I really am suffering here plzz help! greatly appreciaterd =(?!
Question: I really am suffering here plzz help! greatly appreciaterd =(!?
well ive kinda been feeling depressed lately cuase me and my friend keep fighting and we dont get alongany more and my social life is not that good and well im moving schools which hopefullyi canmake new friends there but also ive been feeling extremely self concsious and perposly skippingmeals, im 14 and yeh imnot that bad looking but im allways the third wheel if u know wat i mean like if someone gets dumped they come to me then when they get over it BAM nomore of u thanks or if somerthing better comes along!. I just always get used by friends and by ppl and yeh i guess my mum and dad have been depressed for a while and my mum tried to kill herself a few times and my dads depressed cuase he does everyhtin now and yeh its inda rubbed off, i mean i used to be happy but one day i was just looking at all these smiling faces and at first i smiled then i thought to my self!.!.!.its all gonna end one day and i may go to heaven but !.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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have you ever studied the links in a chain!?
they look similar, but look closer and they are all different in some way
we are all links in the chain of life, though we differ, we all need to be part of that chain,
have confidence in yourself sweetheart, have you heard the saying, "a change is as good as a rest" !?
when you move to the other school I'm sure you will find new friend, and your old friends will want to keep in touch with you
you can have 2 school reunions :-))
you say you are "not bad looking" I'm sure you are ravishingly beautiful, as for boyfriends, you are only 14, the average age for having serious bf / gf relationship is 16, think about it 16 is only 12% of your life ""WOW"" how good is the rest of your life going to be sunshine!.!?
what will i do if you are sad every day!? you are my sunshine you brighten my day
im always here for youWww@Answer-Health@Com
they look similar, but look closer and they are all different in some way
we are all links in the chain of life, though we differ, we all need to be part of that chain,
have confidence in yourself sweetheart, have you heard the saying, "a change is as good as a rest" !?
when you move to the other school I'm sure you will find new friend, and your old friends will want to keep in touch with you
you can have 2 school reunions :-))
you say you are "not bad looking" I'm sure you are ravishingly beautiful, as for boyfriends, you are only 14, the average age for having serious bf / gf relationship is 16, think about it 16 is only 12% of your life ""WOW"" how good is the rest of your life going to be sunshine!.!?
what will i do if you are sad every day!? you are my sunshine you brighten my day
im always here for youWww@Answer-Health@Com
You're moving schools, that's it! It is your chance! Now you can make a whole bunch of new friends!. you have the chance to be whoever you want, but better be yourself, and forget all the problems from the past!. It's your chance now, you don't get a lot of those in your life, use it, don't let it slip!.
Good luck chasing that destiny of yours!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Good luck chasing that destiny of yours!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You can make the best of it!. Did you know that your mind is eternal!? Did you know that you were born in the belly of a star, and are truly universal!? Well you are, my friend!. Close your eyes and think of a beautiful rose, and know that there is no difference between yourself and the flower!.
Learn to love yourself and the world will love you too!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Learn to love yourself and the world will love you too!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I went to 4 different schools when my parents divorced, it was a difficult time and I reacted very negatively (I was kicked out of two for various reasons they of course called it "acting out"), that was a long time ago now but trust me you will get through it, make a whole new bunch of friends and when your older you'll look back on it and regret the time you wasted worrying!. Enjoy your youth:)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think moving schools will be a big step, It will do you good to meet new people and make new friends!.
I'm 16, and moving schools for me would be hard because im not very confident!.
But in your situation i think you should just go for it!.
You need good friends to support you!. =]Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm 16, and moving schools for me would be hard because im not very confident!.
But in your situation i think you should just go for it!.
You need good friends to support you!. =]Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would say try and start new things like dancing, yoga, any sport or join a reading club, I find that doing new things and meeting new ppl really gives me a boost!. I can be very depressing to be in an enviroment like yours and if you dont take steps fast it will just pull you down further!.
Try reading nice books, contunie being nice to your friends but dont let them use you!. I know its easier said than done, but make an effort at that!.
Encourage your mum to join a club too or try doing something new!. Keep your Dad encuraged things will brighten up!. All the best my dear you will get tru it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try reading nice books, contunie being nice to your friends but dont let them use you!. I know its easier said than done, but make an effort at that!.
Encourage your mum to join a club too or try doing something new!. Keep your Dad encuraged things will brighten up!. All the best my dear you will get tru it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
honey, you need to talk to your parents about this, or someone who can help you feel better!. When your not depressed believe me this world is wonderful to live in!. Also, I'll tell you from expirience just be yourself in high school!. I'm only friends with ONE person from my high school I'm 19 and I live 1200 miles away!. Those people don't matter what matter's is your identity!. but yeah I would talk to someone about this, and don't go down the eating dissorder path!. Trust me on that one too, you'll not feel better about yourself you'll just get more and more self concious!. Life can be good it's and expirience worth living!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Depression sucks which is what your family is going thru!.
We are not waiting for something better!. That is the thing that you have to get away from thinking!. There is not some big something or some person that is going to come and fix everything( I used to think that there was)!.That statement I just made has nothing whatsoever to do with God, I still believe in him!. I am talking about people or waiting for a special occasion(Christmas for example)!.The secret to being happy is to make yourself happy!. Every day when you get up think of one thing to look forward to (for example : a tv show that is coming on,cooking something,eating something you like,going somewhere)!. It doesn't have to be anything big just something that you like!. If you do this everyday you will be amazed at the things that you will just automatically think of that will make you feel better!. When you feel happier with yourself you will have more self confidence and it will be noticed by others!.
I am sorry about your Dad!. He is overwhelmed plus he is not getting the affection and support from his wife and best friend(your mother)!. Ask your Dad what you can do to help and let him know that you are there for him!. In any situation look at what you can do to help and/or change the situation!. Doing something about a situation empowers you and keeps you from feeling helpless and depressed!. I am sorry about your mom!. Try helping her to learn these methods of fighting depression!. Sometimes part of depression is just based on bad habits (just automatically thinking about the bad)!.That is why you have to make yourself think about the good!.
Ask your mom if possible(or your dad) if the Dr has given her a complete physical!. She may be having a severe hormone imbalance!. She also needs a neurological exam to make sure she doesn't have something like epilepsy(epilepsy and depression go hand in hand)!.
Open communication about the situation within the family is the key!. Whatever the cause of your mom's problem needs to be found out !. Think about if your mom had a physical illness what would your family do to help her get better!. Mental illness is no different and there is always a physical cause for it whether it is a chemical imbalance in the brain, hormone imbalance or other causes!. Your family just needs to figure out where the problem is coming from and actively fix what you can!.Being a family means sticking together and helping each other to fix problems and just enjoying each other!. Best wishes to your family !Www@Answer-Health@Com
We are not waiting for something better!. That is the thing that you have to get away from thinking!. There is not some big something or some person that is going to come and fix everything( I used to think that there was)!.That statement I just made has nothing whatsoever to do with God, I still believe in him!. I am talking about people or waiting for a special occasion(Christmas for example)!.The secret to being happy is to make yourself happy!. Every day when you get up think of one thing to look forward to (for example : a tv show that is coming on,cooking something,eating something you like,going somewhere)!. It doesn't have to be anything big just something that you like!. If you do this everyday you will be amazed at the things that you will just automatically think of that will make you feel better!. When you feel happier with yourself you will have more self confidence and it will be noticed by others!.
I am sorry about your Dad!. He is overwhelmed plus he is not getting the affection and support from his wife and best friend(your mother)!. Ask your Dad what you can do to help and let him know that you are there for him!. In any situation look at what you can do to help and/or change the situation!. Doing something about a situation empowers you and keeps you from feeling helpless and depressed!. I am sorry about your mom!. Try helping her to learn these methods of fighting depression!. Sometimes part of depression is just based on bad habits (just automatically thinking about the bad)!.That is why you have to make yourself think about the good!.
Ask your mom if possible(or your dad) if the Dr has given her a complete physical!. She may be having a severe hormone imbalance!. She also needs a neurological exam to make sure she doesn't have something like epilepsy(epilepsy and depression go hand in hand)!.
Open communication about the situation within the family is the key!. Whatever the cause of your mom's problem needs to be found out !. Think about if your mom had a physical illness what would your family do to help her get better!. Mental illness is no different and there is always a physical cause for it whether it is a chemical imbalance in the brain, hormone imbalance or other causes!. Your family just needs to figure out where the problem is coming from and actively fix what you can!.Being a family means sticking together and helping each other to fix problems and just enjoying each other!. Best wishes to your family !Www@Answer-Health@Com
A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows!. All except for no!. (7!.) are safe to use with medication, but not St!. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor!.
(1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression!.
(2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!.
(3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!.
(4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!.
(5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!.
(6!.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule, as per page R, in section 2, at ezy build!.
(7!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety!. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www!.real-depression-help!.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets!.
An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause!. Also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops)!.
This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be seen on page R, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, it's really best to view the whole of section 2!.
See the advice, and weblinks/hotlines regarding suicidal thoughts/ideation, in section 5, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when the need arises, is the best advice I can give to your mother, but I really think all of you would benefit greatly by using the above approach to treating depression!. Print, refer, or show them!.
Whether or not there is an afterlife, you are here for some time yet, so why not make an effort now, so you will be able to enjoy it!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
(1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression!.
(2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!.
(3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!.
(4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!.
(5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!.
(6!.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule, as per page R, in section 2, at ezy build!.
(7!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety!. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www!.real-depression-help!.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets!.
An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause!. Also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops)!.
This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be seen on page R, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, it's really best to view the whole of section 2!.
See the advice, and weblinks/hotlines regarding suicidal thoughts/ideation, in section 5, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when the need arises, is the best advice I can give to your mother, but I really think all of you would benefit greatly by using the above approach to treating depression!. Print, refer, or show them!.
Whether or not there is an afterlife, you are here for some time yet, so why not make an effort now, so you will be able to enjoy it!?Www@Answer-Health@Com