Substance Abuse?!
Question: Substance Abuse!?
I think someone very close to me has a problem with substance abuse!.
It's not just liquor!.!.!. I have caught this person popping pills (Kind!? I don't know!.!.!. But it was not a prescription bottle in their name) and running errands more than usual!.
How do you bring something like that up!? I do not want to push her away!.!.!.!.not to mention the mood swings she is having (bad!.!.!. really)!.!.!.!.!. I need help!.!.!.!. How do I mention how I feel w/o offending her or just pushing her away!?
At what point have I over stepped my boundaries!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's not just liquor!.!.!. I have caught this person popping pills (Kind!? I don't know!.!.!. But it was not a prescription bottle in their name) and running errands more than usual!.
How do you bring something like that up!? I do not want to push her away!.!.!.!.not to mention the mood swings she is having (bad!.!.!. really)!.!.!.!.!. I need help!.!.!.!. How do I mention how I feel w/o offending her or just pushing her away!?
At what point have I over stepped my boundaries!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Bless your heart for being a caring, dear friend!!!
Ya know, I was in your friend's shoes once!. When life was getting too tough for me to handle, and I was afraid that God had also abandoned me, I developed a taste for self-pity, which turned into a self-built prison of pure resentment and hell!.
I can tell you from experience, it is important you let her know how you feel!. It doesn't mean she will change, but she needs to know if her behavior is affecting your friendship!.
Then, basically, it is up to you whether you both remain friends!. My own sister just quit calling me, for months at a time!. I just wished she had been honest and upfront with me!. And that is why I am telling you to be honest with her!. You may accept her just exactly the way she is, but let her know you are there, if she needs help!. And that you will help her find help, if she agrees she has a problem!. You may accept her condition, and go on ignoring her erratic behavior, but with time, her condition will only become worse!. I only pray by then, that if you two haven't talked about it!.!.!. that you don't part as enemies!.
May the Lord God bless you BOTH!!!!!!
check out online:
FOR HER:
http://www!.alcoholics-anonymous!.org
FOR YOU:
http://www!.al-anon!.alateen!.org/Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ya know, I was in your friend's shoes once!. When life was getting too tough for me to handle, and I was afraid that God had also abandoned me, I developed a taste for self-pity, which turned into a self-built prison of pure resentment and hell!.
I can tell you from experience, it is important you let her know how you feel!. It doesn't mean she will change, but she needs to know if her behavior is affecting your friendship!.
Then, basically, it is up to you whether you both remain friends!. My own sister just quit calling me, for months at a time!. I just wished she had been honest and upfront with me!. And that is why I am telling you to be honest with her!. You may accept her just exactly the way she is, but let her know you are there, if she needs help!. And that you will help her find help, if she agrees she has a problem!. You may accept her condition, and go on ignoring her erratic behavior, but with time, her condition will only become worse!. I only pray by then, that if you two haven't talked about it!.!.!. that you don't part as enemies!.
May the Lord God bless you BOTH!!!!!!
check out online:
FOR HER:
http://www!.alcoholics-anonymous!.org
FOR YOU:
http://www!.al-anon!.alateen!.org/Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you are not legally connected to her either through blood or marriage; It is not really any of your business!. That said; If you contact her family; they do have a say in her psychological behavior!.
If her behavior is to the point where she is a danger to herself or others then perhaps and intervention can be performed!.
Contact Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous depending on which is the more prevalent behavior of the person; and once informed just do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If her behavior is to the point where she is a danger to herself or others then perhaps and intervention can be performed!.
Contact Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous depending on which is the more prevalent behavior of the person; and once informed just do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
glad you care about her
ask her straight out what kind of pills she is taking (in a nice way) like hey what's that you were taking!?
have a chat with her and see if there is any reason why she is taking them, and if you really think she's becoming addicted - get her some literature on NA or AA
been there!.!.!.!.
and many people recover from drug addiction - been clean 8 years now!.!.!.!.!.(to the person above me who doesn't know what they are talking about)Www@Answer-Health@Com
ask her straight out what kind of pills she is taking (in a nice way) like hey what's that you were taking!?
have a chat with her and see if there is any reason why she is taking them, and if you really think she's becoming addicted - get her some literature on NA or AA
been there!.!.!.!.
and many people recover from drug addiction - been clean 8 years now!.!.!.!.!.(to the person above me who doesn't know what they are talking about)Www@Answer-Health@Com
don't worry about over stepping your bounderies if your friend has a problem then everyone has a problem!. confront them about it emediantly and if they don't give the right answers then turn them in!. i know that sounds kinda harsh but its better then them getting messed up and hurting some one besides themselves by accedent!. and thats not fair to anyone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My opinion you will push them away no matter what a drug addict is not going to quit because someone is cocerned they dont care it will only make her mad and want to do more drugs she has to get to a point in her life when it matters to HER and not anyone else!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Confronting an addict will elicit nasty reactions in many cases, but it is the only way to address an addict!.
Pill popping, Doctor shopping is more prevalent than people realize!.
if you care ask her as a question about health!.!.
Say "I see you taking medication" Ask her point blank, "what are you taking!? "
Second question "What is that for!? "
If you find her defensive about it, she is acting more then just mild substance abuse, that is addictive behavior!.
I know of "pain types" who are got addicted to opiates such as oxycontin as the result of an injury!. The fact is these substances are highly addictive!.
Boundaries are artificial borders we set to define self!. I don't believe by asking simple questions you are showing anything but concern for a friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Pill popping, Doctor shopping is more prevalent than people realize!.
if you care ask her as a question about health!.!.
Say "I see you taking medication" Ask her point blank, "what are you taking!? "
Second question "What is that for!? "
If you find her defensive about it, she is acting more then just mild substance abuse, that is addictive behavior!.
I know of "pain types" who are got addicted to opiates such as oxycontin as the result of an injury!. The fact is these substances are highly addictive!.
Boundaries are artificial borders we set to define self!. I don't believe by asking simple questions you are showing anything but concern for a friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Addiction sucks!.!.!. majorly!.!.!. My advice is just like the person before me!. You need to let her know she doesn't need to be ashamed, and that her issues aren't beyond help!.
Let her know that you've noticed changes in her and that you want her to be healthy and happy!.
If she gets mad, so be it!. You can't help it if your concern upsets her, but hopefully after you explain why you are concerned she will realize all you want to do is help!.
Many people with addictions don't make it, and god forbid something bad happens you will never forgive yourself for not letting her know you care and are willing to help!.
RIP Frankie
RIP HowardWww@Answer-Health@Com
Let her know that you've noticed changes in her and that you want her to be healthy and happy!.
If she gets mad, so be it!. You can't help it if your concern upsets her, but hopefully after you explain why you are concerned she will realize all you want to do is help!.
Many people with addictions don't make it, and god forbid something bad happens you will never forgive yourself for not letting her know you care and are willing to help!.
RIP Frankie
RIP HowardWww@Answer-Health@Com