My partner has anxiety attacks and i dont understand it??!
Question: My partner has anxiety attacks and i dont understand it!?!?
My partner started having what the dr said was panick attacks and now she says she is suffering from anxiety and is on ADs and doing self help books with a counsellor!.
My partner was unable to take my son to a party without me going with her!. But she has made plans to go out with a friend to pub and club!.
Do you think she is taking the piss!?!? If she cant go to a childrens party on her own then how can she go with a friend to a pub and busy club!?!?
Any thoughts appreciated!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My partner was unable to take my son to a party without me going with her!. But she has made plans to go out with a friend to pub and club!.
Do you think she is taking the piss!?!? If she cant go to a childrens party on her own then how can she go with a friend to a pub and busy club!?!?
Any thoughts appreciated!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
That COULD be the case, however, I have anxiety, I can go to the pub or meet friends and not even think about my anxiety!.
However! If I am at work, or somewhere unfamilliar, I can get these!.
She may be lying!. But I doubt it!. I think its jsut becasue she feels like she wont get the panic attacks at the pub!.
Although word of warning, If she is drinking alcohol!.!. It will make the anxiety worse! Which isnt fair if she gets in late, wakes you up with her panic attacks!.!. I did it to my poor partner but have learnt to stay on the J20's!!
Good luck and try your best to understand!. I have never had something so terrible!. I wish more people could understnad wuite how truly awful this mental illness is!
EDIT: I didnt see your wifes messgae back to you up there but reading that NO, she is not taking the piss at all!. She is just the same as me! I get panic attacks if im alone or around people that im frightened of having a panic attack around!.
If you cant understand it try reading about it!? But then, you still will not know!. It feels like you are going mad, or going to die!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
However! If I am at work, or somewhere unfamilliar, I can get these!.
She may be lying!. But I doubt it!. I think its jsut becasue she feels like she wont get the panic attacks at the pub!.
Although word of warning, If she is drinking alcohol!.!. It will make the anxiety worse! Which isnt fair if she gets in late, wakes you up with her panic attacks!.!. I did it to my poor partner but have learnt to stay on the J20's!!
Good luck and try your best to understand!. I have never had something so terrible!. I wish more people could understnad wuite how truly awful this mental illness is!
EDIT: I didnt see your wifes messgae back to you up there but reading that NO, she is not taking the piss at all!. She is just the same as me! I get panic attacks if im alone or around people that im frightened of having a panic attack around!.
If you cant understand it try reading about it!? But then, you still will not know!. It feels like you are going mad, or going to die!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
She probably is lying, sounds like she just wanted you to go to your son's party with her probably because she would be bored there/doesn't like it!.
However, there is also a more logical idealogy there!. Normally you have panic attacks because your with unfamiliar people, she probably doesn't have panic attacks around familiar people (which is why you asked you to go with her to the party, and why she can go out to clubs/the pub with friends)!.
But yeah I would suggest you look into all this "doing self help books with a counsellor", might be lying you never know!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
However, there is also a more logical idealogy there!. Normally you have panic attacks because your with unfamiliar people, she probably doesn't have panic attacks around familiar people (which is why you asked you to go with her to the party, and why she can go out to clubs/the pub with friends)!.
But yeah I would suggest you look into all this "doing self help books with a counsellor", might be lying you never know!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your wife is not taking the mickey!. What you have to understand is that ahe is very obviously insecure; having another adult with her offers her security and a kind of comfort blanket, being you or her friend!. There are places where I won't go without my partner or friend as I get so anxious!. I can't drive my car somewhere I don't know, it freaks me!. This is the same!. I think you need to get involved with her illness to understand her thought processes!. If you don't support her, someone else will such as her friend!. During that time together, she must be saying that 'my husband doesn't understand, he seems distant/cold/judgemental'!. Anxiety can worsen in to agrophobia - a fear of open spaces!. Moral support is what she needs!. I have depression and anxiety too!.
Addition: you need to talk or your marriage will suffer!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Addition: you need to talk or your marriage will suffer!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
No, she's not taking the piss!. You need to encourage her to go out as much as she can cope with so the panic attacks don't develop into agoraphobia!.
She needs to feel safe, and this will come with support from friends and family, because she is scared of having a panic attack and no one being around to take care of her!.
I know it's hard on you if you don't understand what she is going through!. If you want to stay with her long term, you'll need to be able to listen to her and support her while she goes through this, you don't have to do anything else!. If she has a good counsellor she should improve gradually, as she learns new techniques for coping with her feelings!.
Good luck xWww@Answer-Health@Com
She needs to feel safe, and this will come with support from friends and family, because she is scared of having a panic attack and no one being around to take care of her!.
I know it's hard on you if you don't understand what she is going through!. If you want to stay with her long term, you'll need to be able to listen to her and support her while she goes through this, you don't have to do anything else!. If she has a good counsellor she should improve gradually, as she learns new techniques for coping with her feelings!.
Good luck xWww@Answer-Health@Com
i dont think your partner is taking the micky!.when one get panic attacks they often are worse is socail situations if you are alone!.i doubt that she would of gone to pub/club on her own!.swat up on the subject ie panic/aniexty on line!.she needs your support at this time to get well!.also talk more with her!.good lad!.good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
What the above poster said "you need to talk or your marriage will suffer!."
Not via YA though!. Actually sit down together and talk to each other in person!. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship as nobody can read somebody else's mind!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Not via YA though!. Actually sit down together and talk to each other in person!. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship as nobody can read somebody else's mind!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
her cheast probably feels presured and she probably feels very scared!.!.!. keep her company and positive and she will have fewer attacks!.!.!. alcohol and pot do not help at all, ask me they make it worseWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'd be suspicious too!.!.!. but I guess there's a chance that she feels comfortable around her friends but not with a group of people she doesn't know very well!. Suggest having another friend go with her to the party!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am 100% not taking the piss, i panicked about the party as i thought you were coming and when you said that morning you were not, i started to worry and panick!.
The reason i wanted you to come was i was worried about panick attacks, as you know i have had them at the school, at the hairdressers, cinema, out for a meal, at home the list goes on and on!.
I feel when i have someone with me familiar that i can trust and that knows about it then if anything does happen to me i can leave that situation, the difference in me going on my own is that i would feel rotten taking our son away from a party because of my anxiety/panick!.
I have in months and months and months only been out with you and 2 friends on the same night out, at first i found it hard until i had more drink in me then relaxed more!. I am wanting to socialise more and try to get things back to normal but i know if i do go out next week that the friends i am with know about it all and if i say i have to get away from the situation then they are fine with that!.
I went on ADs which for me you know was very hard with the depression and the bad side effects i had years ago!. Thats why i tried hpnotherapy and other things before going down this road!.!.!.!.!.it was the last resort for me!.
Also i dont do counselling!.!.!.!.but have for the first time ever!.!.!.!.!.!.thats how scary panick attacks are to me!.
Things have gradually got better although i know things aint anyway back to normal and i can only apologise and work harder on the exercises, self help books to do so!. You are more than welcome to come to my next counselling session!.
I am sorry for everything i have put you through with it all and am not sure how else i can help you understand what i am going through!. I do know before going through it i would have found it hard to understand!.
Love you loads!. xxx
Wanted to add i have tried to talk to my OH about this on numerous occassions but he does not understand it!. He did discuss with me about putting it on here, we do have a healthy relationship that way!. I thought maybe answering back on here might have helped!. Thanks to everyone for there answers!. Helps to see it from both sides!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The reason i wanted you to come was i was worried about panick attacks, as you know i have had them at the school, at the hairdressers, cinema, out for a meal, at home the list goes on and on!.
I feel when i have someone with me familiar that i can trust and that knows about it then if anything does happen to me i can leave that situation, the difference in me going on my own is that i would feel rotten taking our son away from a party because of my anxiety/panick!.
I have in months and months and months only been out with you and 2 friends on the same night out, at first i found it hard until i had more drink in me then relaxed more!. I am wanting to socialise more and try to get things back to normal but i know if i do go out next week that the friends i am with know about it all and if i say i have to get away from the situation then they are fine with that!.
I went on ADs which for me you know was very hard with the depression and the bad side effects i had years ago!. Thats why i tried hpnotherapy and other things before going down this road!.!.!.!.!.it was the last resort for me!.
Also i dont do counselling!.!.!.!.but have for the first time ever!.!.!.!.!.!.thats how scary panick attacks are to me!.
Things have gradually got better although i know things aint anyway back to normal and i can only apologise and work harder on the exercises, self help books to do so!. You are more than welcome to come to my next counselling session!.
I am sorry for everything i have put you through with it all and am not sure how else i can help you understand what i am going through!. I do know before going through it i would have found it hard to understand!.
Love you loads!. xxx
Wanted to add i have tried to talk to my OH about this on numerous occassions but he does not understand it!. He did discuss with me about putting it on here, we do have a healthy relationship that way!. I thought maybe answering back on here might have helped!. Thanks to everyone for there answers!. Helps to see it from both sides!.Www@Answer-Health@Com