How do I come to terms with my past?!
Question: How do I come to terms with my past!?
Well when I was younger my childhood best friend had a older brother And he was a lot older than us he was an adult (still living at home) And he use to mentally abuse me everytime I went over there it was awful, he use to call me names and try to make me cry and it sounds so weird I know that someone would do that but I'm not making it up or making it over dramatic, he was the most awful person I have ever met in my life it still haunts me, all the times he would be mean to me it plays over and over in my head like a movie!. Well tonight I saw him at the groshry store and I know it's weird I reconized him I have not seen him in along time, he was infront of me chatting with my dad, luckily he did not reconize us at all!. But ok the thing is seeing him was hard all those emotions came back up and I feel like crying because I just feel so emotional right now!. Do you think I will ever be able to just let this go and forget about it!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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hopefully you just did! my ex wife (we were still together) and i were out at the legion, and i wanted to stop at the store on the way home!. i went to the bathroom and when i got back the missus was gone!. i thought she wanted to get straight home so i had another beer and went to the store!. when i got home, she was there in tears!. apparently she recognized someone in the legion that had done something to her 15 years earlier!. she had a good cry, i comforted her and it never bothered her since!. sometimes we have to confront thepast to get closure!. just remember what a kind beautiful inteligent person YOU are! HE on the other hand was too blind, ignorant and STUPID to see that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yeah, it will pass with time and increasing self-confidence!. As we age and time passes, we almost become "different people"!. Then the stuff that happened long ago almost feels like it happened to a different person!. And that's not completely untrue!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would suggest going to therapy or keeping a diary!. Even if it gets bad, DON'T resort to drugs or violence!. You could even talk to your doctor about anti-deppression meds!.
And yes, you do have an angel!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
And yes, you do have an angel!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
put down all the unhappy past and move on with ur life!.
it's not worth getting upset for this kind of person!.!.
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it's not worth getting upset for this kind of person!.!.
cheer up!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
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The only thing preventing you from letting go of your past is you!. You must allow yourself to forgive the person and forgive what happened (forgiveness doesn't mean what he did was okay but it means your not going to allow what he did to be a factor in you life anymore)!. Verbal abuse can be as bad, if not worse, than physical abuse because you can feel the pain of verbal abuse forever, but only if you allow that to happen!. You may also consider a therapy session or joining a support group!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately!.
When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Alot of people are assholes when they are younger, and the grow up to be good people!. I got bullied like crazy in elementary school, but now i've realized that all those people are not going to be half as sucessful as i will be, or they are totally different now and better people!.the ones who are the nicest seem to go the farthest, even though sometimes it dosnt seem that way!. Tell yourself to forget about this guy, becasue in the whole sheme of things, he really dosnt matter!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Look in the mirror and smile!. Understand that some people do horrible things!. Learn to let it go!. Don't dwell on the negative, it's not good for you!. Talk to your parents about it, maybe they can get you the help you need!. Don't let anyone take your pride, be proud of who you are!. Use him as an example of how you don't want to treat other people, view it as a learning experience and let it make you a stronger person!. Good Luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
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