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Question: Help!?! please!?
i do not know whatt to do i have very high anxitey and this guy at my school he has been my friend for a long time but all of a sudden he has just started hitting me punching me jumping on me he is spose to be mu friend and i dont know weather to hit out or leave it im scared if i hit someone they might die because my anxitey makes me feel that was and i have hard times working out waht to do with these idiot's i could take him out with the boxing and muay thai ive learnt but im scared im not scared of him im scared he could dieWww@Answer-Health@Com


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See anxiety treatments, at ezy build (below) in section 6!. Set yourself a specific time period for worrying about anything, (say; around three quarters of an hour, possibly when you get home, or after your evening meal, but not too close to bedtime) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even entertain the thought of worrying again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life!.

You will have had your "worry time" for the day, and can just write down any more thoughts that come to mind, and say to yourself: "Well, I'll just have to worry about that tomorrow, won't I!?"!. It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately!.

When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!.

Practice one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Alternatively, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you!. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind)!. Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I sometimes suffer from anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself!." Neurofeedback treatment for anxiety is increasingly becoming available!. Herbal remedies, such as valerian, (which is not for use if depression is also present) passionflower, St!.John's wort, are often effective, but the idea is (as with anxiolytic medication) to use them like water wings, or training wheels on a bicycle, providing initial support, and giving time for other treatments, such as therapy, and relaxation techniques, to take effect!.

(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case)!.

Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!.

Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times: "A thousand and one; a thousand and two!.!.!. " and so on, to a thousand and twenty!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.

Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!.

I also use it prior to my chosen relaxation technique, after lights out, at night!. For more about Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing therapy, showing recommendations by those who have used it, including a professional psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience in that field, see sections 33 - 34, at ezy-build!. She was skeptical, at first, and I remained unconvinced, until trying it, and now I use it twice daily, including after lights out, at night!.

I'll let the others here advise you about your friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Tell this guy you don't want him to keep doing things you don't like!.

!.!.!.If he keeps doing them he clearly isn't your friend!.

Then it's time to open up a can of the old Thailand Whoop-a$$!.

STOP *leg sweep* JUMPING ON *punch* ME!

Also i would like to point out that to kill somebody via a punch you must be VERY strong and i do not believe you are superhuman, however, if you believe you are superhuman i suggest you talk to a specialist and bring your cape!.

!.!.!.Muhammad Ali never managed to kill anyone!. I hear he could punch pretty well!.

!.!.!.Superman didn't either!. So hey!. Why are you so much better than Superman!?!Www@Answer-Health@Com

he wouldnt die, you should tlk to some one you trust lik another friend, a older brother r sister or even a parent or teacher, tell them whats happening and ho you feel about the situ, if you feel confident about it you could even consult your friend yourself but bring another frien along so that he cant hit you!. violence solves nothing


hope this helps lots,
Good Luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

you need to tell him to chill out, and that you dont want to fight!.
but i can tell you from experience that your anxiety will take over once you are fighting, and you probably really will hurt the guy!.
if he keeps doing it, then beat the $hit outta him, not like you didnt warn him!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i think, in order not to act out on your anxiety you should first speak to a teacher or guidance counselor and have them document this problem ur having with this person, have them talk to him about it!. Bullying is not tolerated in most schools so make sure u talk to someone about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Sweep the leg!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Try and talk to him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Talk to him if he start's hitting you warn him you don't want to hit him because you are afraid of your anxiety hurting/killing him!. However in a court of law if he starts hitting you etc and you hit him you wont be prosecuted as its self defense!. Possibly after you warn him if he carry's on just grap his arm/leg and just do a singe punch to the stomach to try and wind him and just walk away before your anxiety takes over if you want me to help you settle this email me at ajdogwalking@fsmail!.net possibly if he starts hitting you still just steer clear of him for as long as you can possibly few days and tell him hes upsetting you with the violenceWww@Answer-Health@Com

You could try and talk to him as others have stated however, jerks have the least ability to listen!. How well do you know muay thai!? I took karate and it's primarily a form of defense not offense!. If you know how to exercise the defense aspects of this art form then use it!. You don't have to knock a persons block off to make your point!. You should be able to block attacks as well as deliver with absolute control both in force and area of contact!. Make this person the object of his own behavior!. I'm sure you've seen Jackie Chan movies!. He can cause a person to injure themselves without even touching them!. This is the 'art' of the defense mechanism!. In all likely hood this dude is just trying to get your goat, to see what you know or have learned!. If you're so confident in your abilities to extinguish this jerk from his existence, you should be even more confident in your ability to defend yourself without using deadly force!. Again, this is the art of the 'dance'!. Run circles around him so to speak without actually making physical contact!. By doing this and exercising self control in your defense, verbally warn him that, "hey, I don't know if you're really trying to hurt me or if you're just messing around but I grow weary of it; and I will knock you out if I have to"!. You have then taken culpability off of yourself and anything beyond that is his own fault!. Most laws will back that statement up!. You warned him, he continued; you had no choice!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com





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