Really low self esteem?!
Question: Really low self esteem!?
My girlfriend (who has been diagnosed with BPD) Borderline Personality Disorder,and she always tells me how perfect I am and all the good things about me!. So I told her she has to love herself also, then she got this angry look on her face and almost looked like she was sick and she told me that its different that she cant be loved!. And I asked her why and she replied b/c I
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Chris!.!.!.one thing BPD's have is no sense of self!. Because she has no sense of self, she cannot love who she is!. Since she was diagnosed so young, there may be things she can learn to change her thought process!.!.!.but she has to be willing to learn and work very hard!. What you need to know about BPD is that it will be a major roller coaster!. One minute she'll be pushing you away and when she does, she'll be begging for you not to leave her!. One serious trait of BPD is paralyzing fear of abandonment!.
I'm hoping since she was diagnosed, that means she see's a therapist!? If so, the therapist should be giving her some guidance and tools on how to control her outbursts and fears!. If you plan on staying in this relationship, she'll need constant reassurance that you are not abandoning her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm hoping since she was diagnosed, that means she see's a therapist!? If so, the therapist should be giving her some guidance and tools on how to control her outbursts and fears!. If you plan on staying in this relationship, she'll need constant reassurance that you are not abandoning her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's because she doesn't feel like she should be loved!. She wants to love you so much because she looks at you and feels you deserve to be loved, but she doesn't feel she deserves to be loved the same way!. And I would guess she's getting angry because you keep insisting that she should love herself, and there's definately nothing wrong with that, but she just feels like she doesn't deserve to love herself, like what's there to love, at least in her mind!. That's what I would guess she's feeling!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
sadly, it is pretty normal!. my fiance is diagnosed BPD as well!.!.!.and bipolar!. the best you can do is let her know how much you care about her!. is she getting any treatment for her depression/BPD!? i know a lot of doctors consider BPD an untreatable disorder, but i think that's BS!. she sounds pretty severely depressed!. i would advise her to try and seek treatment from a counselor or therapist!. if she's scared or resistant, you can even offer to go with her!. i know you want to fix it yourself, but this is something too big for you to be able to fix!. just be there for her and support her!. she's lucky to have someone who cares!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't know much about the disorder but try giving her small doses of complements and over time she may learn to love herself!. You teach a baby in bits and pieces a little at a time and I think that should work with just about anything!. Good luck and if you break up with her do it gently or all you good work will be undone and she may be worse than before!.?Www@Answer-Health@Com
She may well have had something in her upbringing which has made her feel unworthy!. Alternatively she might just like the drama of getting you all worked up!. If this continues tell her you want to be her friend and will help whenever you can but you can't be a party to mind games!. Then back off slowly and only get involved if you really can help!.
People like this can wear you down!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
People like this can wear you down!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
your sooo sweet for caring like this:)
but she sounds like she is haveing some problems and i think she needs to talk ot a pro!. about this!.
becaus everyone needs to be loved by themselves no matter what:)
maybe you should tell her all the wonderful thingds about her that you love:)
might help a little
hope i helped:)Www@Answer-Health@Com
but she sounds like she is haveing some problems and i think she needs to talk ot a pro!. about this!.
becaus everyone needs to be loved by themselves no matter what:)
maybe you should tell her all the wonderful thingds about her that you love:)
might help a little
hope i helped:)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't blame her for her actions, people with these kinds of problems can't control it, just give her space, make sure you don't ignore her though, make sure she knows she IS loveable!.
Or I'm gonna make sure she's loveable myself ;)
Good Luck!
~DaveWww@Answer-Health@Com
Or I'm gonna make sure she's loveable myself ;)
Good Luck!
~DaveWww@Answer-Health@Com
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She needs to be going to therapy because these thoughts will ultimately hurt the quality of her life and I'm sure its an effect of the disease!. You should go to her parents and tell them it really concerns you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You may want to distance yourself from her!. She needs help and your to young to have to deal with that stuff!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
make sure that she is seeing someone like a therapist!. just try to stand by her and eventually she will get better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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wow!.!.!.!.you've got your work cut out for you, buddy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi sweetie!.!.!.!.First you are such a great bf to give the advice to your gf about loving herself!.!.!.Honestly, sounds like she doesn't want to right now!.!.!. at 16 there are so many emotions that flow!.!.!.!.as well as the fact she is only 16 and immature!. You both have so much to learn in your coming years!.!.!.Hopefully if she's not on any medications for her BDP she'll get some soon and the issue can be resolved!. I can see that you really care about this young lady!.!.!.!.stick with her cause I happen to think there is a reason for that! Good luck and hopefully as time moves on, she'll better herself!Www@Answer-Health@Com
when someone has any kind of personality disorder, you need to walk on eggshells around them!. i know it is ur girlfriend, and u want to be there for her you need to understand she doesnt always think logically!. she may react dramatically then feel remorseful later!. i know this may be unkind but if you feel like this is too much for you, then you may want to consider your relationship!. but if you are really attached then you need to do sum research!. this isnt that common, and especially since you are so young u may feel overwhelmed at times!.
she thinks she is not a person because she has such low self esteem!. she constantly puts herself down and she convinces herself that she is not worthy of love, or as you said to be a person!. i recommend you continue to tell her that she is a person and that she means so much to you!. you need to make sure she knows how you feel about her, even if she reacts drastically at the time!. good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
she thinks she is not a person because she has such low self esteem!. she constantly puts herself down and she convinces herself that she is not worthy of love, or as you said to be a person!. i recommend you continue to tell her that she is a person and that she means so much to you!. you need to make sure she knows how you feel about her, even if she reacts drastically at the time!. good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
I don't know if it's normal for someone with BPD, but it isn't that unusual for a teen-aged girl!. I know that, when I was your age, most of the girls I knew felt like they weren't normal!. They felt alienated and anxious!.
I don't want to imply all teen-aged girls are like this; only the ones I knew!. I was always trying to make them feel better and telling them how wonderful they were!. This may be why they liked me, but it made me miserable!.
My advice to you is to find friends who are more comfortable in their own skin!. Life should be fun, and you have better things to do than providing positive strokes to people who are chronically miserable!.
She will need to deal with her feelings, but don't make them your problem!.
Seriously!.
I mean it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't want to imply all teen-aged girls are like this; only the ones I knew!. I was always trying to make them feel better and telling them how wonderful they were!. This may be why they liked me, but it made me miserable!.
My advice to you is to find friends who are more comfortable in their own skin!. Life should be fun, and you have better things to do than providing positive strokes to people who are chronically miserable!.
She will need to deal with her feelings, but don't make them your problem!.
Seriously!.
I mean it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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