Ever getting over sexual abuse?!
Question: Ever getting over sexual abuse!?
I was sexually abused from 5-8 years old by my older step brothers and once by their cousin!. When they came over for the weekend (I think more like every other weekend) it would happen!. All I knew was not to tell!. Any ways, I'm now 20 about to be 21, and have twin girls of my own and I have been thinking about it a lot here lately!. One reason I know is because I'm scared something like that will happen to them!. But, I just can't seem to get over it!. It is even getting me to want to start cutting again!.
Is it possible to ever just get over it!? Also, do you think those kind of people ever look back and feel bad for what they did!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Is it possible to ever just get over it!? Also, do you think those kind of people ever look back and feel bad for what they did!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Yes you can learn to adjust to this terrible trauma!. I am a retired psychologist and professor!. I have treated many patients with this type of experience in their lives!. Actually, most can "get over it" just with time!. But some require professional help!. I suggest you contact your family physician and get a referral to a psychologist who uses "cognitive and behavioral" type treatment!. You will learn to change "how you think about this experience"!. It is not what happens to a person at point A in the ABCs of your situation!. You had a bad experience at point A but it is point C (the things you are telling yourself (perhaps even at subconscious level) that is causing your mental anguish at point C!. A good experienced professional using cognitive techniques can help you!. Yes YOU WILL AND CAN get over what happened to you!. As for the last question concerning "those kind of people" you can be assured that many will look back and feel bad for what they did!. Unfortunely, some of these people have deep seated psychological problems themselves and need to seek help!. Some or sociopathic type personalities and may never feel bad and may even rationalize their behavior!. But I hope your main focus will be on YOU and that you follow my advice and talk to your primary care MD for a referral to an experienced cognitive-behavioral psychologist!. Some types of anti-depressants have been found to help!. Good luck and may your God be with you!. Dr!. James C RonningWww@Answer-Health@Com
First of all don't hurt yourself because of what they did to you!. If you are hurt and depreessed then how can you make sure this does not happen to your kids!. You should always do what is the best for you and your kids!. So don't start cutting because it will not help you kids!.
Don't let you twin girl around the ones that hurt you!. Always know where they are and who they are with and what they are doing!.
You can get over it but don't forget! And don't let it happen to your girls! I don't know if they feel bad or if they ever stop!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't let you twin girl around the ones that hurt you!. Always know where they are and who they are with and what they are doing!.
You can get over it but don't forget! And don't let it happen to your girls! I don't know if they feel bad or if they ever stop!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
No!. You will not get over it by yourself!. If you don't want to talk to your family about it, go to a counselor!. Write a letter to the boys that abused you saying that you forgive them!. It doesn't much matter if you do or not, but it will help, trust me!. And just be the best mother you can for your girls and make sure that you have a very open and honest relationship with your daughters and make sure to tell them that if ANYONE touches them inappropriately to scream and tell you right away!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have to understand that hurtful things happen in this world and its not your fault!. I was molested too!. Its ok to think about it, but dont let it tear you apart!. Its just somethihng that happen!. let it be an expoerince that makes you a better person!. not a hurt fragmented one!. And protect your children as well as you can!. and let them know that hurtful things happen in this world an that you are going to try your best to protect the, although you cant prptect them from every thing!. God blessWww@Answer-Health@Com
Youy need to go back to counseling!.I was sexually assaulted and robbed all at the same time so I understand what your going through!.Counseling helped me tremendously!.Please join www!.cafemom!.com and join some of those groups there that deal with sexual abuse and assaults!.These are women just like us and we can all help eachother through this!.If you go there look up my name!.!.amelia_jean24Www@Answer-Health@Com
im only 16 and i dont know alot of things yet,
but i would say if your girls are old enough
to understand, talk to them and tell them what happen to you
not in detail, but let them know its bad
and what to do if someone does it to them!.
and one thing i ask, please dont cut!.
it wont help, trust meWww@Answer-Health@Com
but i would say if your girls are old enough
to understand, talk to them and tell them what happen to you
not in detail, but let them know its bad
and what to do if someone does it to them!.
and one thing i ask, please dont cut!.
it wont help, trust meWww@Answer-Health@Com
I want you to try something!. Everytime you obsess over the abuse or feel like hurting yourself I want you to go into the bathroom and look at yourself in the mirror!.
Say the following:
"I love you!. It's not your fault!. You were a child!."
Keep doing this and see if it helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Say the following:
"I love you!. It's not your fault!. You were a child!."
Keep doing this and see if it helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
from the people i know who have been abused!. no!. but you can deal with how it affects your life!.
abuse is all about controlling others and breaking down!.
always remember your worth life's possibilities!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
abuse is all about controlling others and breaking down!.
always remember your worth life's possibilities!.Www@Answer-Health@Com