Friend with borderline personality disorder?!

I have BPD so i understand how he feels but he is taking complete advatage of you!. I think you need to sit him down and explain that if he keeps using you like this you can not continue being friends with him!. He must have other support he can call, not just you!. So you not being friends with him would not cause him to hurt himself!.!.!. it should just be a kick in the butt about how selfish he is!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Borderline personality disorder is a very serious mental illness!. There is very little you can do to help him other than taking care of yourself!.

Chances are he thinks the one who is sane, and everyone else is crazy!. I did that for over 40 years!. Chances are, too, that he has no idea how his behavior is affecting those around you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Talk to someone who can help him, and take care of yourself!. it might be best if he's out of your life for a bit, it mus be stressful for you and that isn't good in your situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Wow, that's a really hard situation you've got!. You should try not to hang out with him much for your own good, just because his low attitude could make you feel down, too!. BUt at the same time, you probably don't want to leave him hanging!. So basically you have to explain to him that you can't always come to his side when he needs help, but you also don't want him to hurt himself more when you say that!. I would say to talk to him nicely about ending it, but i'm sure that's hard for you to do!. Therefore, maybe you could schedule a few times a week where you guys hang out!. You could say that you want to make time for him without other plans interfering, so you're scheduling visits!. That way if you can't come to his side one day, he can look forward to your next visit!. You could also invite him to group stuff, and maybe he'd even meet other friends!. Inform some of them about his situation, unless they already know, and tell them to be really nice!. You guys could try to help raise his self esteem!. I'm so sorry, but that's all i've really got!. Good luck with everything!Www@Answer-Health@Com

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If the friendship is really important to you, and you want to preserve it, you might try first setting boundaries!. For example, you might say, "I will call you/or see you once a week (or whatever interval you want), but I will not come if you threaten to hurt yourself or display jealousy over me!. That is emotional blackmail, and I will not put up with it!." Always keep in mind that if he does do something, it's not your fault, it's his disorder!. Also, make sure he knows that your not coming is not a permanent thing!. Tell him, when he is over his immediate mood swing into self-harm, jealousy, or whatever it might be, you will still be friends, and you will start returning to see/call him!. It sounds like (in my opinion) he's using the only means he knows how to get attention from someone he cares about!. He probably doesn't even realize he's manipulating you, he's just trying to get something he feels he needs!. There is a really good therapy (Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)) for people with borderline!. It teaches them how to state their needs calmly and without using manipulation!. People will tell you "stay away from borderlines", but they're not bad people- they are DAMAGED people who don't have good coping mechanisms!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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One thing I beg you not to do and that is cause him fear of Abandonment!.
You do however need to set boundaries with him, try this with his participation as it is more likely to work!.
Explain to him that the responsibility for his welfare is his alone, that you will also be there to support him, but do not have the experience to help him through such tough times!.
People with borderline do not normally have the intention to act on suicide it is a cry for emotional help!.
You must not take on any guilt for not being able to be there for him at the times that he may need you!. However, when a person with borderline feels this way, it may be easier for you to imagine a child of 2 or 4 feeling scared, because that is how it can feel!.
I am recovering from BPDWww@Answer-Health@Com

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those who have borderline personality disorder have a hard time dealing with relationships,like they will at first want you to be by their side all of the time and as the relationship gets further along they might decide to end it!.Sometimes if they feel you are not there when they expect you to be they will threaten harming to manipulate you,as it gets your attention!.Some bounderies should be set with him,you need to find a suppotive person to sit down and talk with him about how his behavoir is affecting you,you need to let him know how it is making you feel!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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I had a gf with borderline!. I can say how difficult it can be to get rid of him!. Really, that kind of person is not the type you want to hang out with!. He will only drag you down!. If he slits his wrists, that

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