I'm honestly a loser?!
Question: I'm honestly a loser!?
Here I sit on my computer contemplating my life and typing questions out of loneliness!. I have no plans for the 4th of July and have wasted my life to this point (I'm almost 20)!. I was recently diagnosed with psoriasis and it's spreading!. I understand the social isolation (and romantic isolation) that people with significant psoriasis coverage suffer and I'm not looking forward to it!. It might very well be the straw that broke the camel's back!.
From a psychological and biological perspective, I'm screwed!. It's not as though I have this awesome personality and happen to have psoriasis!. I have a crappy personality, lack social skills, don't know how to dress, don't know what to say, am selfish, was handed everything and have never had a job, and the list goes on!.
I don't know what to do!. I honestly can't force myself to go to therapy right now, and psychiatric drugs have negatively impacted my life!. I'm approaching hopelessness!. What can I do!? Thanks!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
From a psychological and biological perspective, I'm screwed!. It's not as though I have this awesome personality and happen to have psoriasis!. I have a crappy personality, lack social skills, don't know how to dress, don't know what to say, am selfish, was handed everything and have never had a job, and the list goes on!.
I don't know what to do!. I honestly can't force myself to go to therapy right now, and psychiatric drugs have negatively impacted my life!. I'm approaching hopelessness!. What can I do!? Thanks!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
hey man, i have the fantastic psoriasis flakes too!. ^_^ when i first realized i had it, i thought my life was over and i was going to kill myself because it was so ugly, itchy, painful etc!. but you learn to live with it and it becomes background music!. i have a great boyfriend of 3 years, he's sweet enough to help apply ointments on my back (gross to the general public but the sweetest gesture to me)!. there's no real isolation there unless that 's the way you see it!.
Little kids will be like "you have poison oak!?" or "what happened to your arm!?" and honestly so might others, but all they really need to hear from you is "it's a skin condition and it's not contagious"
Sometimes i'm a jerk and say "DON'T TOUCH IT!! It's a flesh eating bacteria! oh god you'd better get to the hospital!"
keep in mind that when you're in a bad mood, you mentally link this experience with every other bad mood you've had!.!. or to put it simply bad thoughts begat bad thoughts!. soon you think your life just SUCKS!. cliche, but try to look on the bright side!. If you can't do that on your own research darfur or progeria!.
employment is one option for you!.!.!.!.getting a job would suck because you'd have no free time, but it might make you feel more productive!. especially if you save up money and buy something you've always wanted but no one ever handed you!. besides, if this is what you do in your free time maybe a job would do you some good!. co-workers make it easy to nab some social skill experience because they're stuck with you no matter what!.
another thing you can do that helped me out a lot: GET A HOBBY!. something that you can sort of track!. like bowl and watch your score go up!. play guitar and track how many chords you can learn!. learn to knit, draw, paint, do henna, sing!. these are all things that you start out really bad, then the more you do it you can see progress!. Progress is good, get some of that!.
one final note about psoriasis, me and you have a skin re-generation rate of about 25 times that of those around us!. I look at this as an awesome mutant healing factor like wolverine!. Wolverine on crack!.
Cecilia!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Little kids will be like "you have poison oak!?" or "what happened to your arm!?" and honestly so might others, but all they really need to hear from you is "it's a skin condition and it's not contagious"
Sometimes i'm a jerk and say "DON'T TOUCH IT!! It's a flesh eating bacteria! oh god you'd better get to the hospital!"
keep in mind that when you're in a bad mood, you mentally link this experience with every other bad mood you've had!.!. or to put it simply bad thoughts begat bad thoughts!. soon you think your life just SUCKS!. cliche, but try to look on the bright side!. If you can't do that on your own research darfur or progeria!.
employment is one option for you!.!.!.!.getting a job would suck because you'd have no free time, but it might make you feel more productive!. especially if you save up money and buy something you've always wanted but no one ever handed you!. besides, if this is what you do in your free time maybe a job would do you some good!. co-workers make it easy to nab some social skill experience because they're stuck with you no matter what!.
another thing you can do that helped me out a lot: GET A HOBBY!. something that you can sort of track!. like bowl and watch your score go up!. play guitar and track how many chords you can learn!. learn to knit, draw, paint, do henna, sing!. these are all things that you start out really bad, then the more you do it you can see progress!. Progress is good, get some of that!.
one final note about psoriasis, me and you have a skin re-generation rate of about 25 times that of those around us!. I look at this as an awesome mutant healing factor like wolverine!. Wolverine on crack!.
Cecilia!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There's medicine for psoriasis, you know!. Why don't you go on a search for resources that can help you!. Take a class, go to the library!. Find about hopelessness, which is called "anhedonia"!. Write letters to different agencies or you could call NAMI!. Or joint a support group!. Take good care of yourself!. Hanging out and dwelling on it will only make it worse!. You could find ways to improve the things you don't like about yourself!. You could take a social skills class, or join a health club and become buff and studly! Don't have a pity party!. I had a friend whose husband used to say what a loser he was and punish himself over his perceived flaws!. She always used to tell him "I'm a loser baby, so why don't you kill me" like that Beck song!. God never made junk so get up and start living!. You can do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I agree with one of the answerers that said you are halfway there simply by admitting and realizing your unhappiness! This is very difficult, so congrats!
I also think that most likely you are being too hard on yourself!
Psoriasis hates the sun, so go expose it!.
http://www!.psoriasis!.org/treatment/psori!.!.!.
And you are definitely not screwed!!! Just get up and go!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I also think that most likely you are being too hard on yourself!
Psoriasis hates the sun, so go expose it!.
http://www!.psoriasis!.org/treatment/psori!.!.!.
And you are definitely not screwed!!! Just get up and go!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You may be a loser, but at least your funny!. I thought your question was beautifully written!.
Two things a guy needs before having a really cool relationship with a girl!. (1) a life purpose!. Why do you exist!? (2) a group of male friends who he can trust and depend upon!. Work on that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Two things a guy needs before having a really cool relationship with a girl!. (1) a life purpose!. Why do you exist!? (2) a group of male friends who he can trust and depend upon!. Work on that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you believe it !.!.!. and you won't get help!.!.!.maybe you are a loser !.!.!. to give up at 20 !.!. I guess I'll just have to agree with you !.
You ask ,what can I do !.!. but you already decided against the things that might help!.
You say you're approaching hopelessness !.!.!. if you don't get help !.!.!. you will reach that point!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You ask ,what can I do !.!. but you already decided against the things that might help!.
You say you're approaching hopelessness !.!.!. if you don't get help !.!.!. you will reach that point!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well, I'll try and make this simple!.
Life is full of options!. Everything that happens has a different option!.!. For example what you, what tv show etc!.
Even when something bad happens!.
Then you have the option to be a pessimist about it or an optimist and try and make the most of it or look on the brightside!.
For example say someone had depression!.
They could choose whether they wanted let it take over their life and isolate themselves, not get out and have fun, be angry and hate life!.
Or they can choose to fight in, get help and overcome it!.
Do you get me !?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Life is full of options!. Everything that happens has a different option!.!. For example what you, what tv show etc!.
Even when something bad happens!.
Then you have the option to be a pessimist about it or an optimist and try and make the most of it or look on the brightside!.
For example say someone had depression!.
They could choose whether they wanted let it take over their life and isolate themselves, not get out and have fun, be angry and hate life!.
Or they can choose to fight in, get help and overcome it!.
Do you get me !?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Turn to music!.
Start out with Box Car Racer!. Here's a link to a video from teh lead singer talking about some stuff!. If you have a moment, watch it!.
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=xdQwC2cro!.!.!.
We all hurt sometime, it's no reason to give up!. Find something to laugh at and join an internet forum, move on to an actual club for something!. Just don't give up!.
Hope that helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Start out with Box Car Racer!. Here's a link to a video from teh lead singer talking about some stuff!. If you have a moment, watch it!.
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=xdQwC2cro!.!.!.
We all hurt sometime, it's no reason to give up!. Find something to laugh at and join an internet forum, move on to an actual club for something!. Just don't give up!.
Hope that helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
don't let disappointment get to you!. the happiest country on earth earned that title b/c they don't expect much out of life!. they just coast and are more "content" than happy!.
count your blessings!. it's been said so many times that it's become white noise, but really, understand it and take it to heart!. it could be worse!. ppl really do live lives so awful that they would kill to be in your situation!.
come to terms with your **** and move on, in sum: do something about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
count your blessings!. it's been said so many times that it's become white noise, but really, understand it and take it to heart!. it could be worse!. ppl really do live lives so awful that they would kill to be in your situation!.
come to terms with your **** and move on, in sum: do something about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
hey, you're being too hard on yourself!. your 20 and should be carefree not 50 okay!. Be happy you're alive and you're not a looser! get a new clean look with maybe a new haircut and some new clothes of your choice!.!.!.!.i'd say maybe ruehl, hollister, abercrombie, armani exchange and so forth!.!.!.!.make new friends and be happay that in a year you'll be old enough to drink! life's to short too be sad and unhappy and feel all lonely!. just forget about everything for once and live for yourself and be a lil selfish!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Forget therapy!. It will just make things worse!.!.!.trust me!.
How about volunteering!? When you volunteer, most people don't judge you because they are so happy you are helping them!. Or volunteer with animals!. Animals don't judge and it will help you get some confidence!.
That is how I met most of my friends!. Otherwise, I was like youWww@Answer-Health@Com
How about volunteering!? When you volunteer, most people don't judge you because they are so happy you are helping them!. Or volunteer with animals!. Animals don't judge and it will help you get some confidence!.
That is how I met most of my friends!. Otherwise, I was like youWww@Answer-Health@Com
go to a safe place, calm, peaceful,and harmonic!.
meditate, you are here for a reason, and you are a beautiful human being!.
It sounds like you suffer from depression as well!. You need a vacation!. i know that at 20 we really don't have much money, take a bus, go online, and look around!. Go watch the sun go down at the beach or something!. Watch funny videos!. Laughing and freshair really are the best cure for anything!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
meditate, you are here for a reason, and you are a beautiful human being!.
It sounds like you suffer from depression as well!. You need a vacation!. i know that at 20 we really don't have much money, take a bus, go online, and look around!. Go watch the sun go down at the beach or something!. Watch funny videos!. Laughing and freshair really are the best cure for anything!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Perhaps this is a calling from God, sometimes situations are allowed to happen to open an opportunity to show himself to you!., try it!. and maybe he motivated me to respond to this question to tell you hopelessness does not exist when the lord is on your side!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I sometimes feel the same way!.!. You need to pick yourself up and gain some confidence in yourself!. That's all there is to it!. It won't be easy to motivate yourself but that can be done by watching movies, listening to music, reading!.!.!. etc!. You just need to find the right source of motivation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well since u recoganize ur problem, u've already recovered more than half way!. THe next step is stepping out and call up some friends!. Do a private, meet for coffee chat, then later as u get better, make it into a group party or wateva!. baby steps!. but u're halfway there though!.!. look on the bright side of life!. don't focus on ur problems!. think of the solutions, not the problems!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
get a hair cut, go tanning, get your teeth fixed, work out exercise get in shape, shop at american eagle!.!.ask one of the girls or guys to pick your clothing!.!.oh yea personal hygeine is very important!.!.get a sense of humor !.!.be yourself and I promise you will get laidWww@Answer-Health@Com
Pray to God!. Thats all I can say!. I know he is real!. I feel him in me when I am praying at curch!. Good luck and may the Lord bless you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Become an alcoholic!. Drinking may not solve your problems, but it'll help you forget them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
jump in the tub with a toaster!.
but dont!.
look into therapy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
but dont!.
look into therapy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i'm a loser too, can't help you muchWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm not sure!.!.!.you have now gotten me depressed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Get off the comp is the first thing you need to do!.!.!.
go out meet people!.!.!.
live life!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
go out meet people!.!.!.
live life!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
think that u are tired of ur situation, that u just don't want any more of this U ARE ******* TIRED OF ALL THESE, now just go on and live ur life like you want itWww@Answer-Health@Com
take this experience as hitting almost rock bottom emotionally and change!. go hang out at a coffee shop or a bookstore or record store!. go on campus and sit in the library!. get a job on campus or doing something you like that will cause you to see coworkers and people every day!.
learn the value of a dollar, volunteer!. go work at the humane society or help out at the local cancer society!. see how horrible the economy is today and be touched by people's stories!. go give blood!. there are always people at the blood bank and they will make you feel welcome!.
even go to craigslist and look on platonic relationships!. learn tennis or go golf or hang out with someone new in town!.
make plans for the holiday when everyone is ready to celebrate this great nation we live and go to the local fireworks or celebration!. being out will make you feel a little more welcome!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
learn the value of a dollar, volunteer!. go work at the humane society or help out at the local cancer society!. see how horrible the economy is today and be touched by people's stories!. go give blood!. there are always people at the blood bank and they will make you feel welcome!.
even go to craigslist and look on platonic relationships!. learn tennis or go golf or hang out with someone new in town!.
make plans for the holiday when everyone is ready to celebrate this great nation we live and go to the local fireworks or celebration!. being out will make you feel a little more welcome!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You can start by choosing to get off your pity pot!.!.!. or you can stay there and wallow!. Plenty of people have come from far worse backgrounds than yours, and made something of themselves!. Not necessarily become say, ultra rich; it might just be as simple as finally finding someone for them and marrying!.!.!. or standing up in front of a crowd and talking to them (public speaking is the number one fear)!.
You can also reduce your psoriasis by having weekly sunbed sessions and/or tanning outdoors in good weather!. One of my friends has done this and it reduced his psoriasis a lot!. His skin was far less itchy and less 'blemished'!.
But you ultimately have to decide you have a reason for living, even if you have no idea what that is right now!. Life IS a gift, not a right!. Believe it or not, you *did* ask to be born when in Spirit!. No one forced you to come here; no one forces you to have the viewpoint you hold about your life, but you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You can also reduce your psoriasis by having weekly sunbed sessions and/or tanning outdoors in good weather!. One of my friends has done this and it reduced his psoriasis a lot!. His skin was far less itchy and less 'blemished'!.
But you ultimately have to decide you have a reason for living, even if you have no idea what that is right now!. Life IS a gift, not a right!. Believe it or not, you *did* ask to be born when in Spirit!. No one forced you to come here; no one forces you to have the viewpoint you hold about your life, but you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm almost in an identical situation and here's what (honestly) helps me:
1!. Solitary entertainment (brain teasers, puzzles, etc!. )
2!. Paradoxically - acceptance!. i too feel screwed and the odds are nil that people would like me, so i carve an existence that minimizes dealing with people as much as possible (except a few trusted folks)!. i also accept that i have no romantic future!. Once i stop trying in that area, the less frustrating and disappointing it is!.
3!. Take the low road and secretly compare yourself favorably with others!. Example: If you have not totally messed up your life, think of those that have!.!.!.!.read not about glamorous, famous people but ordinary joes who have worse lives than you do!. (This is not to get conceited!.!.!.!.but to make things a little more even!. It sounds like you are hard enough on yourself, so find areas in which you think you excel!.!.!.!.the obvious that comes to mind is your writing ability!.)
4!. Find an online support group for the psoriasis (and seek medical attention)
5!. Know that there are other people who are frustrated when a problem is minimized!. If you ever get back into therapy, someone who can validate your feelings is far better than someone who just says "there's a lid for every pot" then assume you are crazy because you find that some people are superficial or only judge a book by its cover!.
6!. You are not alone with your "personality defect" insecurities!. While it is almost a household term to worry about one's physical appearance, being worried that one puts others off is murkier and unexplored territory!.!.!. you are not alone!.
7!. You are correct in your assessment of psych drugs (at least from this user's perspective)!. You may find books by Glenmullin or Breggin interesting!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. Solitary entertainment (brain teasers, puzzles, etc!. )
2!. Paradoxically - acceptance!. i too feel screwed and the odds are nil that people would like me, so i carve an existence that minimizes dealing with people as much as possible (except a few trusted folks)!. i also accept that i have no romantic future!. Once i stop trying in that area, the less frustrating and disappointing it is!.
3!. Take the low road and secretly compare yourself favorably with others!. Example: If you have not totally messed up your life, think of those that have!.!.!.!.read not about glamorous, famous people but ordinary joes who have worse lives than you do!. (This is not to get conceited!.!.!.!.but to make things a little more even!. It sounds like you are hard enough on yourself, so find areas in which you think you excel!.!.!.!.the obvious that comes to mind is your writing ability!.)
4!. Find an online support group for the psoriasis (and seek medical attention)
5!. Know that there are other people who are frustrated when a problem is minimized!. If you ever get back into therapy, someone who can validate your feelings is far better than someone who just says "there's a lid for every pot" then assume you are crazy because you find that some people are superficial or only judge a book by its cover!.
6!. You are not alone with your "personality defect" insecurities!. While it is almost a household term to worry about one's physical appearance, being worried that one puts others off is murkier and unexplored territory!.!.!. you are not alone!.
7!. You are correct in your assessment of psych drugs (at least from this user's perspective)!. You may find books by Glenmullin or Breggin interesting!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't feel bad some famous people have your same condition like Caridee English the cycle winner from America's Next Top Model, Benjamin Franklin, and Joseph Stalin!. Also remember none of is perfect, and sometimes you got to make the best with what you got!. Hey, and if you give yourself a chance you might find somebody who loves you for you, and you will feel better about yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Before you judge I'm just going to tell you now!.
I'm not some Jehovah's witnessing person trying to make you a Christian!.
All I'm saying is that God really helped me because I was in a situation VERY similar to yours!. I went through major depression, I didn't talk to anyone, I started cutting but not for attention because it was never anywhere someone could see!. I was truly and clinically depressed!.
I went to church and really listened!. I owe a lot to my youth group!.
They really got me to get close to God and it took a while but I slowly came back to normal!.
My siblings friends and parents all noticed a positive change and I am a very happy person now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm not some Jehovah's witnessing person trying to make you a Christian!.
All I'm saying is that God really helped me because I was in a situation VERY similar to yours!. I went through major depression, I didn't talk to anyone, I started cutting but not for attention because it was never anywhere someone could see!. I was truly and clinically depressed!.
I went to church and really listened!. I owe a lot to my youth group!.
They really got me to get close to God and it took a while but I slowly came back to normal!.
My siblings friends and parents all noticed a positive change and I am a very happy person now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
count your blessings= some people have the same problems as you, but have no legs to walk or arms to hug or eyes to see beauty= or ears to hear the music that surrounds you== I know it's easier said than done, but feel sorry for others who have no keyboard to vent= What do they do!? Maybe they holler out the window, or cry in the dark== maybe they just DEAl with it, like you should try and do== There is nothing I've seen in your question that should stop you from not wasting a second of your life== would think there are web sights for singles that will work for you and some lucky person== Go there and do that, We are praying for you to step aside from the hopelessness and join the fools parade were all in, it's not really as tough as you think==be cool and you will rule== This is not a pep talk, just the facts man===God bless us all=Www@Answer-Health@Com