My partner told me to leave?!
Question: My partner told me to leave!?
he is going through a bad time right now and says he feels really numb inside,feels down all the time,sex life aint g8t ie i think he has depression (his dad left his mum 5 months ago and its hit him hard he says he cant stop thinking about him and if hes ok) i started to talk about how its affecting us and that mabbae he needs help, he says he doesnt no how he feels about anything anymore and he hates everything in his life i was in tears and he said just leave then go u are better off without me he was really really cold and couldnt care less when i was crying he never cried and he drove me home !.we have been going out 2 and a half yrs i spoke to him again and he said he just said it because he loves me and doesnt want to drag me down with him cause i dont need to put up with the **** thats going on just now!.i dont no if i believe this or how i can trust him now what do i do ,do i stay and help him through which i would love to do but if he wont get help:(Www@Answer-Health@Com
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He sent you away because he loves you!. It tears him apart inside, and is highly traumatic for him, indeed so much so he appeared cold which is really a defensive mechanism as it's too painful for him to deal with!.
He definitely needs you, if you feel up to helping!. It would be easy but love conquers all!. If you help him, which won't be easy, then he will be forever amazed at the help you gave in his time of complete darkness!.
You need to slowly convince him he needs to get therapy!. Also if you want to be with him then he will really love that, it is his depression saying that, deep down the real him wouldn't want it to end!. Depression can distort the mind and make it think illogically!.
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I hope you both feel better soon :)
You will need support too by the way! You need to work together, and get all the support you both need to get through this!. It can be done, have hope and remember that love truly can conquer all :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
He definitely needs you, if you feel up to helping!. It would be easy but love conquers all!. If you help him, which won't be easy, then he will be forever amazed at the help you gave in his time of complete darkness!.
You need to slowly convince him he needs to get therapy!. Also if you want to be with him then he will really love that, it is his depression saying that, deep down the real him wouldn't want it to end!. Depression can distort the mind and make it think illogically!.
Email me if you like!.
I hope you both feel better soon :)
You will need support too by the way! You need to work together, and get all the support you both need to get through this!. It can be done, have hope and remember that love truly can conquer all :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
hes really screwed up right now and he needs someone who is going to put him and his needs first right now!. he did care that you were crying, he knew it was his fault, and he felt horrible for making u feel bad like he did and THAT is why he made you go home!. he didnt want to put u through that!. he just needs someone to stick by his side and be strong for him right nowWww@Answer-Health@Com
I would stay away from him for a few days!. Give him the space he needs!. My guess is he'll be calling you and missing you!. Especially when he realizes how lonely he'll be!. Just don't panic or push it with him!. Trust me, he'll be calling you in a few days when he hasn't heard from you!. Do other things to keep you mind off him!. Work more or clean the house, do yard work, etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He is just depressed and hurting inside that is why he doesn't want anyone around him, but, just talk to him when he is in a better frame of mind and tell him that you will stand by him through thick and thin!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
u just have to understand that when something traumatizing happens to someone they don't know what they are doing and who they hurt!. so i say u give him another chance!. or start from the beginning again if he hurt u so much with his coldness!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Help him!. I am a strong believer in sticking by the one you love!. You might want to think about it first though!. Is he really the one for you!? From what you just wrote I'm inclined to say yes, he is!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He needs help!.
If you love him, you can try to find him the help he needs but don't expect instant results (or any at all)Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you love him, you can try to find him the help he needs but don't expect instant results (or any at all)Www@Answer-Health@Com
If it's depression, it will never change!. You'll always be going up!.!.!.!.and!.!.!.!.down!.
Leave!. You're too young to tie yourself to that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Leave!. You're too young to tie yourself to that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He needs Counselling,,also tell him you love him and will do what you can to help,,,Www@Answer-Health@Com
it sounds like he still loves you but their breakup has hit him hard
he sounds really worried about his dads mental health,its understandable he is like he is!.
he probably cant cope with any more hassle at the moment so its easier to say leave
try to give him support and a little space catch up on old friends and take up a hobbie etc anything to stop yourself getting upset and hopefully it will pass
best of luck to you allWww@Answer-Health@Com
he sounds really worried about his dads mental health,its understandable he is like he is!.
he probably cant cope with any more hassle at the moment so its easier to say leave
try to give him support and a little space catch up on old friends and take up a hobbie etc anything to stop yourself getting upset and hopefully it will pass
best of luck to you allWww@Answer-Health@Com
Sorry to hear abot your situation!.
Depression is a horrible and devastating thing, it sounds like he is going through hell right now with his emotions and you also!. The fact that he told you to leave him "cos he doesnt want to hurt you" is probably true!. When you truely love someone the last thing you want is to drag them into your depression!.
He needs alot of suppor emotionally from what I see here and he also needs to speak to a third party i!.e!. councellor for him to speak out his emotions with!.
If he refuses to seek special help then there is a good chance things will get worse!. You dont deserve this and neither does he but you must think of your self first and mostly!. You cannot let yourself be dragged into his depressed world as that is detrimental to your own health and wellbeing!. Only you can choose what step to take but if you confronted him appropriately and give him the ultimatum, he sees help or you will leave then the choice is down to him and only him!. Sadly in his state he may not pick the perfect option of seeking help but that is his choice!.
Don't let yourself become depressed and unhappy in a relationship with no good outlook on the future!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Depression is a horrible and devastating thing, it sounds like he is going through hell right now with his emotions and you also!. The fact that he told you to leave him "cos he doesnt want to hurt you" is probably true!. When you truely love someone the last thing you want is to drag them into your depression!.
He needs alot of suppor emotionally from what I see here and he also needs to speak to a third party i!.e!. councellor for him to speak out his emotions with!.
If he refuses to seek special help then there is a good chance things will get worse!. You dont deserve this and neither does he but you must think of your self first and mostly!. You cannot let yourself be dragged into his depressed world as that is detrimental to your own health and wellbeing!. Only you can choose what step to take but if you confronted him appropriately and give him the ultimatum, he sees help or you will leave then the choice is down to him and only him!. Sadly in his state he may not pick the perfect option of seeking help but that is his choice!.
Don't let yourself become depressed and unhappy in a relationship with no good outlook on the future!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
What age is he!? He sounds like a selfish spoilt brat to me!.He can't stop thinking about his dad!? What about his poor mum!? She is the one who was left!. Also it sounds to me as if his dad is selfish as well!. Has he not been in touch with his son!? Not much of a dad, eh!? No wonder your boyfriend is the way he is if that's the example he's had!. If he is depressed then you can't help him!. He needs to get professional help!. I know this sounds really callous, but I'd leg it if I were you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It depends on how strong your relationship is and how well you know him!. It sounds like he is depressed and when you get that way it is hard to rationalise what is important and what isn't!. Sometimes it is easier to have a go at those closer to you, not because they want to but because they feel they feel you can take it or trust you the most!.
My thoughts are with you and i wish you all the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My thoughts are with you and i wish you all the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
he ask you to leave because he don't want you to be upset in many things (that includes his family problem and your relationship which is affected too)!.!.!.
best thing to do for now, is not to ask him about your relationship "we and our relationship is affected and blah blah blah"!.!.!.
this is the best time to SUPPORT him becaus he is in the stage of depression and has a current problem with his family that causes him being worried and depressed always!.!.!.
this is the best time too, to prove to your BF that you love him by always at his side no matter what happens!.!.!. (but please refrain from asking him about your relationship, that is affected because of his problems and that your sex too is not doing welll; and etc!.!.!.) i remember you ask many questions about your relationship that is affected so much because of his problems!.!.!.!.
however, please don't bother asking him about that, that's why he ask you to leave instead!.!.!.!.you are aware that he has a lot of problems now so don't even mind asking about your sex life or relationship status (this is not the best time)!.!.!.!.but instead be with him and comfort him!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
best thing to do for now, is not to ask him about your relationship "we and our relationship is affected and blah blah blah"!.!.!.
this is the best time to SUPPORT him becaus he is in the stage of depression and has a current problem with his family that causes him being worried and depressed always!.!.!.
this is the best time too, to prove to your BF that you love him by always at his side no matter what happens!.!.!. (but please refrain from asking him about your relationship, that is affected because of his problems and that your sex too is not doing welll; and etc!.!.!.) i remember you ask many questions about your relationship that is affected so much because of his problems!.!.!.!.
however, please don't bother asking him about that, that's why he ask you to leave instead!.!.!.!.you are aware that he has a lot of problems now so don't even mind asking about your sex life or relationship status (this is not the best time)!.!.!.!.but instead be with him and comfort him!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com