I don't want to be judgemental anymore?!


Question: I don't want to be judgemental anymore!?
I don't really want to be but I find myself very judgemental towards other people!. Very critical I guess of lots of stuff!. I'm happy and not depressed!. So I guess I should just think before talking!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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I still fight that kind of thinking!.!.!. so here is what I have learned!.!.!.

Being judgemental either means you think yourself above everyone else or it is a defense mechanism for low self esteem!. Either option suggests maybe you need to spend more time thinking about yourself and how you can be improved!. Not what is wrong with other people!. Constantly judging can be a nasty habit and very unhealthy - to always be looking at what is wrong with someone else is not a good way to live!.

Whether you FEEL judgemental or not you should definately try to keep your mouth shut!. Unsolicited advice or criticism is a very fast way to hurt people and lose friends!. But the bottomline is, who are you to judge!? Who am I to judge!? We don't know anyone's whole story so we can't judge!.

That is much easier said than done, of course!. I am also very judgemental!.!. I work hard to shut my mouth and keep my thoughts from showing on my face!. In 99% of situations it isn't my place to speak or judge, and it probably isn't yours either!.

I actually have a friend with whom I got into a habit of sitting around saying nasty and sometimes nice things about anyone around us - friends, family, strangers!. It was entertainment, and it was horrible of us!. It takes a long time to break the habit!. What really made me stop was seeing that we did it because it did make us feel better - better dressed, smarter, prettier, whatever!. But in reality, we were really nasty people aroud each other and slowly we just became nasty in general!. LOL!. that sound funny, but it isn't!.

So while working on keeping your thoughts to yourself, you might consider why you think that way!. Why do you care!? Why is it negative!? Do you feel empowered when you judge someone!? Do you feel better doing it!? Is it a habit or who you are!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

I just met the coolest chick, and I would love to hang out with her, I think!. But she came across today as very judgmental of other people, and I don't feel like being subjected to her looking down her nose and criticizing me in the future, so I may not go out with her anymore!.

People need to realize that they are just as irritating to others as others are to them!. It takes a level of maturity to get to that point!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I too am very judgmental, very hateful towards others!. You should always think before you speak!.!.!. definitely!. You can be happy with your life and still not like yourself or the way you act!. You really could benefit from talking to someone!. You don't have to be depressed or mentally ill to talk to someone!. Perhaps you could learn why you are judgmental and why you do some of the things you do!. If this sounds like something you aren't interested in, then just work on thinking through your thoughts before talking!. Either way, good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Everyone is judgemental whether they believe it or not, often we associate stereotypes, but may shrug them off due to the prejudice side!. Theres nothing wrong with being critical in a judgemental way as long as you have evidence to support and do not go out intentionally to hurt peopleWww@Answer-Health@Com

Yea you should dear!
Cause I'm like that also but it's not as bad as it use to be!.
I use to judge people by what they wear or how they look!.
it i didnt like it or if it wasnt the same as me then i didnt talk to them!. i've changed over the years cause i realized that that wouldn't get me anywhere!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Hi!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.write this down and put it in your wallet and read it once a day:"I do not allow myself to think that way" Usually we guys who like to judge are a little insecure our selves, that's why we know so much about what "we" think is the way to be!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.that makes us feel good!.!.!.!.but who's real problem is it!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.I've done the same thing too many times!.!.!.!.You really can work at it!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.buy using that simple sentence!. Good luck!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.one day at a time!.!.!.!.!.!.niteWww@Answer-Health@Com

or re-examine why you are being so critical of everyone else, generally when we criticize people for their shortcomings it is to boost our ego and self esteem!. remember it is so easy to be cruel, but it takes a noble person to put kindness first!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

im also pretty judgemental to, but you gotta learn to hold it back!. if it doesnt hurt anyone to not mention something, then dont say it!. its just a learning process!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you have to think, you're not perfect either!. and most people don't appreciate listening to other people criticize on people's every flaw or their clothes, hair, etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Just realize that the Great image you have of yourself isn't there, and realize EVEN if it was there, NO ONE CARES, they care about themselvesWww@Answer-Health@Com

YOU NEED TO LEARN AND READ ABOUT THE BIBLE MORE!. THOSE WHO JUDGE WILL BE JUDGED FIRST!.
START GOING TO CHURCH AND PREY MORE!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Each to their own!. Everyone is different!. There are others who probably judge you harshly as well!. Let it go!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

yup thats what u gotta doWww@Answer-Health@Com





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