Extreme shyness in certain situations...?!


Question: Extreme shyness in certain situations!.!.!.!?
I have a really big problem!. I am not shy around people I know extremely well, but certain people I just cannot seem to open up to!. I have lived with a step-mom, step-brother, and step-sister for the past four years, and I still can't really be myself around them!. When I go to parties, I feel awkward and out of place!. I always just feel like I would rather be alone!. I think that it is something beyond what I can really control!. Is this something I cannot change!? I also have some other weird behaviors!. Could I possibly be diagnosed for some kind of mental malady!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you!. It is called "Act as If!." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing!. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone!. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior!.

Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.

Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!.

People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!.

Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!.

Rewind your mistakes!. Let's say you want to change an annoying laugh that you have, when you hear something funny, your old laugh will come out!. You have to immediately think of what you wanted to happen, (i!.e!. your new, practiced laugh) and then do it immediately!. It will be a little bit late, but slowly you will start to pair the two together, and eventually your brain will become conditioned to switch the first for the second!. It usually takes 30 - 40 repetitions, to instill a new habit, with most people, so I estimate a similar amount, in the reprogramming process!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I have the same problem, my parents are married!. I am very shy at school except for around my friends!. I am so shy that I hardly ever go up to a teacher to ask them a question!. If I do ask a question, I can't ask it to a guy teacher!. I just don't know why!. Although, my favorite teachers have been guy teachers!. I just hardly even talk to other people besides my family and friends!. I really don't feel a need to, but still!. I am just soooo shy!. I don't really think there is anything wrong with me!. I just don't open up to people very well!. Once I get to know a person though, I talk all the time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you MAY have social anxiety!. that`s what i have!.it`s really hard, and it really bites!. like whenever i talk to someone i don`t know all that well, i`ll say something but after i say it then i`ll sit and think to myself, why did i say that!? or, did that sounds stupid!? or did what i say even have to do with the subject!? i avoid going places and meeting new people!. you may want to go to a theripest of some sort, because sometimes social anxiety can be linked with depression and other mental disorders!. good luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

no i dont think so but i think that your just scared to know how there gonna think of you if you do be yourself and that since they arent related to you, you dont feel a connection to them well im sure you do but what do i know but anyways yeah maby thats whyWww@Answer-Health@Com

im like that!.!.not with my family but at parties im shy
i usually just tell myself !.!."why are you shy!.!.!.nobodys gonna care what your doing unless you start acting stupid" i dont know but it works for me!.!.i just act and make myself feel like i fit and thats itWww@Answer-Health@Com

You're shy!. You don't have mental problems!. You're just shy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

maybe u have a litlte social anxiety!. maybe seeing a psychologist would help u!. someone u can talk to about your problems!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Where's your real family!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Maybe you just don;t like parties!.!. I don't!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

it helps to have someone with you when you talk to these people preferably a friendWww@Answer-Health@Com

I know how you feel!. My shyness has gotten a million times better than before and i am overcoming it slowly, but i am still uncomfortable in a few situations!. Around my family im not shy and I can be completely myself, but since you have a step family maybe its hard for you to open up to them because you're not related to them!. But I am that way with certain people!. Ive known certain for quite a while and i still cant open up to them!. I guess it just happens with certain people that i know, because you try to leave a good impression and you care what they think a lot more!.

I know how frustrating it can be sometimes!. But you can help yourself overcome it!. It takes a while, and it is difficult to do but its worth it in the end!. You just have to start small and work your way up!. It is possible to overcome!. Put yourself in uncomfortable situations!. Like dont force yourself right away, but gradually do it!. Because if you do it all at once you might become even more uncomfortable than you already are!. And pretend you are outgoing!. Even if you're not try to not act shy!. You really have to push yourself!. It does work believe me!.It was hard for me at first but it becomes easier!.Then eventually you will learn to get more comfortable!. All i know is the best way to overcome it is to just put yourself out there!.

I notice sometimes if i go to some kind of a party and ill act all shy in the beginning, and then by the time im comfortable the night is over!. lol!. It does suck sometimes!. I also notice that if I force myself with small things, the bigger things become easier over time!. I dont think you have anything mentally wrong with you, because I myself am the same way and a lot of others are, so you're not alone!. Many people are shy, and it is more common than you think!. I used to think there was something wrong with me, but now I know there isnt because there are many others who are the same way!.


Best of luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com





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