Did I just make a fool of myself?!
Question: Did I just make a fool of myself!?
I'm a young, adult female in college!. One of the head priest at my church resigned due to administrative problems!. Well, I've had a crush on him for the last six years!. Sometimes, I want him to be my father (I didn't have one)!. I haven't been to church in three months b/c I'm trying to figure out my life & do some soul searching!. Three months ago I made an appointment with the priest and told him about some of the probs I was experiencing with the church & one with him!. I cried most of the visit and left!. We emailed back and forth once a month & a half ago!. A few days ago I emailed him to I to ask if he needed help packing up his office!. (I did this b/c I can't afford a gift:( )So he told me when he was going to start!. I went today!. Helped him pack up a lot of books!. (It was over a dozen boxes)!. Well, he ran out of boxes!. He then says he's tired and done for the day!. I asked him does he need any more help he said "no, it's just personal stuff on the walls I have to get and that corner!."While we were packing up stuff!. He gave me two things (which I wasn't expecting)!. He gave my an portable email thing but I have to pay a monthly fee to use it!. He said it wasn't the state of the art and was 7-8 yrs!. old!. He also gave me a rug from somewhere (I forgot; I think it was Africa!.) Well, he said thank you and I was such a good soul!. He asked was I doing better; I said yes!. I almost left but came back and asked him what he was going to do now!. He told me a vacation, do stuff for his kids in aug, and consultation work in Minn!. I told him that sound good & exciting!. I know he stayed around b/c his car was there after I left the library and passed the church!. It was lunch time and I think he had a lunch date!. II cried by myself b/c I'll never see him again and he doesn't care!. He's a married episcopal priest with kids!. I don't want a relationship more like a friendship or a least know he's not gone FOREVER=(Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
He is a mentor & friend to you!. Nothing more!. You need to talk to someone (professional) to find out why you are so clung on to him!. You said yourself you have to do some soul searching!. That is your job not his!. Don't overstep your boundaries!. He has a wife and kids!. And he is a man of God!. Think of them and not just yourself!. Don't give up on the church though, I'm sure you'll find someone available who is nice once you sort some of your issues out!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
wow! i am a single guy with no girlfriend or anything!.
my best advice to you is go out and meet more guys, go on dates at least once a week, don't worry about this priest dude!.
think about this, you have the power to change, think about where you are now, and where you want to be, and start getting there!.
if you want to be with the priest, you have to realistliy look at all the steps, if it's not do able, then you have to give up and move on to my first advice to you, get more dates, glWww@Answer-Health@Com
my best advice to you is go out and meet more guys, go on dates at least once a week, don't worry about this priest dude!.
think about this, you have the power to change, think about where you are now, and where you want to be, and start getting there!.
if you want to be with the priest, you have to realistliy look at all the steps, if it's not do able, then you have to give up and move on to my first advice to you, get more dates, glWww@Answer-Health@Com