In relation to my last question, does seeing a therapist actually help?!


Question: In relation to my last question, does seeing a therapist actually help!?
So is seeing a therapist or psychologist actually helpful and beneficial!? I'm pretty sure my friend has:

1!. Adult separation anxiety disorder (due to a difficult childhood which has carried on until now)
2!. Depression (we just got separated & he is very sad)
3!. Excessive insecurities in relationships (that he will get left or cheated on- It has happened to him but not excessively!.) and life in general (hates things not going his way, being alone, etc)!.

These things affect his day to day life and ability to deal with others (his/my parents, me, friends, etc) and his emotions when he is upset!.

Is this due to his difficult life growing up!.!.!. and how will a therapist or psychologist be able to help him!? Also, are there medications to help any of these problems!? Has anyone else dealt with anything similar and how did your situation turn out!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Therapist can be very helpful if he is willing to be helped!. However, if he is not interested in getting help, or doesnt think that there is anything wrong with him then it would be very difficult for them to help him!. Basically if he is willing to open up a little to them (which can be hard for some people because they are complete strangers, but for others can actually be easier than opening up to someone they are close to) then a therapist could try to help him resolve his issues that are most likely causing these problems!. Also some people are more likely to listen to a therapist opinion on their behaviors because they are a non bias third party!. His issues could very well be caused by a rough child hood, however a therapist would help him figure out how to deal with and move on, instead of using it as a crutch!. Best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It will help him and they can test him to see if he has a chemical imbalance that is causing these problems!. Either way, he really needs to see someone about these issues!. It's really decent of you to be concerned about your friend after you've broken up, but know that it is not your fault that he is going through this and you are a good person for trying to help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

for the relationship thing it will work because it becomes the closest thing to divine intervention, and by going, it is a subliminal "we both care about this relationship" type thing, which is good!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes it will help! Sometimes just facing a problem destroys its power over us!.Having someone who wont judge us listen helps too!. Having someone help us realize the real root cause of our problems and Helping us realize things done TO us are not our fault all help free us to be what we are meant to be!.THEY DO HELP!Www@Answer-Health@Com

it really does , for there you can find real proffesional who knows the stuffWww@Answer-Health@Com

it could help if your therapist isn't an arrogant ahole!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I think you need to address your own guilt for cheating on him and then dumping him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I didn't have a picturesque childhood either!. a counselor will help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Drugs can help with depression and anxiety if necessary, but his real problem sounds like it is related to attachment!. Generally, attachment disorder (or lighter shades of it) are due to lack of bonding between parent and child!. That has hold over consequences in adulthood!. Therapy is the treatment for that!. There are no drugs to fix it!. The relationship with the therapist is all about genuine connection in a way he missed out on!. Of course, this assumes that he has the right therapist and that he is commited to the therapy!. You can make the suggestion, but it is his choice!. I'd just add to be careful how you make the suggestion since you now are the ex!. It may be well intentioned, but it could end up turning him off depending on where he's at regarding the split!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Therapists usually ask you to tell them something of your past, rather like hypnotists, except of course that you would not be going under!.

I really wouldn't advise any medication without professional help!. It's best to see a therapist or a psychologist first!. You have listed things that your friend may be suffering from, and you may be right, but a good therapist will sort them out!.

I was in a 10-year relationship, and learned that the person with whom I was with was not who I thought he was, so I saw a counsellor as I was very traumatised!. I went to my GP first, however, who offered me anti-depressants, which I refused!. The counsellor was very helpful and made me see things in a different llight!. For example, she told me to make a list of all that is good in my life, and of all the people that are both inspirational and kind!. I did this and, as she suggested, all the negativity I was dealing with gradually faded!.

A word of advice, and please don't take this the wrong way!. You say that it affects his ability to deal with others, you included!. Try asking him how he is feeling when he's around you, because he may feel that you are not being understanding enough, yet doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying so!. You need to find out, though, because you may help him if you change your attitude, if you and he jointly decide that a change of attitude is necessary I wish you both all the luck in the world, and I hope your friend comes through it soon!.

I didn't see your previous question, but having read in someone else's answer that you cheated on him, his inability to deal with you is hardly surprising!. You won't like this, but have you thought that it could even be the root cause of his problems!? You're clearly sorry about what you did, because you seem very concerned, but is that out of friendship or out of guilt, I wonder!.!.!.!.!.!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes they do help!. And help millions of people everyday!. They have helped me through several bad situations!.

A Psychiatrist can take you back to your childhood and help you work out issues you were not mature enough to understand when you were younger!.

What they cannot do is help the rest of the family, unless they realize they have a problem and will go for help!. Which usually does not happen!.

You can only change your way of thinking and acting or reacting!. If things in you family are so bad you feel you cannot deal with them, you may have to remove yourself from the family!. The most important and only thing you can do is take care of yourself and keep up your self esteem and not let the others drag you down!.

Psychiatrist are like any other doctor!. They are not a cure all!. They cannot just give you a pill and make everything ok!. It take work on their part and yours!. But you can get better I hope you get the help you are looking for!. God Bless!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes; certainly in the short term!.

Closely examine the http://1-800-therapist!.com/ website, and use the locators, in section 1, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and phone book!. Personally, I'd opt for a psychologist who believes in only recommending minimal necessary medication, if at all, because they don't issue prescriptions, so are considerably less likely to be involved with the rewards, and inducements offered by sales reps from "big pharma": the large drug companies, to psychiatrists (there are links to, or articles on how psychiatry has become corrupted by money from drug companies, and "how doctors are being manipulated", in section 1: worth reading!

It's important to not only feel comfortable with your therapist, but also to know about their qualifications, and the type of therapy used (read section 1)!. Some people are in therapy for many years, and pay a small fortune in fees, so recognise that therapists may have a vested interest in keeping their patients coming back!. It pays the rent, and permits them to feel that they are fulfilling a useful function in life!.

For this reason, I believe that, unless there is a need for a specific type of therapy, such as Dialectical Behavio(u)ral Therapy, for Borderline Personality Disorder, or EMDR therapy, for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, it is a good idea to start out with a psychologist who uses Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, which often can accomplish all it is capable of, in 6 months, and to fix that time limit in the first session!. In that way, the therapist knows that there is only a limited window of opportuntiy to do what they can, and there is no unconscious motivation to attempt to draw things out!.
If, at the end of that time, you believe you could benefit from a little more therapy, then you can extend it, but I'd advise the therapist a few weeks before the final session, in case they are considering taking on a new patient, leaving you "high, and dry" committed, and without options, except to find someone else!. Learn to assess, and rate your therapist, after a while: sometimes it's better to move on, and find someone who you feel can help you more, but not if you've just reached an unpleasant part of the therapy, which part of you would rather avoid!.

Depression: a previous post:
I KNOW, from experience, how difficult it is, but once you drag yourself out of bed, throw on a dressing gown, and have a little time in the morning light, preferably doing easy stretching exercises, have a shower, a cuppa, and scrambled eggs and possibly bacon!.

These provide a lasting energy boost: no carbohydrates for 2 hrs, or extremely little; a teaspoon of sugar is OK, but Xylitol is preferable, [health food stores] or fruit sugar [fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles] or even a LITTLE honey!. Splash cold water on your face, to revive you, as needed!. No daytime sleeping; only 8 - 9 hrs at night!. Antidepressants work quicker than the following; 2 - 6 weeks, but you may have to adjust dosage, or types, whereas St!. John's wort is effective for most people, and doesn't develop tolerance and the few side effects are rare, and usually not severe!.

It doesn't cause sleeping problems, or weight change, but takes 4 - 6 weeks to become effective!. A recent, independent German double blind study showed it to be as effective as Sertraline (marketed in the USA as Zoloft: a commonly prescribed antidepressant) in cases of major depression, with far fewer side effects, and those were generally better tolerated, with a lower rate of discontinuation!. Unlike antidepressants, where sexual dysfunction is a common side effect, it happens much more rarely with St!. John's wort (I have noticed no effect in this area)!.

A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows!. All except for no!. (7!.) are safe to use with medication, but not St!. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor!.

(1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression!.

(2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!.

(3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!.

(4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!.

(5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!.

(6!.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule, as per page R, in section 2, at ezy build!.

(7!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.

Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety!. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www!.real-depression-help!.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets!.

An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause!. Also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops)!.

This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be seen on page R, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, it's really best to view the whole of section 2!.

There are medications: see section 6, on anxiety, at ezy build; page N first!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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