I'm really obsessed with this woman and I need to stop thinking about her!?!
Question: I'm really obsessed with this woman and I need to stop thinking about her!!?
I had this teacher who helped me out alot!. I've got depression and bulimia!. I really trusted this teacher and once she left my school we became close friends!. My parents and psychologist weren't very happy about this because they thought she was making me vulnerable!. I feel really attatched and drawn to my ex-teacher!. I'm not allowed to see or speak to her anymore!. But I still spend most of my day thinking about her and I dream about her most nights!. I don't feel sexually attracted to her in anyway, just to let you's know!. Oh and I'm 17!. I just want to accept that she can't be a part of my life anymore so how do I stop thinking about her!?
It cuts me up to think that other people are getting to see her but I can't!. I know this is wayy messed up but I've even thought about killing her so people can't have her since I can't!. I wouldn't actually kill her but thought it's important to mention that the thought has crossed my mind!.
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It cuts me up to think that other people are getting to see her but I can't!. I know this is wayy messed up but I've even thought about killing her so people can't have her since I can't!. I wouldn't actually kill her but thought it's important to mention that the thought has crossed my mind!.
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this is odd but everything you said is like nearly exactly what happened with me and my teacher as i trusted in her about my depression and bulimia- strange but true,like you i thought all the same things, it was actually her who ended the relationship but i felt so extremely hurt and i used to think about her all the time and the killing thing even though i would never do it either!.
I have recently found out part of my behaviour in relationships like that, where i get really attached to people and can't cope when they aren't there is because of borderline personality disorder!. i am not trying to diagnose you but it sounds like you may have the same problems!.
I can't give you any way that will make you stop thinking about her, its abit like grieving, its takes a while!. It took me a good few months to even come to terms with loosing my teacher and then i got attached to a counsellor and those sessions where short term so they ended and really really upset me too!.
i am glad you have your parents and a psychologist, do you see them often!? perhaps having a counsellor may help too!.
You will move on from her but it will take time, i know how heartbreaking it is though and it's good to talk about this pain with someone, preferably outside the family circle and who can professionally help you!.
best of luck to you!
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I have recently found out part of my behaviour in relationships like that, where i get really attached to people and can't cope when they aren't there is because of borderline personality disorder!. i am not trying to diagnose you but it sounds like you may have the same problems!.
I can't give you any way that will make you stop thinking about her, its abit like grieving, its takes a while!. It took me a good few months to even come to terms with loosing my teacher and then i got attached to a counsellor and those sessions where short term so they ended and really really upset me too!.
i am glad you have your parents and a psychologist, do you see them often!? perhaps having a counsellor may help too!.
You will move on from her but it will take time, i know how heartbreaking it is though and it's good to talk about this pain with someone, preferably outside the family circle and who can professionally help you!.
best of luck to you!
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well, it doesn't sound like it was a healthy relationship if you were so into her!. know what i mean!?
you'll be 18 soon - maybe that will change your ability to be her friend!.
regardless, it just doesn't sound very healthy!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you'll be 18 soon - maybe that will change your ability to be her friend!.
regardless, it just doesn't sound very healthy!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I first read your question, I was like Oh MY God! Now that I got passed the shock factor, why in the world would you even think about killing someone that you care about!? From your description of her, she only cared about you and was never selfish toward you, so why would you ever consider doing such a selfish thing to her!? What you're describing is a very unhealthy obsession you have with your teacher and until you get over your over dependency that you have with her, it is a good thing for you not to see her until you get your emotions under control!. Over dependency can sometimes actually, push a person away from you!. I think your psychologist and your family wants you to work on being self empowered which is a very good thing!. I understand when you finally find a person who you truly trust and the person fully supports you, but what you should really work on is love and acceptance of yourself!. The best love and friend you can ever have is God and you!. Be good to yourself and take care of yourself!. I will pray for you and I hope once you get a hold of your emotions, that you will be able to have a healthy relationship not only with the people you meet, but mainly, yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hiya Coyle,
Trying not to think about you ex-teacher may make things worse because your mind is telling you that you need to sort this problem out!.
It appears that you are very emotionally attached and for whatever reason you cannot communicate with her!. Sometimes the only thing we can do is accept the situation for what it is!. It may be difficult for you but life does go on!. Meanwhile I suggest you read self help books on jealousy and violence and letting go!.
I hope you find the solution, by asking this question it shows that you want to get over it and move on with your life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Trying not to think about you ex-teacher may make things worse because your mind is telling you that you need to sort this problem out!.
It appears that you are very emotionally attached and for whatever reason you cannot communicate with her!. Sometimes the only thing we can do is accept the situation for what it is!. It may be difficult for you but life does go on!. Meanwhile I suggest you read self help books on jealousy and violence and letting go!.
I hope you find the solution, by asking this question it shows that you want to get over it and move on with your life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com