Taking out depression on family members?!


Question: Taking out depression on family members!?
i'm eighteen years old and i live with my grandmother!. i dropped out of high school because of bullying/social anxiety/etc last year and i have literally been inside of my house almost 24/7 since then!. i started out happy, but i have slowly gone from sad, to very sad, to mildly depressed, and it isn't getting any better!.

i signed up for my ged, but besides that no one seems to want to help me learn to drive, take me to get a job, all the things i should be doing!. i'm not really in walking distance of anywhere and i don't have any money!. my parents coddled me up until two or three years ago and now they don't buy me the things i need, like new clothes!. i've outgrown all my clothes, and i'm gaining weight from being inside all the time!.

my dad lives close to me but not with me, and when he calls me to see how i am i usually can't help but be angry with him!. i'm curt with him on the phone, because i've asked him so many times to help me and he hasn't done anything!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Hi Libby,

Talk to people around you about how you feel!. Don't be afraid or feel embarrassed!. Maybe someone can help you that you don't realise!. If you don't try to get help, your depression, and your problems are likely to get worse!.
It's not your fault and you are not weird!. If people around you can't seem to help then call a helpline or go see a doctor!.
Things are unlikely to change if you don't make them, so try and get out of the house, go for a walk or do something you haven't done for a while!. Exercise really helps and will help many of your problems!.
Trust me, things seem impossibly hard now but they will get better!. You are so young and there are so many possibilities out there for you!. I bet you are a wonderful and amazing person- all the people I know who suffer from depression and/or anxiety and similar problems are really great people who find this world we live in hard to deal with because of the good things about them like honesty, integrity and sensitivity!.
Don't give up, things will change!.

I know exactly how you feel and send you the love of someone who understands!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

First of all, no one person on here or any one piece of advice can magically change everything for you!. But, you obviously want things to change, and that's a good start!. I don't know the details of your family life, or what's happened to you in the past, but the one person who can change your life is you!. It's horrible when you hate your life and you've done nothing to deserve it, you should not blame yourself for where you are, but you should take responsibility now for your future!. Do what you can to make a change, even if it's just one tiny little thing at a time!.

Get exercise, every day if you can, even if it's just walking, even if you really don't feel like it!. Go to your doctor and tell them how you feel!. Try to talk to your grandmother, or your parents if you can, explain how you feel!. Try to get out, anywhere, get out of the house!. Staying in constantly will make you feel worse!. It sounds like it's difficult for you to get a job, but do keep trying!. Having a reason to get up and out every day, and a purpose in life, even if it's just a temporary job, can make a real difference!.

Consider whether there's any possibility of moving somewhere else!. That probably seems like a huge thing, but staying where you can't get work, or socialise indefinitely is not going to help you!. If there's any possibility of seeing a therapist or counsellor, go for it!. If not, try & buy, or borrow from a library, a book on cognitive behavioural therapy, or other self-help books on depression!.

There are no easy answers for how you feel, or quick fixes, but you have to just keep trying & fighting, because it's your life, and no one else is going to fix it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I have totally gone through a very similar stage!. I have to say the depression got so bad I couldn't look in the mirror without crying!. That'swhen I decided to see a doctor!. They prescribed me an anti-depressent!. I have to say it's not for everyone but it sounds like you may want to lok into it to get you out of the stuck feeling your having!. You will feel a lot better!. And when you are getting out of this depressed hole you can think to get off the meds!. I used them for 2 years and then realized how to deal with my problems without meds!. So if they do help to get you up then go for it!. But know it's not something you will need forever!.Just temporary until you start to put your life back together!. Godd luck sweetie!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Libby,

The first thing you should do is talk with your family!. Tell them what you told us or let them read it!.

I can believe that you must be getting very depressed not leaving the house!. Depression is something that you can't will away!. It is not a sign of a weak minded person!. But in order for you to get the help you need you must ask for it!. Therapy is one way of getting the help!. Also medication!. That depends on how you feel about meds!. They all have side effects and it may take some time to find the right one!. By talking to your family they can help you get to a doctor and together you all can find out what will work best!.

Just start out slow and try and be as calm as possible!. Tell them you would like to put a stop to your fears and depression before it gets any worse!. Maybe even an email might work!. But you are the only one that can get the ball rolling!.

Take and don't give up!

CellaWww@Answer-Health@Com





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