Please help: corrected version What can I do for her?!
Question: Please help: corrected version What can I do for her!?
I'm a protestant priest!. My family (wife & 2 children) and I are leaving my church next week!. A 21-year-old female that I haven't seen in 3 months, stopped by my office and gave me a gift and said good-bye!. The last time I saw her she was in my office crying!. She told me about problems she was having with the church, including me!. Those problems included she thinks the church is disrespectful to poor people and others!. Also, she told me I talk to some families and not some!. I told her I've never noticed this but would pay more attention!. We've only communicated once since then via email!.
I have talked to this young lady's uncle @ the church, and he told me she has been in the psyc ward on four separate occassions!. I know she has never known her father and her older brother can be trouble at times!. She sufferers from severe depression & anxiety!. She's very quiet and withdrawn!. She never looks me in the eye!. I think she might be attaching herself to me!. What do you think!? I am concernedWww@Answer-Health@Com
I have talked to this young lady's uncle @ the church, and he told me she has been in the psyc ward on four separate occassions!. I know she has never known her father and her older brother can be trouble at times!. She sufferers from severe depression & anxiety!. She's very quiet and withdrawn!. She never looks me in the eye!. I think she might be attaching herself to me!. What do you think!? I am concernedWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
People with serious mental health problems often get a great deal of support from religious community leaders!. She has obviously felt this with you, and I think she will expect it from whoever takes over your post!.
I wouldn't be too concerned that she is attaching herself to you personally - I think the fact that she has said goodbye shows she has accepted your departure!. She will probably look to your successor for the same pastoral support!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I wouldn't be too concerned that she is attaching herself to you personally - I think the fact that she has said goodbye shows she has accepted your departure!. She will probably look to your successor for the same pastoral support!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Before you leave try to make sure she is seeing a therapist on a regular basis!. Her depression might be clouding her perception of the church and other situations!. Maybe you could talk to her uncle about keeping a close watch on her!.
Maybe her uncle can follow through with getting her therapy and possibly taking medication!. Good Luck with your move from your church!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe her uncle can follow through with getting her therapy and possibly taking medication!. Good Luck with your move from your church!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
fast and ask god for guidance , then go to your superiors and voice your concerns sometimes because you are the one that listens she may see the relationship another way(that you're her boyfriend ) and maybe not!. jWww@Answer-Health@Com
She needs a shrink not a priest!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think the present was a good sign!. I think she was saying bye in her own way!. If she didnt want you to go she would have pleeded!.
She may be just saying thanks for listening and putting up with her!. If you are really concerned, you might like to suggest she keeps going to church and/or joins a group where she can meet other people and talk to them!.
You can't be responsible for her, you don't truely know her!. You may be a father figure perhaps but i think she just wants to thank you for listening and being someone she could vent to!.
You cannot do anything more!. I beg you not to get involved even though it is a difficult and saddening case!. whether you become emotionally involved now or in three months anything could happen to her and you might feel guilty so give her your best wishes and maybe suggest some places she could go for support and leave it at that!.
Good Luck for the future!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
She may be just saying thanks for listening and putting up with her!. If you are really concerned, you might like to suggest she keeps going to church and/or joins a group where she can meet other people and talk to them!.
You can't be responsible for her, you don't truely know her!. You may be a father figure perhaps but i think she just wants to thank you for listening and being someone she could vent to!.
You cannot do anything more!. I beg you not to get involved even though it is a difficult and saddening case!. whether you become emotionally involved now or in three months anything could happen to her and you might feel guilty so give her your best wishes and maybe suggest some places she could go for support and leave it at that!.
Good Luck for the future!.Www@Answer-Health@Com