How can i get my other half to understand my anxiety???!
Question: How can i get my other half to understand my anxiety!?!?!?
I have been with my OH for almost ten years!. Just this year i started having panick attacks which resulted in me having anxiety worrying about having a panick attack and stopped me going out full stop!. I slowly and gradually have been doing normal every day things with the help of ADs for anxiety now!.
I have tried explaining to my OH about my anxiety!.!.!.!.!.!.he got angry with me as he did not see the difference with me going with a friend to the shops to me taking my son to a party!. When i go to the shops with my friend i am kept busy talking to her and i am with someone so that helps as i trust her and she knows what i am going through as one of her parents has depression and anxiety problems!. Also i know i can escape from this situation and just leave town!. I was sooo worried when my other half said he was not coming to the party with me and started worrying how i would get through the 2 hours!. I tend to get more anxious in busy places where i feel enclosed or have to wait!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have tried explaining to my OH about my anxiety!.!.!.!.!.!.he got angry with me as he did not see the difference with me going with a friend to the shops to me taking my son to a party!. When i go to the shops with my friend i am kept busy talking to her and i am with someone so that helps as i trust her and she knows what i am going through as one of her parents has depression and anxiety problems!. Also i know i can escape from this situation and just leave town!. I was sooo worried when my other half said he was not coming to the party with me and started worrying how i would get through the 2 hours!. I tend to get more anxious in busy places where i feel enclosed or have to wait!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Firstly i want to congratulate you for getting the medical help in which you need!. So many people are to frieghtened to get this help, but it seems you are dealing with the problems in the right way, by recieving counseling!.
With any type of mental illness, it can be difficult for family or friends to understand what you are going though unless they have experienced it themselves!. For example i suffer with depression, and my parents are quite understanding as they have experienced it themselves, but other family members and previous partners havent been able to see what im dealing with, and expect me to just stap out of it
I think that firstly we need to understand what anxiety/ panic attacks are and why they happen is the first step in helping your partner to understand what you are going through!.
Panic attacks are sudden, discrete periods of intense anxiety, mounting physiological arousal, fear, stomach problems (spastic colon) and discomfort that are associated with a variety of somatic and cognitive symptoms!.[1] The onset of these episodes is typically abrupt, and may have no obvious triggers!. Although these episodes may appear random, they are a subset of an evolutionary response commonly referred to as fight or flight that occur out of context!. This response floods the body with hormones, particularly epinephrine (adrenaline), that aid in defending itself from harm!.[2] Experiencing a panic attack is said to be one of the most intensely frightening, upsetting and uncomfortable experiences of a person's life!.
There are many causes for these such as: For long term suffers Hereditry, Biological causes and Phobias!. For short term suffers it can be due to Lack of Assertiveness , a maintaing cause, medication, Hyperventilation Syndrome!. and Pharmacological Triggers!.
By sitting down as a couple and researching about panic attacks, you could both buld up a better understanding of them, in turn helping your partner to truely see what you are having to deal with in your everyday life!.
Invest time reading articles on the internet, buy books or simply go down to your local libary and get some material on panic attacks, and go through it together, trying to increase your partners knowledge!. Hopefully by them knowing more about this mental illness, they will not only learn to understand it more, but also find ways to help you with this problem!.
Also if possiable take them along with you to your conselling sessions and try to get them involved!.
Take careWww@Answer-Health@Com
With any type of mental illness, it can be difficult for family or friends to understand what you are going though unless they have experienced it themselves!. For example i suffer with depression, and my parents are quite understanding as they have experienced it themselves, but other family members and previous partners havent been able to see what im dealing with, and expect me to just stap out of it
I think that firstly we need to understand what anxiety/ panic attacks are and why they happen is the first step in helping your partner to understand what you are going through!.
Panic attacks are sudden, discrete periods of intense anxiety, mounting physiological arousal, fear, stomach problems (spastic colon) and discomfort that are associated with a variety of somatic and cognitive symptoms!.[1] The onset of these episodes is typically abrupt, and may have no obvious triggers!. Although these episodes may appear random, they are a subset of an evolutionary response commonly referred to as fight or flight that occur out of context!. This response floods the body with hormones, particularly epinephrine (adrenaline), that aid in defending itself from harm!.[2] Experiencing a panic attack is said to be one of the most intensely frightening, upsetting and uncomfortable experiences of a person's life!.
There are many causes for these such as: For long term suffers Hereditry, Biological causes and Phobias!. For short term suffers it can be due to Lack of Assertiveness , a maintaing cause, medication, Hyperventilation Syndrome!. and Pharmacological Triggers!.
By sitting down as a couple and researching about panic attacks, you could both buld up a better understanding of them, in turn helping your partner to truely see what you are having to deal with in your everyday life!.
Invest time reading articles on the internet, buy books or simply go down to your local libary and get some material on panic attacks, and go through it together, trying to increase your partners knowledge!. Hopefully by them knowing more about this mental illness, they will not only learn to understand it more, but also find ways to help you with this problem!.
Also if possiable take them along with you to your conselling sessions and try to get them involved!.
Take careWww@Answer-Health@Com
There are some useful leaflets you can give him to read here
http://www!.rcpsych!.ac!.uk/mentalhealthinf!.!.!.
Hopefully they'll help him understand things a bit better, and make it easier for you!. I hope that you're feeling better soon!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
http://www!.rcpsych!.ac!.uk/mentalhealthinf!.!.!.
Hopefully they'll help him understand things a bit better, and make it easier for you!. I hope that you're feeling better soon!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is hard for someone who hasn't had them to understand!.
Do you know the reason why you are having them!?
Maybe dealing with the issues will help you overcome the panic attacks!.
As far as you OH is it possible for him to go to a counseling with you!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do you know the reason why you are having them!?
Maybe dealing with the issues will help you overcome the panic attacks!.
As far as you OH is it possible for him to go to a counseling with you!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's prob difficult for him to nderstand if he's never epxerienced it, so will take some time!. Obv his behaviour isn't helping you, so u just need to be patient, and try not to keep saying what's bothering u (I know this is hard as u want to share and let him know when u aren't great, but if he's now in the mindset of you "going on about it" he'll be resistant)!. So try to not mention it for as long as u can, to let him calm down!. Then casually mention something after it's happened, or when u r feeling good, so u can take a knock back if he doens't understand!. Also, be brief rather than say lots about how things are!. Let him know you aren't well, without making him feel he shold solve the problem!. I think it'll just take time and u have to be careful!. I know - not good that u r having to be careful when it's u who needs help, but not everyone gives the same level of support!.
I've suffered from panic attacks for years, and they've been really bad recently, so I know how horrible and terrifying they can be, and end up in a cycle of making them worse by thinking about them and worrying about having them!. Try to occupy your mind in new ways!. I find reading books and writing down my thoughts is a good help!.
Take care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've suffered from panic attacks for years, and they've been really bad recently, so I know how horrible and terrifying they can be, and end up in a cycle of making them worse by thinking about them and worrying about having them!. Try to occupy your mind in new ways!. I find reading books and writing down my thoughts is a good help!.
Take care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think you should consider some more counselling - three isn't enough!. Similar stuff happened to me!. To be able to talk to someone about it and have them help you to over come it is really useful!. a cognitive therapist will help you change the reactions you are having in stressful situations!.
Also I took beta blockers if going to do something really stressful!.!.!.it stopped the adrenalin pumping round causing me to over react in fear etc!. It's not for everyone and need to consult doctor!. I found one beta blocker an hour before I had to do what I was in fear of finally helped me to feel normal and enjoy myself in such situations!. Gradually I could see what was happening and now I can get through without the help of a beta blocker!.
As for your OH!.!.!.he doesn't sound very supportive!. Don't focus on him, focus on getting you back to normal, otherwise you will be applying your efforts to convince him when you could be applying them to sort yourself out!.
My advice isn't suitable for everyone!.!.!.you need to talk to someone who understands that can help you work out the best way for you to get through this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also I took beta blockers if going to do something really stressful!.!.!.it stopped the adrenalin pumping round causing me to over react in fear etc!. It's not for everyone and need to consult doctor!. I found one beta blocker an hour before I had to do what I was in fear of finally helped me to feel normal and enjoy myself in such situations!. Gradually I could see what was happening and now I can get through without the help of a beta blocker!.
As for your OH!.!.!.he doesn't sound very supportive!. Don't focus on him, focus on getting you back to normal, otherwise you will be applying your efforts to convince him when you could be applying them to sort yourself out!.
My advice isn't suitable for everyone!.!.!.you need to talk to someone who understands that can help you work out the best way for you to get through this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
hi so sorry to hear you are suffering with this i too have anxiety and am on 40mg prozac daily and awaiting cognitive behavioral therapy i think until someone has been there they can not fully appreciate how we feel my hubby also had no patience and thought it was a case of give yourself a shake in time this will settle i have been a lot better since being back on anti depressants good luck X i too felt i couldn't cope with places like supermarkets and things where i had to wait or stand for a while try to overcome it say to yourself you will be alright and that you haven't passed out yet etc take each day as it comes xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Its not easy!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.no one else is ever going to really understand how you see things how you think - it doesnt mean your oh doesnt care they just dont understand as they dont know how bad you feel, keep taking the AD's but you need talking therapy Cognitive behaviour therapy is good for anxiety problems, theres no magic cure its tough but worth it & when things improve just a little your partner should be encouraged that you are doing all you can to help yourself & once again be able to enjoy life more as a couple!.
Until then he needs to be more patient & you need to realise its not his fault that he doesnt fully understand!.
Good luck to both of you :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Until then he needs to be more patient & you need to realise its not his fault that he doesnt fully understand!.
Good luck to both of you :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
why do you refer to him as your 'other half'!? no person should be your other half!. you have to be completely, 100% you!.
Try telling him that, obviously, you are not worrying on purpose, and this is a very hard time for you, and you need some support from your significant other!. that's why they're significant!. but not so significant you feel that your life isn't complete without him!. care for yourself first!. not that i'm advocating becoming selfish, just remember that you can't help anyone unless you are feeling well!. good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try telling him that, obviously, you are not worrying on purpose, and this is a very hard time for you, and you need some support from your significant other!. that's why they're significant!. but not so significant you feel that your life isn't complete without him!. care for yourself first!. not that i'm advocating becoming selfish, just remember that you can't help anyone unless you are feeling well!. good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com