What would you say on the phone to a suicidal person who'd called you?!
Question: What would you say on the phone to a suicidal person who'd called you!?
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I would assess means (lethality, availability) and intent (likelihood they will follow through)!. I would attempt to persuade them to commit to meeting with me face to face at a specific point in time (sooner rather than later)!. I would attempt to determine their physical location!. If the person had lethal means and strong intent, I would summon help (e!.g!., dial 911, alert a nearby parent or close friend /someone who could arrive quickly to assure their safety)!.
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I am sorry you are feeling so terrible!. I am here for you and I am listening!. I don't want you to harm yourself, I care about you!. Then while listening to them, I would gently suggest that they need some help and can I help get them to help!.
OR if i know where they are, and have the ability to call 911 without hanging up on the person (another person there etc) I would call 911 to go to them while i talked to them to assure them!.
The longer you can keep them talking the less the imminent risk of suicide!. Suicide is often a impulsive act so delaying the impulse can help!.
IF someone repeatedly calls you suicidal, then tell them that you want them to live and will be obliged to call 911!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
OR if i know where they are, and have the ability to call 911 without hanging up on the person (another person there etc) I would call 911 to go to them while i talked to them to assure them!.
The longer you can keep them talking the less the imminent risk of suicide!. Suicide is often a impulsive act so delaying the impulse can help!.
IF someone repeatedly calls you suicidal, then tell them that you want them to live and will be obliged to call 911!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This actually happened to me!.
An ex-boyfriend called me up and he was suicidal (had a gun, planned to execute himself in an open field nearby)!. We had a good relationship (he ended it due to his emotional problems), but I always loved him a lot!.
And we talked for 2 hours and what I said was NOT "this is selfish!." Ummmm, no!.
What I actually said was that he had done a lot of things in his life and I went over a couple of his accomplishments!. He felt he had nothing to show for his life!. He was in his 40s!. And it was kind of true that he didn't have much to show, but he was such an amazing person and he had done so many different things-- that I just really emphasized that--- that he HAD done a lot!. And it was just an incredible journey!. Maybe the destination wasn't what he ideally wanted it to be, but the journey was something I believed in!.
Then I told him that he was great and I was really lucky to know him!.!. and lots of encouraging stuff like that!.
He called me the next day to thank me!. I totally would have dated him again, but he didn't want to see me!. I don't know what his future holds, but that phone call was very special to me because he turned to me during a dark hour and I could be that person to support him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
An ex-boyfriend called me up and he was suicidal (had a gun, planned to execute himself in an open field nearby)!. We had a good relationship (he ended it due to his emotional problems), but I always loved him a lot!.
And we talked for 2 hours and what I said was NOT "this is selfish!." Ummmm, no!.
What I actually said was that he had done a lot of things in his life and I went over a couple of his accomplishments!. He felt he had nothing to show for his life!. He was in his 40s!. And it was kind of true that he didn't have much to show, but he was such an amazing person and he had done so many different things-- that I just really emphasized that--- that he HAD done a lot!. And it was just an incredible journey!. Maybe the destination wasn't what he ideally wanted it to be, but the journey was something I believed in!.
Then I told him that he was great and I was really lucky to know him!.!. and lots of encouraging stuff like that!.
He called me the next day to thank me!. I totally would have dated him again, but he didn't want to see me!. I don't know what his future holds, but that phone call was very special to me because he turned to me during a dark hour and I could be that person to support him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've actually been in that situation!. I didn't really say much except ask open ended questions and just listened!. Sometimes just knowing someone cares enough to let you scream and cry to them is enough to help them get through!. Don't offer platitudes like don't worry things will be OK, or try to talk them out of what they want to do!. They have to come to their own realization or they'll be in worse shape!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Nothing because I usually don't answer my phone a computer does!.!.and then records the message!.
Plus I've never had that happen!.!.so theoretically speaking I'd ask them what's wrong!.!.then I may tell them to try calling 211 and then if that didn't work 911 perhaps!.!.
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Plus I've never had that happen!.!.so theoretically speaking I'd ask them what's wrong!.!.then I may tell them to try calling 211 and then if that didn't work 911 perhaps!.!.
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