My Husband is on Drugs PLEASE HELP!?!
Question: My Husband is on Drugs PLEASE HELP!!?
About ayear ago i found out my husband is hooked on drugs (pain killers and a couple times herion) He went on a methadone drug treament program to try and get off of drugs (thats how i found out!. I found his methadone bottle) He said he went on it to get off of drugs and planned on getting off of that before the family found out!. but hes still on it a year later plus he hooked on cocaine!.hes trying to get into this one detox rehab but they wont take him till he goes about half ways lower on his methadone(wich will take about 3months)were always aruging !.we been together 4years and have a 22month old I love him but dont know what to do anymore im just so stressed!. Im always worried when he goes out that he might overdose and die!. hes gone to a coulpe consuling meetings but never keeps up with it !.what should i do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Wow!. Ok seriously!. You have to think about what marriage means to you!. Do you think that staying with him and trying to keep encouraging him to get clean will work!? In your heart do you believe that!? If so!. This is the "the for worse" part in the bet, and "for sicker" also!. If you believe in those vows!. Stay!. I'm serious!. Stay!. If you don't think you staying will in anyway eventually help him and get clean for your family!. Then leave!. You cannot be a great mom to your son, fighting the demons in your husband all of your life!. If you don't think he'll really get it together!. You may want to leave now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to find a rehab place that will take him!. Al-non is a good place to go!. When your husband is there you can decide what you want to happen to your relationship!. You can see if this is helping, and maybe if he is off drugs then your relationship will become strong again!. (You should take the baby if you do get divorced!) Good luck! I give you my best of luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell him that he needs to change NOW or you and your child are leaving and that he will not see the child because you can prove he is on drugs, so you WILL fight for full custody!. You know, you can get your child taken away as well if your child is around situations like that!. Think of your child first, seriously!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If he's not ready he won't stop!. Do for you and your child!. Try Al-Anon for yourself and encourage him!. You can give him an ultimatum, but you have to mean it!. Addiction is very hard, you have a tough road!. You may have to leave, unless you want your child around it!. FYI, social services can and will take your child if they are around that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Go to Al-Anon!. It's free and you'll meet people just like you - people who love addicts and want to help them, and themselves, without being enablers
http://www!.al-anon!.alateen!.org/
It says it's about drinking, but I've been there, and it's about drug use, too!. Any kind of addiction!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
http://www!.al-anon!.alateen!.org/
It says it's about drinking, but I've been there, and it's about drug use, too!. Any kind of addiction!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you should prbably go to the rehab to ckeck if he is still there this i a very serious situation i know what you are going through my friend's husband was the same way but they got help you will be ok god is with you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Whatever you do, don't make ANY threats that you know in your heart you won't/can't back up!. Unfortunately, that's the only advice I can give you!. I'm sorry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Leave and go to Al-Anon
http://www!.al-anon!.alateen!.org/Www@Answer-Health@Com
http://www!.al-anon!.alateen!.org/Www@Answer-Health@Com
Threaten to leave him or call the cops on himWww@Answer-Health@Com
birbe your husmand be treats gifts , and wards so that he woul not be on drugs!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ive been there get out and dont look back sorry probably not the answer your looking forWww@Answer-Health@Com
leave himWww@Answer-Health@Com
At some point the family will find out about his addiction problems no matter how hard he tries to hide it!. In fact, you may want to tell your family because you need all the support you can get!. I suggest setting up a intervention which is where the whole family gets together and convinces your husband to go in to treatment!. If you live in a large metropolitan area, look in the yellow pages for an addictionologist (a specialist in addiction issues) and tell him/her about your husband!. The specialist will start looking for an inpatient treatment program for your husband although it may not be close to home!. The specialist will also set up the intervention (IE time, place, etc)!. If your husband has a social worker or case worker, you might want to get them involved too!.
Once your husband sees how many people love him and want him to get better, that might be enough incentive for him to take that first step to recovery!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Once your husband sees how many people love him and want him to get better, that might be enough incentive for him to take that first step to recovery!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Social deprivation can stop someone from doing drugs!. If there's anyway to stop him from going outside for 2 weeks-4weeks, do it!. Then find a hobby or sport or something to get him occupied that he loves doing!. Get him drink alot of water and eat properly, do runs and get back in shape!. Comfort him during all this and love him like you've never done before!.
Now you must be thinking WTF, how am i suppose to get him to do that!. All these drugs and screwing around with his neurotransmittors!. He's imbalanced and now his sense of motivation+reward is screwed up!. He is prolly having mood problems and is alot more stressed than you think he is!. It becomes a chain reaction and he tries to get away from the everything by doing drugs which got him in this mess in the first place!. Explain this to him and try to relate to him on terms that he finds interesting and can really understand!.
They key to fixing this problem is YOU!. His love for you will and can conquer drugs!. You need to get yourself together and take the initiative to console him instead of the having the meetings do it!. Give him alot of attention and love and talk to him nicely!. But while doing so, dont make it seem as if it is ALL about him (but still give him lots of attention)!. If you put up with what he has to say and look past watever bad it is that you think he's doing!. You can avoid arguements!. You have to sacrifice alot for this!.
But anyways, in a way maybe im just venting what happened to me and how it's worked for me!. Try using some of it that you find can work!.
Hope things work out, Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Now you must be thinking WTF, how am i suppose to get him to do that!. All these drugs and screwing around with his neurotransmittors!. He's imbalanced and now his sense of motivation+reward is screwed up!. He is prolly having mood problems and is alot more stressed than you think he is!. It becomes a chain reaction and he tries to get away from the everything by doing drugs which got him in this mess in the first place!. Explain this to him and try to relate to him on terms that he finds interesting and can really understand!.
They key to fixing this problem is YOU!. His love for you will and can conquer drugs!. You need to get yourself together and take the initiative to console him instead of the having the meetings do it!. Give him alot of attention and love and talk to him nicely!. But while doing so, dont make it seem as if it is ALL about him (but still give him lots of attention)!. If you put up with what he has to say and look past watever bad it is that you think he's doing!. You can avoid arguements!. You have to sacrifice alot for this!.
But anyways, in a way maybe im just venting what happened to me and how it's worked for me!. Try using some of it that you find can work!.
Hope things work out, Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
To be honest!.!.!.I would leave him and take your child with you for the time being!. Can you stay with your parents!? He won't stop until he hits rock bottom, and you staying there is not helping matters!. Being with a drug abuser is very hard, and they will say they are better when they really aren't!. Once he sees that you're gone, he will want to get better!. It's a tough road, and I would not want to subject my baby to anyone even if it was their father using drugs!. That's not a healthy enviroment to raise a child!. Especially since your arguing a lot now!. Think of your child!. Be there for him when he needs help, but don't live with him until he is clean!. Imagine if your little one accidentally found some drugs and took them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The only way he will change is if you get the law involved!. He needs to dace reality and you threatening to leave him won't phase him because his mind is not straight even when he isn't on drugs!. I had a similar situation and the only way the one I loved changed was when he got caught by the law!. He was in and out of court!. They put him on probation and he has to go to rehab and meetings and take drug tests on a regular basis!. Being faced with going to jail for some time is what made my love quit!. I know it is hard to deal with but if you truly love someone that is what you have to do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com