MY FRIENDS IS THINKING OF COMMITING SUICIDE AND I CANT GET THROUGH TO HER!! help!


Question: MY FRIENDS IS THINKING OF COMMITING SUICIDE AND I CANT GET THROUGH TO HER!! help me please!!!!?
My friends thinks shes worthless and that she will never get anywhere in life and i drew a blank, how do i respond to her telling me that!? what should i say!? what should i do!? i cant tell an adult cause i know she will kill herself cause she thinks she cant trust anyone!. Please I DONT WANT TO LOSE A FRIEND!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Make it clear to her that you and others love her very much, and that suicide is not the good way out!. If she is religious, tell her that God is only testing her faith in Him, as He did with people like Job (rhymes with lobe, not cob)!.

But even if she isn't religious, make SURE you tell her you care about her a lot, and so many people would miss her if she died!. Remind her that many of the world's most influential people struggled with depression--American Presidents Lincoln and Grant, Beethoven, Einstein, and Isaac Newton, to name a few--and they certainly got somewhere in life!. Give her plenty of hugs and smiles, and point out all her accomplishments--athletic, academic, artistic, etc!. Do NOT mention any sort of weaknesses or flaws!.

I hope I've helped!. I'll pray for your friend!. ^_^ Also, would you think it wise to introduce her to friends you know, but she doesn't!? Ask your friends, offline AND online, if they like the same things she does!. Introduce her to some of us here if you have to!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Tell her she would really devastate you if she did anything to hurt herself!.!.!.!.that you don't think she's worthless and suicide is the ONLY decision in life you can't change!.
If she has never tried to herself in the past!.!.!.tell an adult you trust & that you think she might trust!.!.!.!.your mother, her aunt, a teacher, her mother (if they have a good relationship), an older brother or sister, etc!.

She may be angry at you initially, but part of her wants to talk to someone!.!.!.or have someone talk to her!. Tell her you want to help her get to talk to a professional counselor who can really help her & make her realize she's not worthless!.

Don't allow her to blackmail you into not telling anyone!. !.!.that's not fair to you!.

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YOU are not responsible for her life!.!.!.just say what comes into your mind!.

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Just listen to her!. Go to her house and sit with her and make sure she doesn't do anything!. Talk on the phone the whole way to her house so she doesn't feel alone for one second!. I know how much that one second of feeling alone can do!. It really makes you feel worse!. Talk with her until she feels better!. As a friend this is your job stay up as late as she needs you!. Spend the night with her even if she doesn't want you to!. SHE NEEDS TO KNOW SHE ISN'T alone! Just let her went!. Sit with her and have her call the suicide hotline(1800suicide) Let her know how much you care!. Don't say things like I will miss you too much or I will be sad with out you!. Saying things like Will meaning after she kills herself WILL NOT HELP! They only make her feel more confident about the choice!. Let her know things in present tense!. Make her hot chocolate!. and Just hold her!. But whatever you do do not give up on her! And also you must tell someone unless you want to lose a friend!. Tell you parents or call 911 or tell her parents when you are at her house!. Good luck and help her fight his! If you need more advice on what to do email me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

id tell a counselor, a teacher, or her parents, cuz i would rather have my friend alive and mad at me than dead!.
because if i had a friend who was going to kill herself, (i imagine she told you to SWEAR not to tell anyone, right!?) and i didnt tell anyone, and she actually did, i would never forgive myself, cuz i would've been able to prevent it, you know what i mean!?

so definantly tell her mom, or dad, whoever can do something, or you might regret it, and i dont want that for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I can say is that we all have to die one of these days!. Let me tell you about my understanding of life!. We're all hear to learn the lessons about life - both good and bad!. When good things happen, we welcome it, but when bad things happen ,we can't take it - but it's all part of learning!. Both situations help us evolve into better human beings!. We only become better people by suffering!. Well I also know that no matter how much pain you go through, if you commit suicide -you're likely to go through the same things in your next life, because you haven't completed your courses!. So it's better that you get it over with in this life time!. Trying telling her this and see what she says!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I know you do not want to tell anyone!., but u must!. Either way she is going to potentially do something!.
Let me tell you, last year I thought of killing myself and my husband put me in the hospital!. I was in a mental hospital for a few days!. Was put on medication, and then went through an in and out hospital therapy program!. In that therapy I met a woman who had a friend that had killed herself at the facility where I was!. It was hard for me to deal with the fact that I was seeing what I would of done to the people that love me, through this person's death!. Believe me you do not want this!. So please tell someone!. Or even take her to the ER and tell them what she told you!. They will admit her!.
Just assure her that she is something, and you think the world of her!. I know that it is tough for you to see her like this, but you have to know there is hope and people to help you friend!. She is screaming for you to help her on the inside!. Even if she told you not to say anything!. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to, that has been on the otherside feel free to email me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You need to tell an adult, if she kills herself that will be on your conscience forever!. This is too much for you to handle all by yourself!. You are not a trained therapist!. You are not a doctor!. You need PROFESSIONAL HELP for your friend!.

Tell her mom!. If that doesn't work, call 911!. Seriously!. She really may try to kill herself if you don't tell an adult!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i feel your pain one of my friends is planing to as well I've been trying to help him and he doesn't want to listen!.!.!.but now he's turning it on me!.!.he said it's my fault, i hurt him,and stuff like that!. tell her what i told mine!.!.!."people care about you so much what's going to happen to those people who care about you" hopefully that will work tell her parents too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If you think she is serious about killing herself, you should call 911 immediately - it's better to have her mad at you (if she wasn't going to do it) than to have her do it and lose a friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

well let her know that she got love in her life an if shes feeling down then she should use that love!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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