How can i accept life as it is?!
Question: How can i accept life as it is!?
im living in a home where i dont feel so happy!. im sick of my parents and im not happy having my sis and bro around!. i feel depressed and unhappy when im around them!. i only have few good friends whom i can really talk to!. but i feel like i cant tell them everything because ive told them too many things that im not proud of!. im afraid having to burden them!. i go to college where i hang out with the usual bunch of people whom i cant really click with!. in fact, i dont feel comfortable hanging out with them!. as much as i really wanna stay away from them, i afraid to be lonely!. i know people will tell me to find new friends and all!. but it isnt easy!. cos i think the problem is probably with me!. im so unhappy here to the extent that i want to change college!. find happiness somewhere else!. i think it's the problem of acceptance with me!. i have this different life i imagine that i really want to live but it's not happening right now!.
it's frustrating that i cry myself to sleep so often!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
it's frustrating that i cry myself to sleep so often!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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it's a relief in a way to know that someone feels the same way, although unfortunate that you're so unhappy!. I feel that way though!.!.I was diagnosed with depression in late november and lately it's sad because sometimes I get sick of being around my family and friends!.!.and really, how horrible is it to feel that way!? it just sucks!. the one thing that has been working for me is getting outside as much as i can!.!.reading a good book!. i think im my local library's new vip haha but it really does relax you and make you forget about your problems for awhile!. don't be frustrated that your life isnt going how you planned!.!.if we never veered off course, maybe we'd never do something amazing, fall in love, etc!. just hang in there and surround yourself only with those who make you happy!.!.try not to think about how you 'should' feel and what you 'should' be doing!.!.it puts a lot of pressure on yourself!. just take things as they come!. best of luck to youWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hanging around with a uncomfortable bunch does not help, and do not settle for what life gives you!. Try something new that you have been curious about or start small talk in the library!. Connections can lead to a better life, and so can a positive outlook!. As for the family thing, ask them for some space!. Try to become a summer camp counselor if possible, you will meet other people, get away from everybody you know and possibly dump some of your life's tensions!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think finding a new school is just running away from your problems!. You are depressed!. Counseling, maybe even medication can help!. I don't know if you are open to this but faith, going to church may help as well!. What image of life do you have!? Why isn't it happening right now!? Sometimes writing it out can help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You figure out yourself first!. Going to college will just change the scene, not the problem!. Watch "The Secret" on DVD!. But one thing you have to do is figure yourself out!. Everyone has a different issue!. I, for example, have an issue of "I can't do it" while some people have an issue of "Don't tell me what to do!." It's different for everyone!.Figure out what your issue is and then work on getting better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think one problem is that you focus a lot on what is going wrong in your life!. There has to be something wonderful that you've achieved in your life to make you happy!. If so, try focusing on that!. If it is at all financially possible, try moving away from your parents and siblings!. Maybe to a dorm room!. I remember living at home during my college years and it was rather dysfunctional and having to deal with school on top of that was downright stressful!. College is hard enough, you don't need your family to complicate things!.
As far as your friends are concerned, you really don't need a group!. You shouldn't be a co-dependent person in life!. Sometimes you need time alone to find yourself!. You want to be able to think for yourself!. You probably shouldn't change colleges to get away from the people!. Find a positive goal in life and work on achieving that!. Do something that makes you happy and focus less on your home life!.
By the way, you don't need happiness!. You need JOY!!! There is a difference between the two!. Happiness in temporary!. Joy comes from deep within and cannot be taken away as easily!.
Finally, have you tried prayer!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
As far as your friends are concerned, you really don't need a group!. You shouldn't be a co-dependent person in life!. Sometimes you need time alone to find yourself!. You want to be able to think for yourself!. You probably shouldn't change colleges to get away from the people!. Find a positive goal in life and work on achieving that!. Do something that makes you happy and focus less on your home life!.
By the way, you don't need happiness!. You need JOY!!! There is a difference between the two!. Happiness in temporary!. Joy comes from deep within and cannot be taken away as easily!.
Finally, have you tried prayer!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Life's purpose is not always meant for amusement, sometimes it brings frustrations and disappointments!. All of us encountered problems and its up to us how to handle certain kind of problems!. You have to be strong and be independent enough to face & conquer your problems alone!. But I believe that you should also talk to your family because I know they all care for you even if you can't feel it!. Try to hang out with your friends and accept them as like what you want them to accept you!. I don't think that moving in a new college will help you because its really hard to adjust in a new environment with new faces around!.!.!.but I also think that you're right in your aspect that you have to find yourself & seek happiness by your own!. :(Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't want to sound cliche'ish, but I know exactly how you feel!. For most of my life I was depressed but afraid to let anyone know the real deal!. Most people in my life irritated me to the point where I felt completely isolated, like no one loved me!. i suffered from very low self esteem, due to childhood traumas!. However, you can get through this and really make the best of a bad situation!. You don't just "have" to accept what you've been given!. If you don't check it now, it will have a major effect on your adultlife!.!.!. pls don't let it get that far!. You have a different life imagined!.!.!. if you can dream it, honey u CAN achieve it!. The deal is this!.!.!.!. there is a huge void in your heart that no one can fill but God!. I am not trying to be "preachy", but when I tell u that is the ONLY thing that pulled me out of such extreme despair that I can't believe I was even down that far!. I used to wish I wouldn't wake up, and when I did, i was pissed off!. It didn't seem fair to keep livin' the way i was!. Obviously, there was a deeper purpose!. All i can say is don't give up!. You have a greater thing to do on earth, and to not live it is a disservice!. Keep ur chin up, keep looking up, and ask God to show you, YOU!!! Ask Him to show u the very thing you agreed to do b4 u ever hit this earth!. Ask Him to reveal your purpose!. Much love to youWww@Answer-Health@Com
I have suffered from depression for many years, and I noticed something recently, which is that my depression comes after endings and before positive beginnings!
So what I'm realising therefore, is that people tend to get depressed while things aren't right in their life!. Emotional pain is the same as physical pain - i!.e!. it's a way of your mind/body telling you that something isn't quite right!. If you had painful feet from walking on broken glass in bare feet then you would know to change what you are doing, e!.g!. by wearing some shoes or walking somewhere else!.
If you start seeing emotional pain as a form of communication, then you can start listening to what you are really being told!.
It is quite apparent that the people you hang around with aren't quite for you!. This happened to me at college too, and it took time to find the people I really liked, and I slowly phased out the crowd I didn't really get on with!. So make sure you keep meeting lots of people, via team sports, art groups, or whatever, and then you will start making friends by chance!.
Think of a close friend that you have or have had, and think about how you met, I bet you couldn't have predicted that you would have become friends with them!. I have met friends and partners in some very unexpected ways!. So it's worth just meeting people and getting your confidence up!. The more you practise socialising the better you will get as well!.
Also try this:
Get a piece of paper, then write down your biggest problems, e!.g!. yours might be:
1) Fear of loneliness
2) Hanging a round of people that I'm not comfortable with
3) Not happy with sis and bro
4) Sick of parents
Then come up with a list of solutions for each problem:
1) Getting over fear of loneliness
a) Learn to be happy when I'm alone!.
b) Do some fun activity on my own, and learn to enjoy it without the need of others (e!.g!. see a film on your own)
2) Meet new people I am happy and comfortable around
a) join clubs of things I enjoy, so I meet people like myself
b) volunteer work - meet sensitive caring people
3) Deal with sis and bro issue
a) Get my own place
b) Set boundaries with sis and bro so they don't annoy me so much
c) Avoid them where possible (stay out, stay in room)
d) Communicate with them more effectively where needed
etc!.!.!.
If you take small steps towards getting where you want to go, I think you'll start feeling better!. Your life won't change overnight but taking small steps in the right direction can make you feel better, as you know you're doing something about your problem!.
Not sure if that was useful!.
Of course the classic line is to say try therapy, but in your case it seems more of an environmental problem!?
Good luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
So what I'm realising therefore, is that people tend to get depressed while things aren't right in their life!. Emotional pain is the same as physical pain - i!.e!. it's a way of your mind/body telling you that something isn't quite right!. If you had painful feet from walking on broken glass in bare feet then you would know to change what you are doing, e!.g!. by wearing some shoes or walking somewhere else!.
If you start seeing emotional pain as a form of communication, then you can start listening to what you are really being told!.
It is quite apparent that the people you hang around with aren't quite for you!. This happened to me at college too, and it took time to find the people I really liked, and I slowly phased out the crowd I didn't really get on with!. So make sure you keep meeting lots of people, via team sports, art groups, or whatever, and then you will start making friends by chance!.
Think of a close friend that you have or have had, and think about how you met, I bet you couldn't have predicted that you would have become friends with them!. I have met friends and partners in some very unexpected ways!. So it's worth just meeting people and getting your confidence up!. The more you practise socialising the better you will get as well!.
Also try this:
Get a piece of paper, then write down your biggest problems, e!.g!. yours might be:
1) Fear of loneliness
2) Hanging a round of people that I'm not comfortable with
3) Not happy with sis and bro
4) Sick of parents
Then come up with a list of solutions for each problem:
1) Getting over fear of loneliness
a) Learn to be happy when I'm alone!.
b) Do some fun activity on my own, and learn to enjoy it without the need of others (e!.g!. see a film on your own)
2) Meet new people I am happy and comfortable around
a) join clubs of things I enjoy, so I meet people like myself
b) volunteer work - meet sensitive caring people
3) Deal with sis and bro issue
a) Get my own place
b) Set boundaries with sis and bro so they don't annoy me so much
c) Avoid them where possible (stay out, stay in room)
d) Communicate with them more effectively where needed
etc!.!.!.
If you take small steps towards getting where you want to go, I think you'll start feeling better!. Your life won't change overnight but taking small steps in the right direction can make you feel better, as you know you're doing something about your problem!.
Not sure if that was useful!.
Of course the classic line is to say try therapy, but in your case it seems more of an environmental problem!?
Good luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com