So, losing him wasn't your fault!.
You need to appreciate who you are, your qualities, your good points (and there are some, if you will look) and so on!. Value who you are as a person!.
Doing this isn't something that happens overnight nor is it something you will probably be able to do alone!. I urge you to contact your therapist again and meet with that person!. If you are doing the things you say you are doing, you need some professional help in getting to the point of self appreciation!. If you're afraid of that, then call a suicide hot-line and talk to somebody!. You need professional help and this help will be beneficial to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to appreciate who you are, your qualities, your good points (and there are some, if you will look) and so on!. Value who you are as a person!.
Doing this isn't something that happens overnight nor is it something you will probably be able to do alone!. I urge you to contact your therapist again and meet with that person!. If you are doing the things you say you are doing, you need some professional help in getting to the point of self appreciation!. If you're afraid of that, then call a suicide hot-line and talk to somebody!. You need professional help and this help will be beneficial to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't understand what's so bad!.!.!.do you have a horrible disease, a disfigurement on your face or body, some retardation, dead family member or one about to die, a nasty STD, no money or home or food, total ugliness, or something wrong with your ability to do anything!? If not, stop feeling sorry for yourself!. There are millions of people out there with real problems like the ones I mentioned above!. You are only 17 for God's sake!.!.!.you haven't even begun to step a foot in the real world!.!.!.all you're worried about is a boyfriend!?!?!? I'm confused!.!.!.that's not all life is about!. Stop acting so crazy, find a real man and you will succeed with a better attitude!. Tell yourself things will be great and you will succeed and you will find the love of your life and you will get a great job and be able to take care of yourself!. You're too young to be feeling this way!.!.!.you haven't got to experience life yet!. Wait until you travel, experience true love, provide for yourself, have things that you worked for and just see the true rewards in life!. What's there to cope with!? Life is all about coping, but if you can't handle it, you're gonna have to find another way, because life is full of ups and downs!. Once you realize that, you'll be able to cope!. Doing sexual things with someone you just met is not healthy either!.!.!.you'll find that he's just doing that because you let him!.!.!.you need to find true love, not just mess around with any random guy!. Sure, it makes you feel good at that moment, but you'll feel lousy shortly after!. I hope I haven't been too harsh, but you need someone neutral to tell you straight up what you need to do!. You are self-centered and need to grow up!.!.!.!.the way to do that is stop acting this way and learn to take care of yourself!.!.!.then everyone will see a difference in you and will want to be around you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
"everyone says it will get better but it hasnt"
my boyfriend just broke up with me--on our 2-year anniversary
suicide makes sense but I never would
and I could never do that to my mother or friends
I don't see the point in another day either
but there are people who lov eyou and don't want you to hurt and well I don't know where the **** my life is going either now that he left me because he said he never would and he was the love of my life and he said I didn't do anything wrong but I still feel like it's all my fault!. And well I was never allowed to go out and now my mom has agreed to let me because I need to be social!.But I don't know when I'll ever be ready to get another bf or kiss anyone else!. You are not the only one who is miserable but somehow we have to wait it out!. Don't do things with a guy it is just spite!. My first a lot fo things was with him, and his family is like my second family!. My world is destroyed right now and I'm not gonna lie havng therapy and light medication would really help me if my relationship is really over!. But please Karma will get him and anyone who has upset you so please don't smoke and do bad things because it makes me lose faith in happiness or love or anything in the world!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
my boyfriend just broke up with me--on our 2-year anniversary
suicide makes sense but I never would
and I could never do that to my mother or friends
I don't see the point in another day either
but there are people who lov eyou and don't want you to hurt and well I don't know where the **** my life is going either now that he left me because he said he never would and he was the love of my life and he said I didn't do anything wrong but I still feel like it's all my fault!. And well I was never allowed to go out and now my mom has agreed to let me because I need to be social!.But I don't know when I'll ever be ready to get another bf or kiss anyone else!. You are not the only one who is miserable but somehow we have to wait it out!. Don't do things with a guy it is just spite!. My first a lot fo things was with him, and his family is like my second family!. My world is destroyed right now and I'm not gonna lie havng therapy and light medication would really help me if my relationship is really over!. But please Karma will get him and anyone who has upset you so please don't smoke and do bad things because it makes me lose faith in happiness or love or anything in the world!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You do have the power to change your life!. I am a former you!. I know what you are going through!. It truly does not last forever because you can't maintain heightened emotions for a long period of time!. I went through 6 years of that!. But life did get better!. Go to church; find a hobby to consume your time no one is going to treat you better than you be your own best friend and give yourself what you want!. Sometimes life is blah, or bad, or good or great but there is a time for all emotion!. Know that this will pass and you have to survive for you!. You don't have to depend on anyone but yourself!. Helping others helps you a lot!. Giving to others helps your self esteem!. Remember you are beautiful and meant to beWww@Answer-Health@Com
There is nothing here on this earth that can bring you the love and peace you are searching for!. But there is hope, you can have a fresh start in life!.!.!.!.!. Christ can change your life and make you a completely new person!. You are special to Him!. There is no other just like you!.!.!.!.
Never has there been and never again
Will there be another you
Fashioned by Gods hand
And perfectly planned
To be just who you are
And what hes been creating
Since the first beat of your heart
Is a living breathing priceless work of art
He loves you no matter where you have been or what you have done!.
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=cyheJ480L!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Never has there been and never again
Will there be another you
Fashioned by Gods hand
And perfectly planned
To be just who you are
And what hes been creating
Since the first beat of your heart
Is a living breathing priceless work of art
He loves you no matter where you have been or what you have done!.
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=cyheJ480L!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ok, after platitudes and glib answers, and the same old, you're only 17 and you have a whole life ahead of you, how about this!? Many of the things you are talking about doing in response to your breakup with your boyfriend are traits of a personality disorder!. Since you are seeing doctors anyway, be honest with them about what you are doing, and ask if you might try some behavioral therapy!. That will give you tools to learn to cope with your pain in productive ways!. I know the pain is very real to you- tell your docs this!. They CAN help!. The sooner you do it, the more your life will succeed in the future, and the better you will feel about yourself!. I don't think you're being selfish or self-centered, or immature, or whatever!. You're just hurting and dealing with it in the only way you know how right now!. Learn from your docs how to do this differently!. And I am speaking from experience, I have a very similar problem and I waited until I was 54 to let my docs in on what was really going on with me!. Please don't waste that many years!. Get help with it now so the rest of your life will be MUCH better!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your friends are right--you are too self-centered!. Try to think of what that really means!. It doesn't just mean selfish!. It means you are placing too much emphasis on the here and now, that you are focused on every little detail of your life!. You need to view the world in a bigger picture!. There are billions of us out here!. It's not just about you!. Someday the time will be right and it will be your turn--wait patiently, prepare yourself for it!. Learn to love yourself!. Treat yourself with respect!. If you don't, why would anyone else respect you!? You know more about you than anyone else!. They take cues about your worth from you!. Instead of focusing on what you don't have, focus your energy on becoming someone that others can rely on to do the right thing, to help when it's needed, to make the right choices for everyone--not just yourself!. Try to figure out how you got to this point of thinking you are so important that everything should go your way no matter what you do--that is what your real problem is!. May God bless you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
thats a sad situation your in!.its not enough just to listen to people saying 'you will get better'!.you have to believe it!.make a list of things you've allways wanted to do ( eg:meeting your hero,visit a country) everyone has dreams!. dreams are what keep s going because we've allways something to look forward to!.your friends should be there to listen!.have you ever told them how your feeling!? if you have and they say your self-centred,there not real friends!.because they dont support you in times of need!.you have to ask yourself!.are you going out with this new boyfriend because you just need to feel loved, or do you really like him!? allways remember,thers light at the end of the tunnel,no matter how dark it is!.dont give up!.life is worth livingWww@Answer-Health@Com
She is on medcine, she's on Paxil!.
Maybe talk to your therapist who can switch you to a different drug!? I'm on Prozac for depression and anxiety, and it's been amazing!.
A great reason to keep going!.!.!.!.just remember that you have so much value to this world!. You have the power to make differences in other peoples' lives!. But that's not going to happen if you drink and drive, or get pregnant, or even succeed in suicide!. I think you can pull yourself out of this if you really want to!. But just remember that even though you have a right to feel sorry for yourself, no one else will do this for you!. So do the right thing, and stop fooling around with that guy!. Talk to your therapist!. Try and wean yourself off the drinking and smoking!. If you really want to make a change, you can!. I believe in you! Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe talk to your therapist who can switch you to a different drug!? I'm on Prozac for depression and anxiety, and it's been amazing!.
A great reason to keep going!.!.!.!.just remember that you have so much value to this world!. You have the power to make differences in other peoples' lives!. But that's not going to happen if you drink and drive, or get pregnant, or even succeed in suicide!. I think you can pull yourself out of this if you really want to!. But just remember that even though you have a right to feel sorry for yourself, no one else will do this for you!. So do the right thing, and stop fooling around with that guy!. Talk to your therapist!. Try and wean yourself off the drinking and smoking!. If you really want to make a change, you can!. I believe in you! Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Eileen, Im really sorry to hear about your situation!. I suffer from depression and also work in the mental health field so can see it from both sides!.
Firstly in my opinion I would stop doing sexual things with this guy you've just met!. It may make feel good at the time but after you'll just feel empty and will make you feel even more worthless and low!.
Have you thought about cognitive behavioural therapy!? Its a really good aid to help you develop more positive ways of thinking and coping!. You could try to get referred to a therapist by your doctor, or if not you can buy self help books that teach you how to use the techniques!. Keeping a diary may also help sort through your thoughts and recognise unhelpful patterns!.
Your friends are unkind saying you're self centred but to they must feel helpless and frustrated by the situation you're in too!. It may be better to save talking about how you low you feel to someone you know is understanding and can handle it like a particular friend, your psychiatrist or join a group for other people who suffer from depression!.
You say the road is downhill but you must have goals and ambitions!. I assume you're still in school!. I know its hard but focusing on achieving things and things other than your mental state,getting involved with activities with friends etc will help you to feel better!.
Things wont just magically get better by themself,no but by making positive steps and with the right support you can manage your depression and anxiety better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Firstly in my opinion I would stop doing sexual things with this guy you've just met!. It may make feel good at the time but after you'll just feel empty and will make you feel even more worthless and low!.
Have you thought about cognitive behavioural therapy!? Its a really good aid to help you develop more positive ways of thinking and coping!. You could try to get referred to a therapist by your doctor, or if not you can buy self help books that teach you how to use the techniques!. Keeping a diary may also help sort through your thoughts and recognise unhelpful patterns!.
Your friends are unkind saying you're self centred but to they must feel helpless and frustrated by the situation you're in too!. It may be better to save talking about how you low you feel to someone you know is understanding and can handle it like a particular friend, your psychiatrist or join a group for other people who suffer from depression!.
You say the road is downhill but you must have goals and ambitions!. I assume you're still in school!. I know its hard but focusing on achieving things and things other than your mental state,getting involved with activities with friends etc will help you to feel better!.
Things wont just magically get better by themself,no but by making positive steps and with the right support you can manage your depression and anxiety better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
as you have likely heard, 17 is a rough age!. I remember it all too well!. But trust me, things improve!.!. you will find happiness in the future, but not the way you are going!. You have to change your whole way of thinking and with the fact that you are asking for help, you are headed in the right direction!.
You need to find a new set of friends, find one person who can understand what you are going thru and help each other!. You will see in that way that you aren't the only person in this world that feels the way you do!.
Find a nice guy who doesn't want you only for sexual pleasure, you will know him when you find him!. Don't rush love tho, you have LOTS of time, get to know yourself first before even thinking you could possibly have a serious relationship!. At 17 you sure don't need to tie yourself down to just one guy, date around, don't sleep around but date and enjoy others company!.
Don't play the 'poor me' around new friends, laugh with them, hang out and listen to what they talk about!.!. you will soon see others have similar feelings as you do!. We are all on this planet for companionship, love and friendship!.!.!. don't get so wrapped up in negativity that you can't see the positive, if you do that you will miss a lot of good things in life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to find a new set of friends, find one person who can understand what you are going thru and help each other!. You will see in that way that you aren't the only person in this world that feels the way you do!.
Find a nice guy who doesn't want you only for sexual pleasure, you will know him when you find him!. Don't rush love tho, you have LOTS of time, get to know yourself first before even thinking you could possibly have a serious relationship!. At 17 you sure don't need to tie yourself down to just one guy, date around, don't sleep around but date and enjoy others company!.
Don't play the 'poor me' around new friends, laugh with them, hang out and listen to what they talk about!.!. you will soon see others have similar feelings as you do!. We are all on this planet for companionship, love and friendship!.!.!. don't get so wrapped up in negativity that you can't see the positive, if you do that you will miss a lot of good things in life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i am sorry to hear about your anguish!.!.
anyone can give you suggestions to help you but only you can choose to use them or not!.!. and i am really hoping you use some that are good for you to try!.!.
here are mine!.!.
try keeping a diary!.!.sometimes it helps me to write them down!.!.maybe even an online blog!.!.that way folks can read and comment!.!.be prepared for negativity tho!.!.
next try going on a personal journey to self-discovery!.!. think and relfect as to why you think the way you do!.!. but go deeper!.!. think of reasons and have opinions about everything!.!.politics,health,the envirnoment,religions, philosophies, just everything!.!. know yourself!.!.get to know yourself!.!. you are a deep, fun , interesting person!.!.
next!.!.as to the boy thing!.!.!. you are young and never ever feel as if you want to off yourself over a boy!.!. they just aren't worth it!.!. no one is worth it!.!. there are so many more out there and just because one didn't work out, that doesn't mean there aren't a bunch more out there!.!.
this is one of my -ologies!.!.in every town,village,city,hamlet!.!.you WILL find at least one friend and one lover!.!.
so with that thought!.!. there will be more!.!. you haven't found the right boy to be with, yet!.!.
this is trial and error time!.!.
time to think about what kind of qualitites you are looking for or not looking for in a human being to spend time with!.!.
don' settle for less than what you want!.!. but also be realistic!.!. you will never find mr!. right but mr!. got-most-of-the-qualities-i-am-looking-f!.!.!.
think about who you can grow and learn from and who is willing to grow and learn from you!.!.
YOU are the prize to be won and should be treated with respect and care!!
they should have to work for winning the prize!! but also don't put them thru hoops either!.!. be fair and true!.
see!.!. there are so many good things to reflect on already and more if you need them!!
good luck my dear and know that people are basically good , but there are always a few rotten ones in the bunch too!.!.!.learn to differentiate thru themWww@Answer-Health@Com
anyone can give you suggestions to help you but only you can choose to use them or not!.!. and i am really hoping you use some that are good for you to try!.!.
here are mine!.!.
try keeping a diary!.!.sometimes it helps me to write them down!.!.maybe even an online blog!.!.that way folks can read and comment!.!.be prepared for negativity tho!.!.
next try going on a personal journey to self-discovery!.!. think and relfect as to why you think the way you do!.!. but go deeper!.!. think of reasons and have opinions about everything!.!.politics,health,the envirnoment,religions, philosophies, just everything!.!. know yourself!.!.get to know yourself!.!. you are a deep, fun , interesting person!.!.
next!.!.as to the boy thing!.!.!. you are young and never ever feel as if you want to off yourself over a boy!.!. they just aren't worth it!.!. no one is worth it!.!. there are so many more out there and just because one didn't work out, that doesn't mean there aren't a bunch more out there!.!.
this is one of my -ologies!.!.in every town,village,city,hamlet!.!.you WILL find at least one friend and one lover!.!.
so with that thought!.!. there will be more!.!. you haven't found the right boy to be with, yet!.!.
this is trial and error time!.!.
time to think about what kind of qualitites you are looking for or not looking for in a human being to spend time with!.!.
don' settle for less than what you want!.!. but also be realistic!.!. you will never find mr!. right but mr!. got-most-of-the-qualities-i-am-looking-f!.!.!.
think about who you can grow and learn from and who is willing to grow and learn from you!.!.
YOU are the prize to be won and should be treated with respect and care!!
they should have to work for winning the prize!! but also don't put them thru hoops either!.!. be fair and true!.
see!.!. there are so many good things to reflect on already and more if you need them!!
good luck my dear and know that people are basically good , but there are always a few rotten ones in the bunch too!.!.!.learn to differentiate thru themWww@Answer-Health@Com
Well, spare me the Mrs!. Blatant comment, but I believe you're extremely heartbroken!.!.!.a lot more heartbroken than you might imagine!. I know exactly how you feel!. Exactly!.
I also believe you're experiencing more than just depression, but a heaping help of guilt as well!. It's difficult to stop cutting and smoking!. I've never smoked, but I can say from experience just by watching how hard it is for my parents to try and quit!. Cutting's the same way!. I used to cut!. It was like a drug, a sort of high for me!. Once I started, I couldn't stop!. But now I'm too strong to go back to that blade!. When I was a sophmore in highschool, I attempted to cut, but I couldn't do it!. It was impossible for me!.
Stop doing those sexual things!. Now!. That isn't making your situation any better!. I know you don't want to hear it, but some people bring pain upon themselves, and you're doing that!. I could tell you to stop cutting and smoking, but I know how difficult it is!. My parents had to get rid of any sharp objects I had, and that broke my habit!. As for smoking, I couldn't tell you what to do!. If you're really hooked on it like my parents are, then it's going to be extremely difficult!.
I was depressed for two years!. I didn't think it was going to get better either!. But it did get better!. It got so much better!. If you met me, you'd think I never used to do the stuff I did!. But you know how I learned to cope with it!? I started writing the novel that I'm going to try to publish!. I know you're finished with your novel, and you can't really progress through it it seems, but try writing another novel!. You can make the main character just like you!.!.!.feelings and all!.!.!.but try to give her that sense that there's hope out there!.
There is a reason for you to keep going!. Not having a boyfriend isn't the end of the world!. There is someone out there for you!. You just have to tell yourself that!. The only real man in your life is the one that doesn't make you cry!.
Tell yourself everything's going to be all right and it will be all right!. I can promise that right to my very heart!. But don't do anything reckless!. I can promise you that it WILL make things so much worse!. It's difficult to talk to parents about this stuff!. Mine had to force it out of me, but if you can't talk to your parents, try your friends!. I know you say that seem to hate you, but that might be the depression talking!. My depression made me think my friends didn't love me, but they truly cared!.
All I can say is apologize, even if they don't need an apology!. You need your friends, and your friends might need you more than you think!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I also believe you're experiencing more than just depression, but a heaping help of guilt as well!. It's difficult to stop cutting and smoking!. I've never smoked, but I can say from experience just by watching how hard it is for my parents to try and quit!. Cutting's the same way!. I used to cut!. It was like a drug, a sort of high for me!. Once I started, I couldn't stop!. But now I'm too strong to go back to that blade!. When I was a sophmore in highschool, I attempted to cut, but I couldn't do it!. It was impossible for me!.
Stop doing those sexual things!. Now!. That isn't making your situation any better!. I know you don't want to hear it, but some people bring pain upon themselves, and you're doing that!. I could tell you to stop cutting and smoking, but I know how difficult it is!. My parents had to get rid of any sharp objects I had, and that broke my habit!. As for smoking, I couldn't tell you what to do!. If you're really hooked on it like my parents are, then it's going to be extremely difficult!.
I was depressed for two years!. I didn't think it was going to get better either!. But it did get better!. It got so much better!. If you met me, you'd think I never used to do the stuff I did!. But you know how I learned to cope with it!? I started writing the novel that I'm going to try to publish!. I know you're finished with your novel, and you can't really progress through it it seems, but try writing another novel!. You can make the main character just like you!.!.!.feelings and all!.!.!.but try to give her that sense that there's hope out there!.
There is a reason for you to keep going!. Not having a boyfriend isn't the end of the world!. There is someone out there for you!. You just have to tell yourself that!. The only real man in your life is the one that doesn't make you cry!.
Tell yourself everything's going to be all right and it will be all right!. I can promise that right to my very heart!. But don't do anything reckless!. I can promise you that it WILL make things so much worse!. It's difficult to talk to parents about this stuff!. Mine had to force it out of me, but if you can't talk to your parents, try your friends!. I know you say that seem to hate you, but that might be the depression talking!. My depression made me think my friends didn't love me, but they truly cared!.
All I can say is apologize, even if they don't need an apology!. You need your friends, and your friends might need you more than you think!.Www@Answer-Health@Com