Trouble moving on from my mom's death?!
Question: Trouble moving on from my mom's death!?
My mom died almost 2 years ago!. I'm now 16 and sometimes feel like I still haven't moved on, and I'm letting her death keep me from progressing in life!. Here are some reasons why I think this:
1!. I still have her cell and work numbers saved in my phone!.
2!. When nobody is home, sometimes I call out "Mom!?!?" like I used to, just to see if she would answer like she always did!.
3!. I only sleep on one side of my bed, because she used to sleep next to me when my dad and her had fights!.
4!. I only buy cinnamon gum, even though I hate it!. Just because it was her favorite!.
5!. I watch home videos almost every week of when I was a kid, just to hear her voice!.
These are just some of the many little things I still do!. Is this normal, even after almost 2 years!? Or should I get help!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. I still have her cell and work numbers saved in my phone!.
2!. When nobody is home, sometimes I call out "Mom!?!?" like I used to, just to see if she would answer like she always did!.
3!. I only sleep on one side of my bed, because she used to sleep next to me when my dad and her had fights!.
4!. I only buy cinnamon gum, even though I hate it!. Just because it was her favorite!.
5!. I watch home videos almost every week of when I was a kid, just to hear her voice!.
These are just some of the many little things I still do!. Is this normal, even after almost 2 years!? Or should I get help!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Dear Anne,
You are holding on to someone who took care of you and that you loved very much!. I think these things are very sweet!. You must be very lonely for her!.It might be a good idea to talk to someone over your grief!. Hey we all need somebody to talk to!. I know you may not believe this but someday you will remember these things with fondness not sadness!. They are your memories to hold on to forever!. But do find someone to talk to!. You mentioed your Mom sleeping with you when she had fights with your Dad!. You might have anger towards him!. You probably need a more neutral person to talk to!. I will always think of your story when I have cinnamon gum!. I think that your keeping these tiny memories is a salute to your Mom!. Don't give them up!. She must hav been a very special person!. I will always remember my Dad as the king of plaid flannel shirts and sitting in his chair watching the 6:oo news!. Nothing extrodinary, but just my Dad!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are holding on to someone who took care of you and that you loved very much!. I think these things are very sweet!. You must be very lonely for her!.It might be a good idea to talk to someone over your grief!. Hey we all need somebody to talk to!. I know you may not believe this but someday you will remember these things with fondness not sadness!. They are your memories to hold on to forever!. But do find someone to talk to!. You mentioed your Mom sleeping with you when she had fights with your Dad!. You might have anger towards him!. You probably need a more neutral person to talk to!. I will always think of your story when I have cinnamon gum!. I think that your keeping these tiny memories is a salute to your Mom!. Don't give them up!. She must hav been a very special person!. I will always remember my Dad as the king of plaid flannel shirts and sitting in his chair watching the 6:oo news!. Nothing extrodinary, but just my Dad!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
None of what you posted is unusual, especially given your age!. There is an old saying of, "Time heals all wounds" and although you will never forget, you will move on with far less difficulty!. It takes awhile, but life turns on a dime!. You will get older, your life will change and it will be good again!. There will be times that you wish that she were there to see your kids and eventually your grandkids!. But overall, it will get better!. It just requires time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My mom passed away 2 years back 2 I'm now 15!. I wouldn't say u need help cuz I'm the same I just can't let it go so I do lil things 2 keep her memory alive!. I find it normal cuz I really don't wanna 4get her and I'm sure u don't either since r moms r a very big part of r lives!. At 1st I blamed my dad but doing these things helps me keep my emotions in check!. I'm very sorry 4 ur loss hope I helped =]Www@Answer-Health@Com
im so sorry
but u have to understand shes gone and u cant let this hold u back all ur life
i get how u feel, its hard accepting the fact that some 1 you once love so much is now dead
right now all ur doing is lying to ur self, its not going to help u feel any now or in the future,
u have to accept this fact of life she is dead,shes not going to answers u when u call
have one last cry and get it out of ur system once and for all
& if that doesnt do much see a docWww@Answer-Health@Com
but u have to understand shes gone and u cant let this hold u back all ur life
i get how u feel, its hard accepting the fact that some 1 you once love so much is now dead
right now all ur doing is lying to ur self, its not going to help u feel any now or in the future,
u have to accept this fact of life she is dead,shes not going to answers u when u call
have one last cry and get it out of ur system once and for all
& if that doesnt do much see a docWww@Answer-Health@Com
gosh, you made me cry while reading all this!. I think thats co cute you do all those because i have three girls 12, 11, 8!. nothing is wrong of what you do your just keeping her memory alive!. She probably watches over you and smiles when she sees you doing all that!. You were young when she passed so i don't know if you talked about her alot with family and relatives that helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
my dad is dead 6 years, i still have his number on my cell
I suggest you talk to someone, but some grieve harder than many, you sound like one of these people
Just know there are still watching you!.!.and as long as we keep them in OUR hearts they will never dieWww@Answer-Health@Com
I suggest you talk to someone, but some grieve harder than many, you sound like one of these people
Just know there are still watching you!.!.and as long as we keep them in OUR hearts they will never dieWww@Answer-Health@Com
im so sorry to hear that its affecting you thins much so far down the road!. this is not uncommon per say, but ,maybe you do need help!. if i were you i would look into counsiling, or just talk to friends about it if u can!. i hope you feel better and im sorry for you loss!.
xoxox =]Www@Answer-Health@Com
xoxox =]Www@Answer-Health@Com
honey!.!.you'll never move on,!.!.!.it was your mom, but the wound will heal over time!.!.!.!.but there will alawys be a scar!.!.!.just remeber shes in a WAY better place and you'll meet agin!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Honey, you know no one can really move on from their parents death!. Take it one day at a time!. You are young and its a life learning process!. Its normal to have those things to remember your mom!. It's also normal not to move on for a while!. You need to have alot of support among yourself!. If there is none, you should see a therapist!.
Memories are sacred and its yours to keep!. Dont live it to dwell but live it because it happened and that will help you move on!. Nothing really make sense right now!. But you need to be strong to stay away from depression!. Just think, your mom wouldn't be happy if she knew you were like this!.
I hope that you will grow up to be a beautiful person and not take life so serious but have fun and make memories while you can!. Its hard, but take it slowly!. No one is telling you to move on and forget about her!. Move on as a person and a daughter that she wanted you to be!. She is your mom!. No one can take that away!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Memories are sacred and its yours to keep!. Dont live it to dwell but live it because it happened and that will help you move on!. Nothing really make sense right now!. But you need to be strong to stay away from depression!. Just think, your mom wouldn't be happy if she knew you were like this!.
I hope that you will grow up to be a beautiful person and not take life so serious but have fun and make memories while you can!. Its hard, but take it slowly!. No one is telling you to move on and forget about her!. Move on as a person and a daughter that she wanted you to be!. She is your mom!. No one can take that away!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
dont worry i do the same my dad died a year ago and when no ones home i call out for him just cause im hoping its a bad dream i want to end!.i still remember his work numer and adress by heart!. i sit there and look at pics of him!. i never am able to go to his grave!.i remember the feeling of his face and the exact color of his eyes i remeber everything
it take a while like 5 years for a child to feel better or cope with a death
i still cry at night thinking about him
there are so many things i want to tell him and show him
maybe counciling can help im in it now and its working for me
i blamed myself for a long time for my dads death but it wasnt my fault
so im here no help i no what your going throughWww@Answer-Health@Com
it take a while like 5 years for a child to feel better or cope with a death
i still cry at night thinking about him
there are so many things i want to tell him and show him
maybe counciling can help im in it now and its working for me
i blamed myself for a long time for my dads death but it wasnt my fault
so im here no help i no what your going throughWww@Answer-Health@Com
I lost my Mom too!. A little over a year ago!. And I don't like it one bit! She was sick most of my life and I felt an odd relief she wasn't in pain anymore!. I thought I would be semi ok!. Well, I wasn't!. For about a year!. I was reeeeally down!. I am not sure why I feel a lot better now!.!.!.time I guess!.
Nothing you have said seems weird or outrageous!. It still hurts I know!. I do some of the things you explained!. I was told by a grief therapist it was not abnormal!. We all grieve differently!. You buy gum, I have her pillow!. I saved her messages on my machine and listen to them, you watch home videos!. It is hard sweetie pie!. And you are a teenager! All those changes going on, whew!
If you are taking care of yourself and responsibilities reasonably well at this time, you are healing!.
If you honestly feel you are not progressing with your life, yes, go see a grief therapist, it can only help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Nothing you have said seems weird or outrageous!. It still hurts I know!. I do some of the things you explained!. I was told by a grief therapist it was not abnormal!. We all grieve differently!. You buy gum, I have her pillow!. I saved her messages on my machine and listen to them, you watch home videos!. It is hard sweetie pie!. And you are a teenager! All those changes going on, whew!
If you are taking care of yourself and responsibilities reasonably well at this time, you are healing!.
If you honestly feel you are not progressing with your life, yes, go see a grief therapist, it can only help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com