What is the best way to prepare for a family death that will be coming shortly?!
Question: What is the best way to prepare for a family death that will be coming shortly!?
My Pappy (grandfather) is the most important person in my life!. In a screwed up family, he was aways my ally!. His health is starting to fail badly, and I've been luckey enough to have not lost anyone before!. I have ADHD and depression and am largely rejected by my family based on finacial success achieved by my husband, and my own disorders!.
I love my pap more than anything, but am terrified what I will become when the person who loves me is gone shortly!.
How does one prepare and brace for such a thing!?
No family support, I'm sort of a one man show!.
Any advice deeply appreciated, thank you :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I love my pap more than anything, but am terrified what I will become when the person who loves me is gone shortly!.
How does one prepare and brace for such a thing!?
No family support, I'm sort of a one man show!.
Any advice deeply appreciated, thank you :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I had the same problem when my Papa died!. I asked friends who had lost grandparents and they told me there was no way to prepare for it!. I loved him more than anyone in my family!.
Make sure that before he dies you tell him how much he means to you!. Remember, this is about him, not you!. Spend as much time with him as you can and talk about all the great times you had together!. He knows he is dying so don't be afraid of the subject!. See if you can say a eulogy at his funeral!. That did wonders for me!.
Also, I was at his bedside when he passed!. I was the last person he looked at and that meant a lot to me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Make sure that before he dies you tell him how much he means to you!. Remember, this is about him, not you!. Spend as much time with him as you can and talk about all the great times you had together!. He knows he is dying so don't be afraid of the subject!. See if you can say a eulogy at his funeral!. That did wonders for me!.
Also, I was at his bedside when he passed!. I was the last person he looked at and that meant a lot to me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Make sure you say everything that you need to say to your grandfather BEFORE he dies!. Present the "I love you"s, and the "you were right/wrong"s while he's living!. That does not mean to be confrontational or combative - just present the truth in a bland but loving way!.
Also, psychology/psychiatry does come from within!. These people don't have the answers for you - they only have the right question!. The answers come from within!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also, psychology/psychiatry does come from within!. These people don't have the answers for you - they only have the right question!. The answers come from within!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
he will still be with you in spirit,so show him how much you valued his love by being the person he wants you to be!.
make him proud of you ,and you be proud of yourself !.
life is what you make it!.
it will make you stronger and a better person !.
tell him before he passes how much he meant to you and that you will always hope he will be around to help you even after he has passed
God BlessWww@Answer-Health@Com
make him proud of you ,and you be proud of yourself !.
life is what you make it!.
it will make you stronger and a better person !.
tell him before he passes how much he meant to you and that you will always hope he will be around to help you even after he has passed
God BlessWww@Answer-Health@Com
I suggest reading Chicken Soup for the Soul books!. They're amazing and they helped me deal with my grandmother's death!. Also, they're are also many other books that can help and teach you to deal with grief!. Look around at your local bookstore!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have your husband!. My husband is my best friend!. Make some new friends!. Sometimes it is very difficult to deal with family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
damn our story sound so much a like but i dont have adhd it ocd your pappy like my x mother law she 74 and it bad to say but when she dies its going to kill me more then my own mom thats 62Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is okay to cry a lot!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Im sorry you are going through this, my advise would be to talk to him about how you feel you will be surprised what answers you will get and it will help heal you in time,, Think positive how he impacted your life, and remember that he does not want you to turn down the wrong path just because he's no longer here, so after he has passed you remember that you will continue to live each day as happy and healthy as you can, I hope this makes sense its hard to put this kind of advise in writing, Hope it helps alittleWww@Answer-Health@Com
its going to be very hard and no matter how much time you have to prepare your never really prepared!.!.!.all you can do is make sure your grandfather knows exactly how you feel so he can give you comforting words to carry with you in life!.!.!.loosing someone in our lives is never easy but never let that change who you are or trying to become because if you ask him he would probably say to stay strong and live your life for the both of you!.!.!.!.support your self or look into groups on line who can assist you in healing when the time comes!.!.!.!.its hard and you will be in my prayers!.!.!.best of luck to youWww@Answer-Health@Com
Is your grandfather well enough to do a little interview with you on video so you will always have that!? If you can record him reassuring you of his love for you, I would think that could be a great source of comfort in your future!. This is also probably a good time to go to work on you, to find those things that require fixing and fix them! If what needs to be fixed is your acceptance of yourself, that may be your next step!. See the you that your Pappy loves, dig deeply into why he loves her, and then start to love her too!. That would be a great legacy for him to leave - that his love for you made a difference!. You may be able to effectively turn this into a good thing in your life!.
Just some thoughts!. When my Dad passed away I had some of those same worries!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just some thoughts!. When my Dad passed away I had some of those same worries!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's always hard to let go of a loved one!. Especially if you share a special bond with this person!. You need to spend time with your Pappy!. It doesn't matter if he's awake or in a coma, he can hear you!. Talk about the things you did, how much he ment to you and why!. Tell him about your life and how you are doing and that he helped you become that person!. Introduce him to your husband!. Then tell him that you know he's tired and that he's lived a long good life and its okay to go now!. A lot of time loved ones hang on to life for loved ones and they suffer longer!. So, you need to show your Pappy how much you love him by saying its okay to go when its time!. Its the most loving gift anyone can give a loved who is dying!.Www@Answer-Health@Com