So depressed and dont know what to do?!
Question: So depressed and dont know what to do!?
What can I do in my sitaution!? I am a 26 yr old shy/ timid guy and feel like i have no control on my life and am subsequently constantly depressed!. Im failing my engineering degree that Ive almost finished after 5!.5yrs to the point of seriously wanting to drop out!.
Im having extreme difficulty securing a job, especially considering my univesity results!. additionally my family split up a few months back after 2!.5yrs on constant arguements and now parent lives on one side of the country while I live with the other on the opposite side!. At the end of last year i was diagnosed with epliepsy!. Im completely incapable of finding a girl friend and not likely to in the future either and dont really have my of a social life!.
Ive been on three different anti- depressants including zoloft, luvox and effexor- xr but nothing works!. Ive also been seeing a psychologist for the past 2!.5yrs but its not working!. I feel ive exhausted all my options and dont know what to do!? any thoughts!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Im having extreme difficulty securing a job, especially considering my univesity results!. additionally my family split up a few months back after 2!.5yrs on constant arguements and now parent lives on one side of the country while I live with the other on the opposite side!. At the end of last year i was diagnosed with epliepsy!. Im completely incapable of finding a girl friend and not likely to in the future either and dont really have my of a social life!.
Ive been on three different anti- depressants including zoloft, luvox and effexor- xr but nothing works!. Ive also been seeing a psychologist for the past 2!.5yrs but its not working!. I feel ive exhausted all my options and dont know what to do!? any thoughts!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I am so sorry!. You could try working out a lot!. I heard people who work out each day find it helps ease they depression!. Go on hikes too, they help you think, and its better to have deep thoughts when you work out then have them while you are alone at home!. Good luck! Don't give up!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Go back to your doctor and tell them this!! Print it out if you don't feel like saying it!. This doctor is to help you even if it means referring you to another doctor!.
That's my #1 advice!.
If you don't want to do that and want to know of other things you can do, excercise is a good idea - something about the brain releasing some chemicals that help boost your mental health when you are active!. Also, if you are comfortable with animals, seriously think about volunteering at an animal shelter!. Perhaps just to excercise the dogs or even just help with cleaning!. An animal will be an excellent listener and you will feel better for helping!.
Another piece of advice; don't try to fix your whole life at once!. Don't look down the road at problems that could arise!. Take it slow, 1 day at at time or if that is too overwhelming, 1 morning or 1 hour at a time!. Think of things in pieces and accomplish one piece at a time!. When you wake up, think: step 1; take a shower or whatever it is you do first!. Then finish that step before you move on!. Step 2; have coffee, step 3 get dressed, etc!.
Lastly, know that you cannot control others (ie; your parents) or their behavior!. You can only control your reaction to it!.
You sound like a smart, sensitive guy - don't lose hope!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That's my #1 advice!.
If you don't want to do that and want to know of other things you can do, excercise is a good idea - something about the brain releasing some chemicals that help boost your mental health when you are active!. Also, if you are comfortable with animals, seriously think about volunteering at an animal shelter!. Perhaps just to excercise the dogs or even just help with cleaning!. An animal will be an excellent listener and you will feel better for helping!.
Another piece of advice; don't try to fix your whole life at once!. Don't look down the road at problems that could arise!. Take it slow, 1 day at at time or if that is too overwhelming, 1 morning or 1 hour at a time!. Think of things in pieces and accomplish one piece at a time!. When you wake up, think: step 1; take a shower or whatever it is you do first!. Then finish that step before you move on!. Step 2; have coffee, step 3 get dressed, etc!.
Lastly, know that you cannot control others (ie; your parents) or their behavior!. You can only control your reaction to it!.
You sound like a smart, sensitive guy - don't lose hope!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Thanks for opening up!
!!. You are not a product of accident!. It doesn't matter what is happening in your family or to you, you have a purpose to accomplish on earth!.
2!. Every situation that comes you way, comes because you have an innate strength to overcome them!. Your situation is still under your control because there is only one thing you cannot do, and that is what you believe you cannot do!. You can do all thing through Christ Jesus!.
3!. Where the strength of Human fails, it is an obvious pointer to the need of the divine help which is in God and available through Christ Jesus!. Your problem is nothing if only you can give it to the one who cares about you-Jesus!.
4!. Your present situation is a passage and only God can help you through and He is willing to help, if you all authorize him to help!. I have been in a situation similar to yours but in 1999, Jesus Christ saved me and today, i am with 13 certificates, happily married and living a fulfilling life!.
5!. He who call on the name of the Lord will be save!. Why not call on the Lord and I assure you, you will be SAVE!.
6!. Try Jesus, that is the only option that will and can NEVER fail!.
I love you DEARWww@Answer-Health@Com
!!. You are not a product of accident!. It doesn't matter what is happening in your family or to you, you have a purpose to accomplish on earth!.
2!. Every situation that comes you way, comes because you have an innate strength to overcome them!. Your situation is still under your control because there is only one thing you cannot do, and that is what you believe you cannot do!. You can do all thing through Christ Jesus!.
3!. Where the strength of Human fails, it is an obvious pointer to the need of the divine help which is in God and available through Christ Jesus!. Your problem is nothing if only you can give it to the one who cares about you-Jesus!.
4!. Your present situation is a passage and only God can help you through and He is willing to help, if you all authorize him to help!. I have been in a situation similar to yours but in 1999, Jesus Christ saved me and today, i am with 13 certificates, happily married and living a fulfilling life!.
5!. He who call on the name of the Lord will be save!. Why not call on the Lord and I assure you, you will be SAVE!.
6!. Try Jesus, that is the only option that will and can NEVER fail!.
I love you DEARWww@Answer-Health@Com
I've only found one way out of depression - and that's life with Jesus in it!. If people only knew who Jesus REALLY is - He's not fictional like so many think He is, and He's not a mere "religion" either!. If He were fictional - if He were just "religion", I wouldn't be here right now and neither would a whole bunch of others who have only been freed from depression because of what Jesus has done in our lives!. Want to know what MY life was like!? I was a cutter [still have the scars on my left arm], I overdosed on pills once to end my life, my homelife was such a wreck that I constantly wanted to run away !.!. and I did at one point!. I couldn't take it anymore !.!. I took my bag, a few belongings and ran out the front door in tears!. I felt angry, bitter & hurt !.!. I didn't want my family or my life anymore!. I've been recently dumped from a 2 year relationship with a guy I THOUGHT was my best friend and future husband!. He left me because he couldn't deal with the "wreck" I became!. My self esteem was extremely low, I've never had many friends at all, I failed & messed up 3 years of uni [my parents want me to be a professional, so my uni failure only added to my misery] and on top of all that, my own brother was threatening my life!. It got to the point where I could barely sleep at night!. Not a wonderful way to live, let me tell you!.
I didn't want my life anymore, and I became furious at everyone !.!. especially at this "Jesus" person, this "God!." The night I overdosed, I told Him I hated the life He'd given me!. I told Him he hadn't helped me & I doubted He ever would !.!. so I took 23 pills!. I was terrified but I didn't want life anymore!. My body refused to take the pills!. I threw up the majority & spent the rest of the night in a complete trance!. I was totally out of it !.!. I could barely walk in a straight line & I had to pretend to be OK at dinnertime sitting across from my parents, just so that they wouldn't rush me to hospital !.!. but every bite I took made me want to throw up!. That night, I went to bed crying!. I was afraid I wouldn't wake up the next morning, but I didn't mind because I just didn't want to live anymore!.
But I didn't lose my life!. Jesus intervened - He had a better way of life planned for me, and He wasn't about to let me mess that up by killing myself!. I had been mad at Him before, but He saved my life! He WANTED me to stay - He had PLANS for me! Want to know what I'm like now that I'm trusting Jesus with my life!? Want to know what He's done for me!? My relationship with my parents & family is MUCH better !.!. I've been freed from depression !.!. I no longer cut myself !.!. though my friends abandoned me I'm joyful & don't feel lonely at all !.!. I'm no longer afraid of what life might throw my way, and when trouble comes, I smile and walk through it confidently, knowing that Jesus is walking through it with me!. As long as He's holding my hand, I know I'm OK!. I'm stronger than I used to be, I'm happy, I'm no longer bitter or angry, I've learnt to forgive !.!. & I've been granted a place at a brand new uni! Jesus has truly taken my wreck of a life and turned it around! When my friends ditched me because of the mess my life had become, Jesus picked up the broken pieces & put my heart back together!. My life is blooming & growing in ways beyond belief! I never EVER thought I'd get this far - and I owe my complete turn around to NOBODY but Jesus - the credit goes to Him - not to me, not to my friends, not to my parents, and not to any doctor or psychologist!. If it weren't for Jesus I'd STILL be cutting myself, I'd still be depressed & I'd still have a disastrous life!.
The people in this video would agree with me completely !.!. have a look for yourself at what Jesus has done for them - He's not "fiction" like you may think He is - and our lives are proof! These people have been freed from even greater battles & struggles than I have !.!.!.
http://www!.godtube!.com/view_video!.php!?vi!.!.!.
PS: Be sure to turn the volume up all the way, it's a very quiet video!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I didn't want my life anymore, and I became furious at everyone !.!. especially at this "Jesus" person, this "God!." The night I overdosed, I told Him I hated the life He'd given me!. I told Him he hadn't helped me & I doubted He ever would !.!. so I took 23 pills!. I was terrified but I didn't want life anymore!. My body refused to take the pills!. I threw up the majority & spent the rest of the night in a complete trance!. I was totally out of it !.!. I could barely walk in a straight line & I had to pretend to be OK at dinnertime sitting across from my parents, just so that they wouldn't rush me to hospital !.!. but every bite I took made me want to throw up!. That night, I went to bed crying!. I was afraid I wouldn't wake up the next morning, but I didn't mind because I just didn't want to live anymore!.
But I didn't lose my life!. Jesus intervened - He had a better way of life planned for me, and He wasn't about to let me mess that up by killing myself!. I had been mad at Him before, but He saved my life! He WANTED me to stay - He had PLANS for me! Want to know what I'm like now that I'm trusting Jesus with my life!? Want to know what He's done for me!? My relationship with my parents & family is MUCH better !.!. I've been freed from depression !.!. I no longer cut myself !.!. though my friends abandoned me I'm joyful & don't feel lonely at all !.!. I'm no longer afraid of what life might throw my way, and when trouble comes, I smile and walk through it confidently, knowing that Jesus is walking through it with me!. As long as He's holding my hand, I know I'm OK!. I'm stronger than I used to be, I'm happy, I'm no longer bitter or angry, I've learnt to forgive !.!. & I've been granted a place at a brand new uni! Jesus has truly taken my wreck of a life and turned it around! When my friends ditched me because of the mess my life had become, Jesus picked up the broken pieces & put my heart back together!. My life is blooming & growing in ways beyond belief! I never EVER thought I'd get this far - and I owe my complete turn around to NOBODY but Jesus - the credit goes to Him - not to me, not to my friends, not to my parents, and not to any doctor or psychologist!. If it weren't for Jesus I'd STILL be cutting myself, I'd still be depressed & I'd still have a disastrous life!.
The people in this video would agree with me completely !.!. have a look for yourself at what Jesus has done for them - He's not "fiction" like you may think He is - and our lives are proof! These people have been freed from even greater battles & struggles than I have !.!.!.
http://www!.godtube!.com/view_video!.php!?vi!.!.!.
PS: Be sure to turn the volume up all the way, it's a very quiet video!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Depression: I KNOW, from experience, how difficult it is, but once you drag yourself out of bed, throw on a dressing gown, and have a little time in the morning light, preferably doing easy stretching exercises, have a shower, a cuppa, and scrambled eggs and possibly bacon (these provide a lasting energy boost: no carbohydrates for 2 hrs, or extremely little; a teaspoon of sugar is OK)!. Splash cold water on your face, to revive you, as needed!. No daytime sleeping; only 8 - 9 hrs at night!. Antidepressants work quicker than the following; 2 - 6 weeks, but you may have to adjust dosage, or types, whereas St!. John's wort is effective for most people, and doesn't develop tolerance and the few side effects are rare, and usually not severe!.
It doesn't cause sleeping problems, or weight change, but takes 4 - 6 weeks to become effective!. A recent, independent German double blind study showed it to be as effective as Sertraline (marketed in the USA as Zoloft: a commonly prescribed antidepressant) in cases of major depression, with far fewer side effects, and those were generally better tolerated, with a lower rate of discontinuation!. Unlike antidepressants, where sexual dysfunction is a common side effect, it happens much more rarely with St!. John's wort (I have noticed no effect in this area)!.
A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows!. All except for no!. (7!.) are safe to use with medication, but not St!. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor!.
(1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression!.
(2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!.
(3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!.
(4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!.
(5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!.
(6!.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule, as per page R, in section 2, at ezy build!.
(7!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety!. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www!.real-depression-help!.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets!.
An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause!. Also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops)!.
This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be seen on page R, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, it's really best to view the whole of section 2!.
If you are already taking antidepressants, and want to use the wort, I suggest that you taper off the antidepressant, over at least 2 weeks, with medical advice as to how long to take, before beginning the wort!. ~~~
View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you!. It is called "Act as If!." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing!. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone!. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior!.
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!.
People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It doesn't cause sleeping problems, or weight change, but takes 4 - 6 weeks to become effective!. A recent, independent German double blind study showed it to be as effective as Sertraline (marketed in the USA as Zoloft: a commonly prescribed antidepressant) in cases of major depression, with far fewer side effects, and those were generally better tolerated, with a lower rate of discontinuation!. Unlike antidepressants, where sexual dysfunction is a common side effect, it happens much more rarely with St!. John's wort (I have noticed no effect in this area)!.
A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows!. All except for no!. (7!.) are safe to use with medication, but not St!. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor!.
(1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression!.
(2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!.
(3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!.
(4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!.
(5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!.
(6!.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule, as per page R, in section 2, at ezy build!.
(7!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety!. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www!.real-depression-help!.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets!.
An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause!. Also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops)!.
This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be seen on page R, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, it's really best to view the whole of section 2!.
If you are already taking antidepressants, and want to use the wort, I suggest that you taper off the antidepressant, over at least 2 weeks, with medical advice as to how long to take, before beginning the wort!. ~~~
View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you!. It is called "Act as If!." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing!. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone!. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior!.
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!.
People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!.Www@Answer-Health@Com