Any former/current alcoholics dare to try and explain this condition to me?!


Question: Any former/current alcoholics dare to try and explain this condition to me!?
My mom is 64 years old, and has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember (I am 32)!. It has gotten worse over the last 15 years or so!. She is what you would call a "mean drunk"!. She gets drunk at night (She is wonderful during the day!) and sometimes starts fights/ arguments!. Recently, (she lives with my sis and her hubby) she started a fight with my sis's hubby, and caused a huge scene in front of the neighbors, called CPS on stuff that wasnt true, etc!. She called me, and was drunk, and was hateful to me for whatever reason!. Anyway, I guess I am just trying to understand her, I dont want to hate her!. She has cut herself off from me, for no reason whatsoever!. Why do alcoholics behave this way, and how should I react!? Oh, and by the way, she WONT get help, so that is out of the question!. She is mostly hurting the grandbabies who love her so dearly!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
It's really hard to answer this question as many of the things we do due to our alcohol abuse is without reason!. The behavior towards you may be due to several things!. She may feel guilty about her behavior in front of you more than others, or it could be the opposite- she may hold some resentment against you (this could be over something real or something she only percieved to happen)!.!.!.!. imo the best thing you can probably do- and I know this sounds bad- but you and your family are loving her to death- literally- until she is cut off, she has no reason to change!. She doesn't have any consequences- so there is no reason for her to seek help or look for another way to live-
so until she is held accountable don't expect things to improve- This is what my family had to do with me- it was very hard for them to not bail me out of the predicaments I got myself into - and things did get worse before they got better- but the good thing is that I did get better- I've been clean and sober for 20 months and 1 day and I couldn't tell you how greatful I am that they did what they did!.!.!. as for the grandkids- if it's hurting them then why are they still part of the equation- that may be something she's willing to change for- get help or you can't be around the kids- it's not fair to them to suffer just because she won't try something differentWww@Answer-Health@Com

she needs to talk to someone, something is eating her up inside!. keep her away from the little ones if you want them having issues or being like grandma then by all means keep em with the alcoholic!. but yea i mean that's all i could think of!. good luck to you!! :) go talk to a professional about this they will know whats going on and threes plenty of books you can find about this matter!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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