Is she a twisted abuser or am I just paranoid??!
Question: Is she a twisted abuser or am I just paranoid!?!?
I been with girl for 8yrs we have 2daughters!. Something has never quite seemed right, I have suspicions that our youngest is not mine, my parents did too!. She tells me that everythings in my head all time!. Her sons dad has no contact and she tells me he's messed up too!. I have just found out I have STD from her and the clues of cheating are everywhere!. I made it clear I think this and now her best friend is doing same to me, I do all housework and she stays out with kids all day!. I think she's been sleeping with this guy and using me to look after her kids all the way through, nothing that happens seems to add up and she always says everythings in my imagination!. It seems like her whole family are in on it, like its a conspiracy - I think it may be at a dangerous level!. Is she doing this on purpose!? She always says she can't remember things and even said she knows how to manipulate me to her friend in front of me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Oh, my God, that's terrible! My ex-husband used to do the same thing - tell me I was paranoid and that everything was all my fault!. He took no responsibility for his actions and it was all a head game!. This is what DV abusers do to people!. She could have Anti-Social Personality Disorder or Narcissistic Personality Disorder!. Go to the library and get books about domestic violence!. There are tons of little tricks they use and the're written down in books!. Also going to domestic violence support groups is a good idea, but the're usually just for women!. You could probably find one for men!. And get all the books you can!. Find out about personality disorders!. What was her life like when she was a child, how does she feel about her parents!? Trust your instincts because they are probably trying to tell you something!. I hope it turns out well for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you can get a dna testing done to verify paternity and for the other stuff you need to make those decisions yourself!. I personally wouldn't stay with someone I don't trust 100% and you don't trust her!. She has also not done anything to ease your concerns so that is a double whammy!. You need to remember that someone who really loves you will bend over backwards to avoid hurting you!. It's your life, you need to decide for yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know it's painful for you to have invested eight years in this relationship and to have so many doubts but I think you have them for good reasons!. If you've been faithful to her during this time and have all of a sudden developed an STD, there's little doubt who you got it from!. A DNA test will answer your paternity questions!. I think you've answered many of your own questions!. I wish you luck in searching your heart for the right thing to do for your own happiness!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
wow!.!.!. listen!.!.!. to the cheater !.!. she is never going to admit it!. Instead look for times when she might be on her phone and strategically put a tape recorder on in the bedroom etc!.!.!. where ever she tends to take phone calls!. Expecially if you are leaving for work etc!.!. to cheat you still need to communicate with the person you are cheating with!. There is a small percentage chance it is paranoia!. I think you need to do this to prove it to yourself!. Im not a cheater and Ive joked around about the signif other in front of him not thinking anything of it!. Let me know how it goes!. Women that cheat are insecure and looking for love, they need to prove they are still young and guys still want them!. Im a secure female and I cant stand being around women that are constantly craveing attention!. It would also be a good idea to look on sites like!.
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There is a lot going on here and whether your girlfriend is a "twisted abuser" or whether you're "just paranoid" can't easily be answered from the details you've provided!.
If you think that a child you've had with your girlfriend (you didn't write "wife") isn't yours, you should have the child's DNA tested!. If you think that your girlfriend is being unfaithful and you know you haven't been unfaithful where you could have contracted an STD from someone, you should stop having sex with her and get out of that relationship!.
You can't be suffering from paranoia if you've contracted an STD and you're in a monogamous relationship with your girlfriend!.
Stop being a victim and actively do something about your situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you think that a child you've had with your girlfriend (you didn't write "wife") isn't yours, you should have the child's DNA tested!. If you think that your girlfriend is being unfaithful and you know you haven't been unfaithful where you could have contracted an STD from someone, you should stop having sex with her and get out of that relationship!.
You can't be suffering from paranoia if you've contracted an STD and you're in a monogamous relationship with your girlfriend!.
Stop being a victim and actively do something about your situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com