I'm depressed and I don't know what to do?!

I think you have the right idea because you did the first steps by going to the psychiatrist!. That in itself is a huge hurdle, so be proud of yourself!. Secondly you realize you want to work on yourself and that in itself shows you have a good head on your shoulders!.

Trust me I have been exactly where you are, and it is really tough trying to concentrate on ourselves when there is distractions around us!. Do not think you are alone, because I have been there, and these are what I did:

1) Started on my medication
2) Went to a counselor between 2 -3 times a month
3) Thought Box
4) Kept busy
5) Kept a journal
6) Made a personal code of ethics for myself

You have already accomplished one, and hopefully started the process of the medication and counseling!. The third is just a suggestion!. I bought a box!.!.sort of like a jewelery box but was simply flat inside!. Everytime there was a worry that came to mind or my thought process wasn't positive I would write my worry on a 3x5 card and put it in the box, tucking it away and not letting it come back!. I did this for several days and if I had the same worry I would write it down several times!. You just might want to try it!.!.!.it may work!.

Another thing I did was keep busy, studying as I am in school as well, keeping my house clean etc!. I just set goals for myself everyday, not huge goals, but reachable goals, such as wash the dishes, clean off the counters and do a load of laundry!. Then I would work on those goals throughout the day, so I concentrated on them and not other things!.

Number five I kept a journal, I would sit down and write in it before I went to bed, talking about my day, how I felt what I accomplished etc!. This helped alot but I think what helped me the most out of these is my personal code of ethics!. I sat down and created one for myself and read them off every morning and everytime my mind would start to wonder on anyone or anything but myself and my goals!.

Here is some of my personal code of ethics:

I will love, respect and accept myself through all of my imperfections!.

I will accept that I am deserving of having good things happen to me!.

I will maintain control of my own mind and not let my mind poison my thoughts!.

I will stay true to myself, my beliefs and my morals!.

I will keep a smile on my face, even through the roughest of days, knowing tomorrow starts a brand new day!.

I will always keep my sense of humor as laughing is infectious!.

I will never allow myself to be a victim!. While I may be unhappy with my circumstances, I will always have the strength to improve my life!.

I will always do my best by giving 110% of everything I do!.

The list could go on, and if you want use these as a starting base, but elaborate so they fit you!. Read them everyday, and it will help you keep on track! Try not to worry about others, especially your boyfriend because you can't help him if your not taking care of you first!

Good Luck and hang in there!Www@Answer-Health@Com

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I am sure your pyschologist has recommended this before, but it does help!. Keep a journal of your day, thoughts, feelings, etc!. It gives you a different perspective to see yourself on paper!. Isolating yourself is probably not the best choice, you should be with others to keep your mind of of things!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

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I am so with you girl! I try to think of doing something for someone else to make them smile!. Hiding in your room will NOT help!. Try some sun, a garden (i love mine) a puppy, a birdfeeder!. I know some of this sounds lame but it gives you a feeling of these things needing you and they do give back!. I hope this helps you!. There are alot of other people who need YOU to love them too!. Smile at everyone you see today!. These things help me through the sad times!. God bless you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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hiii sorry to hear about you and your boyfriends depression!. But dont worry because you could overcome inn! i believe in youuu!. why dont you try playing a sport, going for a run/walk, reading, even doing HOMEWORK!. these things will hopefully keep you busy!. You could also try writing in a diary!.!.!.to let your feelings out so you dont keep it all botteled up inside because it will make you feel worsee!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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for happy life,come out from tension,fear, and angry, always be happy in your life its easy to over come from your problems,meditation and healing for happy life!.!.!.
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Talk to your boyfriend and try to help him!. You will be with him, helping his deppesion and it will probably stop urs cause it will fix the problem!.!.!. GLWww@Answer-Health@Com

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If there is a gym open at the school, go to the gym and do some exercise!. Actually, connecting with people can be so therapeutic, especially if you're in a helping role that forces you to focus on serving other people less fortunate than yourself!. One thing I have done in the past is kept a list of a few people who know about my depression and who can talk me thru getting out of myself!. The other thing that's helpful is to list your 10 strongest interests/activities and pick one thing on the list that you can do!. That might lift some of the depression!. Focusing outside of yourself, even if it's getting engrossed in a TV show or maybe challenging yourself on how many Answers questions you can answer in the next two hours!.

But, keep working on yourself!. When you're changing your behavior things don't get better all at once!. There can be peaks & valleys until things stabilize!. You're on track!. Physical activity and at least 20-30 minutes of natural daylight each day can make a huge difference!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Some foods will actually help you get over depression!. Try eating Red Peppers, drinking mint or regular tea and water!. Remember things aren't always you're fault!. Try visiting a councilor or the psychologist again - maybe they can help you get over your depression!.

Something else that words - and something I use quite frequently - is a mantra!. I look myself in the mirror and say, "I would never put anyone else through what I'm going through, so why should I put myself through it!? I can get over this!. I'm smart, pretty, and capable of whatever it is I need to do, etc!." over and over again out loud!. Surprisingly, this seems to help me a lot!.

Hope I could help, and good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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geesh i thought i was the only one iam currently going threw the same thing my boyfriend has been very depresses and stresses about his family and such and its getting to him which in return is affecting our life just when i thought things were looking up and things were going ok he lays a bomb on me last night and tells me he thinks its best if we leave each other alone for awhile now iam so depressed i have no clue on what to do i just want to be by myself ambien has been my new best friend and all ive been doing is sleeping but i know i need to get out of t his rut life goes on and we live in a big world there's so many beautiful things to do and see and we shouldnt inclose ourselves in depression its hard but we will see better days just hold on to that!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Generalised Anxiety Disorder: There is a saying in the mental health field: "if the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail"!. So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage a large list of patients, with very limited time for each!.

With anxiolytics (anti-anxiety medication, such as Lexapro, or Paxil, which treat both anxiety and depression) you are only addressing the symptoms, and even then, often only temporarily, as your system becomes used to it, and you have to accept the risks of an increased suicide/homicide rate, aberrant behaviour, and side effects, such as possible sexual dysfunction, (common) or weight fluctuation!. For those reasons, I recommend first trying the alternatives, (which only treat the symptoms, using supplements like inositol, and SAMe, or herbal remedies, such as c(h)amomile but the cause, as well) using the EMDR variant, EFT, and relaxation techniques!. The anxiolytics/antidepressants will still be there, should the alternatives prove insufficient for you, but give them a tryout period of several weeks, first!.

See anxiety treatments, at ezy build (below) in section 6!. Set yourself a specific time period for worrying about anything, (say; around three quarters of an hour, possibly when you get home, or after your evening meal, but not too close to bedtime) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even entertain the thought of worrying again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life!.

You will have had your "worry time" for the day, and can just write down any more thoughts that come to mind, and say to yourself: "Well, I'll just have to worry about that tomorrow, won't I!?"!. It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately!.

When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!.

Practice one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Alternatively, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you!. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind)!. Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I sometimes suffer from anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself!." Neurofeedback treatment for anxiety is increasingly becoming available!. Herbal remedies, such as valerian, (which is not for use if depression is also present) passionflower, St!.John's wort, are often effective, but the idea is (as with anxiolytic medication) to use them like water wings, or training wheels on a bicycle, providing initial support, and giving time for other treatments, such as therapy, and relaxation techniques, to take effect!.

(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case!.)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.

Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!.

Depression is addressed in section 2, at ezy build: view page Z!.13 first; print, and send to, or refer him!. Right now, I suggest that you learn, and begin to employ the EMDR, and one of the relaxation methods, such as the mindfulness breathing, or progressive muscle relaxation!. Then check out some of the suggestions in section 16, and read the whole of sections 2, and 6!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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