I dont want to live.im in need of major help.?!
Question: I dont want to live!.im in need of major help!.!?
im very suicial!. The only thing stopping me is that i dont want my family to suffer!. Ive been depressed for about 6yrs, im 14!. I also suffer from anxiety and insomnea!. I was taking wellbutrin for about a month but it made me more suicial!. So i stoped taking it!. Background: when i was a child my dad left me!. And basically said he doesnt give a crap about me!. I have never talked to him face to face!. When he was my age his dad died!. Because of that my dad became alittle pcyopathic!. His mother (my grandal) become a drug addicted prostitute!. She doesnt know i eveb exist, shes homeless and ive seen her on the strert before!. There is more to it but thats the gist!. This is always in the back of my head!. Thats what depresses me the most!. Its gotten so bad im used to wanting to wake up dead!. I just wanna throw in the towel!. I cant battle depression!. To make it worse i have e
xtremly bad insomnea and anxiety but my doc wont give me any meds cus he thinks im out to abuse!.
Please help me plzWww@Answer-Health@Com
xtremly bad insomnea and anxiety but my doc wont give me any meds cus he thinks im out to abuse!.
Please help me plzWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
honey, its gonna be okay!. I've been there too!. Its hard but trust me everything will turn out okay!. My best advice(what helped me the most) is find someone you can talk to, it can be a best friend a bf or you can email me if you like!. you just need to talk to someone about what you are thinking and why you are doing these things to yourself!. no one's life or body is worth risking or endangering over anything!. so find that person you can talk to and write in a journal or sketch, whatever calms you down!. and whenever things get really bad at home call that friend we talked about!. second, I had real big problems (attemped suicide multiple times) and was sent to the hospital!. there they helped me develop a safety plan, it is what I do when i feel like i want to hurt myself, it is just calming yourself down and usually involves being around people that care about you!. mine is
ipod (soothing music)
call dan(my bf)
call rob(my bff)
go for a walk!.!.!. e mail me if you have any more questions, and in the mean time remember, there are people out there who care about you, i don't now you but icare about you, and none of us want to see you get hurt!. The important thing to remember is that you CAN fight it, if i can do it, you can do it!. fighting depression can happen several ways other than meds, you can train your mind to want to live, you can find something or someone that you WANT to live for!. trust me I know you can feel bad, and sometimes life sucks, it can be stressful and full of evil but remember it WILL get better if you let it!. and there is no miracle drug anyway, the only way to beat it is to want to beat it, which you obiviously do or you wouldn't have asked for help!.
take from someone who has been there, I attempted suicide six times, and thought about it constantly for years, but you know what I decided one day that I would get better and though I still have a ways to go I getting there and looking forward to that day!.
live!.laugh!.have fun!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ipod (soothing music)
call dan(my bf)
call rob(my bff)
go for a walk!.!.!. e mail me if you have any more questions, and in the mean time remember, there are people out there who care about you, i don't now you but icare about you, and none of us want to see you get hurt!. The important thing to remember is that you CAN fight it, if i can do it, you can do it!. fighting depression can happen several ways other than meds, you can train your mind to want to live, you can find something or someone that you WANT to live for!. trust me I know you can feel bad, and sometimes life sucks, it can be stressful and full of evil but remember it WILL get better if you let it!. and there is no miracle drug anyway, the only way to beat it is to want to beat it, which you obiviously do or you wouldn't have asked for help!.
take from someone who has been there, I attempted suicide six times, and thought about it constantly for years, but you know what I decided one day that I would get better and though I still have a ways to go I getting there and looking forward to that day!.
live!.laugh!.have fun!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First off, forgive your father! You have worth beyond being his child and it is his loss if he doesn't want to be in your life! You should open up to someone you trust and talk!! You are only 14!! You don't know what life is about yet!! Give yourself a chance to find life, love, and friendship! I am older than you and I can tell you that with the right perspective; life gets way better! Be Strong!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sweetie, I'm so sorry you feel that way!. I know just how you feel!. I was just how you are when I was your age!. It gets better with time!. Just hang in there!. You are worth way more than you feel now!. You are so important too so many people that you just aren't even aware of!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
get even become the product of your eniormennt embrace what you intuwtively learned for 14 yeares!. call the police o anyone doing wrongWww@Answer-Health@Com
Please talk to your mother and tell her how suicidal you feel!. You really need to talk to your doctor and see if there are other medications that you can try in addition to getting a therapist!. It took several different trials for me to get the right medications and the right dosages!. If you are in danger of hurting yourself tonight, go to the closest emergency room to get immediate help!.
Please consider an inpatient facility if that is an option!. There you could be properly assessed for medication and get your insomnia and depression under control!.
Hang in there and try to remember that with professional help, you can get healthier and happier,
TexWww@Answer-Health@Com
Please consider an inpatient facility if that is an option!. There you could be properly assessed for medication and get your insomnia and depression under control!.
Hang in there and try to remember that with professional help, you can get healthier and happier,
TexWww@Answer-Health@Com
You are very special-do not think about your famililies feelings!. Your feelings come first!.If you will pray to God with all your heart and ask him for help, I guarantee you he will help you and care for you!.He loves you and does not want you to suffer!.FIND a church and start going-also be around happy people because sad people only bring you down!.Believe me-I have had some pretty bad times too but you will get through them-it's just a part of life!. Focus on the good things in your life even if they are few!. You need to be selfish and only think of yourself while you are gong thru this!.The last thing in the world that GOD wants you to do is suicide-you are only hurting yourself!. Try praying and talking to God-he will get you thru this and remember-YOU ARE SPECIAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
INSOMNIA: Put your mind in a position where it wants to shut itself off, and sleep!. See insomnia treatments, in much more detail than can be included here, in section 3, at ezy build, below!. Use one of the relaxation methods, in bed, after lights out, on pages 2, 11, 2!.c, or 2!.i, but they can take some time to learn, (progressive muscular relaxation excepted) so learn and become proficient in their use during the day; an alternative is to use the EFT, in section 53, and pages 2!.q, and 2!.o, saying to yourself: "Even though I currently have a sleep disorder, I deeply and completely accept myself!." (or choose your own wording) while you use the acupressure tapping!. Some more; quick, and easy to learn, are at http://www!.umm!.edu/sleep/relax_tech!.htm I have not yet evaluated them, but they seem to be worthwhile trying, and I like to provide options!.
Find out which works best for you, in the daylight hours, so you will be prepared, come bedtime!. For many people, a good idea is to develop a set "wind down" routine for the last hour before bedtime, so your subconscious mind learns that it is time to put thinking aside, and prepare for mindfulness, (awareness, without cogitation/purposeful thought) or the EFT, in preparation for sleep, but the idea with mindfulness is to not even think about sleeping: just drift off, naturally, during exercising those techniques!. I suggest that you try using the EMDR variant, below, prior to the mindfulness, or the progressive muscular relaxation, but after the EFT, if that method is chosen!. Experiment, to find which combination works best!.
(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case!.)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this with your eyes closed!. Experience has taught me that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!. I have a cup of chamomile herbal tea, an hour before bedtime, and use the above techniques!. Others may prefer Sleepytime, by Celestial Seasonings, or valerian root, from supermarket tea, or health food aisles!.
I KNOW, from experience, how difficult it is, but once you drag yourself out of bed, throw on a dressing gown, and have a little time in the morning light, preferably doing easy stretching exercises, have a shower, a cuppa, and scrambled eggs and possibly bacon!.
These provide a lasting energy boost: no carbohydrates for 2 hrs, or extremely little; a teaspoon of sugar is OK, but Xylitol is preferable, [health food stores] or fruit sugar [fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles] or even a LITTLE honey!. Splash cold water on your face, to revive you, as needed!. No daytime sleeping; only 8 - 9 hrs at night!.
A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows!. All except for no!. (7!.) are safe to use with medication, but not St!. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor!.
(1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression!.
(2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!.
(3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!.
(4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!.
(5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!.
(6!.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule, as per page R, in section 2, at ezy build!.
(7!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety!. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www!.real-depression-help!.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets!.
An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause!. Also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops)!.
This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be seen on page R, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, it's really best to view the whole of section 2, and anxiety is addressed in section 6: view page N first!. The wort works for both disorders, and suicidal thoughts: view section 5, and use the hotlines, when needed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Find out which works best for you, in the daylight hours, so you will be prepared, come bedtime!. For many people, a good idea is to develop a set "wind down" routine for the last hour before bedtime, so your subconscious mind learns that it is time to put thinking aside, and prepare for mindfulness, (awareness, without cogitation/purposeful thought) or the EFT, in preparation for sleep, but the idea with mindfulness is to not even think about sleeping: just drift off, naturally, during exercising those techniques!. I suggest that you try using the EMDR variant, below, prior to the mindfulness, or the progressive muscular relaxation, but after the EFT, if that method is chosen!. Experiment, to find which combination works best!.
(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case!.)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this with your eyes closed!. Experience has taught me that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!. I have a cup of chamomile herbal tea, an hour before bedtime, and use the above techniques!. Others may prefer Sleepytime, by Celestial Seasonings, or valerian root, from supermarket tea, or health food aisles!.
I KNOW, from experience, how difficult it is, but once you drag yourself out of bed, throw on a dressing gown, and have a little time in the morning light, preferably doing easy stretching exercises, have a shower, a cuppa, and scrambled eggs and possibly bacon!.
These provide a lasting energy boost: no carbohydrates for 2 hrs, or extremely little; a teaspoon of sugar is OK, but Xylitol is preferable, [health food stores] or fruit sugar [fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles] or even a LITTLE honey!. Splash cold water on your face, to revive you, as needed!. No daytime sleeping; only 8 - 9 hrs at night!.
A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows!. All except for no!. (7!.) are safe to use with medication, but not St!. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor!.
(1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression!.
(2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!.
(3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!.
(4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!.
(5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!.
(6!.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule, as per page R, in section 2, at ezy build!.
(7!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety!. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www!.real-depression-help!.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets!.
An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause!. Also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops)!.
This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be seen on page R, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, it's really best to view the whole of section 2, and anxiety is addressed in section 6: view page N first!. The wort works for both disorders, and suicidal thoughts: view section 5, and use the hotlines, when needed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com